Swimming Pool Issue

[oldtownmom85]

Anonymous wrote:LOL shes a lune and should move away from the pool. Was she in a swimsuit

No she wasn’t-interesting comment. She was in capri pants and a light sweater with cute sandals

[oldtownmom85]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you really need a DCUM thread to tell you who's wrong here? The guest sounds belligerent. Was she drunk?

I would not invite her to my home again.

No she wasn’t….or didn’t appear to be drunk but yes belligerent.

[Anonymous]

oldtownmom85 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL shes a lune and should move away from the pool. Was she in a swimsuit

No she wasn’t-interesting comment. She was in capri pants and a light sweater with cute sandals

who goes to a pool party and stands next to the pool in non swimwear and yell at people getting them wet. how is she otherwise is this typical self centered behaviors?

[oldtownmom85]

Anonymous wrote:

oldtownmom85 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL shes a lune and should move away from the pool. Was she in a swimsuit

No she wasn’t-interesting comment. She was in capri pants and a light sweater with cute sandals

who goes to a pool party and stands next to the pool in non swimwear and yell at people getting them wet. how is she otherwise is this typical self centered behaviors?

I haven’t had too many interactions with her. She is married to my husbands high school friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is your guest. You are wrong.

She was rude and she was wrong. You don't make a bunch of party-goers stop because one person is being nasty.

[Anonymous]

oldtownmom85 wrote:Hi

So DH and I had a pool party this past weekend. We invited some of our friends and their kids along with our college aged son and his friends.

So the kids set up a water volleyball net in the pool and started playing. Ages were my son who is 21 down to 12.

So as you play water volleyball, you will splash and create waves. I think this is normal.

Well one of DH's friends wives did not like it and stood up and proceeded to yell at my son and several kids in the pool to stop splashing. I ignored it.

Kids continued to play and splashing ensued again. And again the wife stood up and said "you need to stop splashing or the game will stop."

So at this point, I needed to step in as it is my pool and my guests. I quietly said to her "If the splashing bothers you, please sit at the other end of the pool where they aren't playing. There is a table there to sit at."

Apparently that was wrong because she said "Why do I need to leave when they are clearly in the wrong?" I said "well they aren't splashing in the deep end." And left it at that. Her husband came over to talk to her but you could tell she was not having it.

Who was wrong here?

Obviously, she was. What a jerk. That would be the last time she was invited to my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is your guest. You are wrong.

No. The guest was wrong. Unless there is a life or death emergency there is no excuse for taking over at your host's
house. The guest should have spoken to OP and OP could then have directed her to a spot where she would not have been splashed. The guest, apparently, is also a moron as this was a pool party!

[Anonymous]

Oh no, capri pants? Now everyone will come for her. People who have such bad fashion sense are not going to get the benefit of the doubt here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do this at a private home, but I yell at kids at our community pool all the time. They squirt their giant water guns outside of the pool and or make really bad throws with balls full of water. Of course they are totally unsupervised so I tell them to knock it off and get lost.

A lifeguard is in charge, Not you. Kids play in a pool and splash water and shoot water guns. It is not your place to correct any child other than your own. Don't go to a pool if you don't want to get wet. This is common sense so try using yours.

[Anonymous]

She was wrong. You had somewhere for her to sit to not get wet. It’s ridiculous to go to a pool party and expect that you won’t get wet.

[Anonymous]

OP: You missed your chance here. She would be perfect as a front yard ornament who could yell at kids to keep off the grass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do this at a private home, but I yell at kids at our community pool all the time. They squirt their giant water guns outside of the pool and or make really bad throws with balls full of water. Of course they are totally unsupervised so I tell them to knock it off and get lost.

How is this your place?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

oldtownmom85 wrote:Op here-Thanks for the feedback. I guess my other issue here is that she was yelling at kids other than hers-not her place in my opinion.

That's true and she sounds awful, but you spoke to her like she was a child.

+1. Guest was very wrong, but OP's wording could have been kinder. It sounds passive-aggressive regardless of whether these guests could see the other table.

OP--You were annoyed and it shows in the language you used. Since this is/was a friend, and I assume you value this friendship(?), you could have been a little more tactful.

[Anonymous]

Great party.

[Anonymous]

Host : Be polite. Apologize and help her move to another table. Bring her a drink.

Guest : Be polite. Move.

Kids : Be polite. Request and help her move.

Common sense : Don't invite group of young adults (21 isn't a kid by any definition) and families together. Have your party one weekend and help young adults organize their own on another weekend.