Swimming Pool Issue

[oldtownmom85]

Hi

So DH and I had a pool party this past weekend. We invited some of our friends and their kids along with our college aged son and his friends.

So the kids set up a water volleyball net in the pool and started playing. Ages were my son who is 21 down to 12.

So as you play water volleyball, you will splash and create waves. I think this is normal.

Well one of DH's friends wives did not like it and stood up and proceeded to yell at my son and several kids in the pool to stop splashing. I ignored it.

Kids continued to play and splashing ensued again. And again the wife stood up and said "you need to stop splashing or the game will stop."

So at this point, I needed to step in as it is my pool and my guests. I quietly said to her "If the splashing bothers you, please sit at the other end of the pool where they aren't playing. There is a table there to sit at."

Apparently that was wrong because she said "Why do I need to leave when they are clearly in the wrong?" I said "well they aren't splashing in the deep end." And left it at that. Her husband came over to talk to her but you could tell she was not having it.

Who was wrong here?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure I'd post this much detail with your user name.

[Anonymous]

I would have maybe gone closer to her and offered to sit with her. And or even let her go inside. Definitely acknowledge how rowdy the game could get, but also make an effort to help your guest feel comfortable.

She was clearly upset about getting wet. Is that unreasonable at a pool party? Yes I think so.

So you weren't wrong, but I maybe would have helped guide her out of the splash zone a bit and assured her the game would be over in 15 minutes or so.

[Anonymous]

She is your guest. You are wrong.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I would have said to the adults "I'm so glad the kids are having fun- but I don't want you to get wet so lets move to another table- I'll help move your drinks, etc".

[oldtownmom85]

Op here-Thanks for the feedback. I guess my other issue here is that she was yelling at kids other than hers-not her place in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

oldtownmom85 wrote:Op here-Thanks for the feedback. I guess my other issue here is that she was yelling at kids other than hers-not her place in my opinion.

That's true and she sounds awful, but you spoke to her like she was a child.

[Anonymous]

If you’re at a pool, private OR public and don’t want to get wet sit far away. Otherwise you’re being ridiculous. It’s a pool. OP your guest was out of line.

[Anonymous]

In don’t think OP did anything wrong. The woman had no manners. She was an invited guest and in was not in her place to say anything. She could have asked the host what she should do but it’s a pool party! And the kids were doing what u so at pool parties.

OP, I hope you don’t ever have to invite her again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I would have said to the adults "I'm so glad the kids are having fun- but I don't want you to get wet so lets move to another table- I'll help move your drinks, etc".

This is what I would have done too. Kids playing in a pool will splash. That's life. Don't go to a pool party and expect not to get wet.

[oldtownmom85]

Anonymous wrote:

oldtownmom85 wrote:Op here-Thanks for the feedback. I guess my other issue here is that she was yelling at kids other than hers-not her place in my opinion.

That's true and she sounds awful, but you spoke to her like she was a child.

I didn’t talk down-you couldn’t see the other table…there are trees…it’s a Lima bean pool

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do this at a private home, but I yell at kids at our community pool all the time. They squirt their giant water guns outside of the pool and or make really bad throws with balls full of water. Of course they are totally unsupervised so I tell them to knock it off and get lost.

[Anonymous]

LOL shes a lune and should move away from the pool. Was she in a swimsuit

[Anonymous]

oldtownmom85 wrote:Op here-Thanks for the feedback. I guess my other issue here is that she was yelling at kids other than hers-not her place in my opinion.

I think you will find DCUM get themselves into a twist trying to castigate you for challenging a guest while also getting up in arms about the guest correcting other people's children.

Your child guests did nothing wrong by playing in the pool. If this lady didn't like it, she could have politely ASKED THEM to splash less, move, etc. She could also have moved to a different area, brought the issue to your attention, simply left the party for a less splashy time or whatever. Her decision was aggressive, and it would have been rather poor hostess behavior in my opinion to allow a guest to berate another guest without intervening as you did. It sounds like you were polite, but I definitely would not invite her again if possible.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you really need a DCUM thread to tell you who's wrong here? The guest sounds belligerent. Was she drunk?

I would not invite her to my home again.