Uninvited…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hahha are you serious??? You were trying to change the plan from a single adult houseguest to add multiple teenage houseguests? Holy crap. You are waaayyyy out of line

They’re basically adults not infants.

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Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

It was a rude thing to ask.

Maybe the cousin found it rude and off putting and decided they didn’t want a visit from someone rude.

It’s family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: My cousin said they are “welcome anytime”. This trip was supposed to originally be just me, and I just asked if they can come and now she wants to back out of entire hosting me too. It was just supposed to me at first but they found cheap tickets. I ASKED her if it ok if they come. She could have ssid No instead of canceling me too.

You have no good sense. You don’t “ask” things like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

It was a rude thing to ask.

Maybe the cousin found it rude and off putting and decided they didn’t want a visit from someone rude.

It’s family.

So?

[Anonymous]

Assuming this isn’t a troll…

The visit is a month from now.

Have you even considered that she might have gotten a bad diagnosis or something that she isn’t ready to share and this isn’t about the teens?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

It was a rude thing to ask.

Maybe the cousin found it rude and off putting and decided they didn’t want a visit from someone rude.

It’s family.

So?

When did people stop allowing family over? It seems today that no one is welcome in homes. I remember when people celebrated being around family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

It was a rude thing to ask.

Maybe the cousin found it rude and off putting and decided they didn’t want a visit from someone rude.

It’s family.

So?

When did people stop allowing family over? It seems today that no one is welcome in homes. I remember when people celebrated being around family.

This isn't having family over for dinner. This is hosting people for an extended time, which is a lot more work. And it's possible that something happened (ahealth issue, for example) that changed the calculus. Or your request was pusher or more preemptory than you thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

It was a rude thing to ask.

Maybe the cousin found it rude and off putting and decided they didn’t want a visit from someone rude.

It’s family.

So what?! It’s still changing the dynamic. Just no, you rude, selfish jerk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

It was a rude thing to ask.

Maybe the cousin found it rude and off putting and decided they didn’t want a visit from someone rude.

It’s family.

So?

When did people stop allowing family over? It seems today that no one is welcome in homes. I remember when people celebrated being around family.

Since when does family act entitled, rude, selfish and ungrateful? That is how you are acting to expect to change the plan and have your host drop everything to serve your whim.

[Anonymous]

"It's family" is the motto of selfish boundary-tramplers. Yes it's rude to ask that. Multiple teenagers, oy. It changes the feel of the visit dramatically and is a huge, huge increase in work for the host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: My cousin said they are “welcome anytime”. This trip was supposed to originally be just me, and I just asked if they can come and now she wants to back out of entire hosting me too. It was just supposed to me at first but they found cheap tickets. I ASKED her if it ok if they come. She could have ssid No instead of canceling me too.

It is rude to invite guests to another person's home or event. So so rude.

[Anonymous]

It’s also rude to entirely cancel on short notice. The least cousin can do is pay for flight ticket that OP purchased.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

Or maybe she knows OP all too well! “But they can sleep on the floor” or”what if one of them stays with you and I stay in a hotel with the other one”

Sometimes I have low tolerance for BS or just know that this person will not relent/add more trouble and then I say heck it and would rather cancel the thing altogether

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.

Or maybe she knows OP all too well! “But they can sleep on the floor” or”what if one of them stays with you and I stay in a hotel with the other one”

Sometimes I have low tolerance for BS or just know that this person will not relent/add more trouble and then I say heck it and would rather cancel the thing altogether

+1 OP is the type of person who is selfish and the cousin already sees where it is going.
A people pleaser would accept OP’s “ask”, but I wouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

My best friend is visiting me for a weekend at a very inconvenient time. I don’t mind because I know how low maintenance she is, I can hand her the keys to my Jeep and send her off to the beach on her own for a few hours, she’ll help cook, clean up after herself, run the laundry, etc. If this was one of the trips where she asked to bring one of her friends with her, I’d decline. I don’t have the mental capacity with everything else going on to deal with an unknown.