10 yo asking for makeup

[Anonymous]

My 11-year-old is interested and I let her buy an eye shadow palate at Target but she had to pay for it. She is not allowed to wear it to school and would honestly never think of wearing it out to a sports event or something. She just likes to play with it, she also likes doing her nails. I wear minimal makeup but agree with PP that it is an older form of dress up.

She is friends with a boy in her class who wears full-on makeup to his basketball games and other activities, like a Ziggy Stardust kind of thing sometimes. When she has playdates over there he puts makeup on her.

[Anonymous]

For most girls this would be a really hard pass and a NO. Unless your 10-year old is trans/non-binary, then makeup is OK as it is gender-affirming for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 11-year-old is interested and I let her buy an eye shadow palate at Target but she had to pay for it. She is not allowed to wear it to school and would honestly never think of wearing it out to a sports event or something. She just likes to play with it, she also likes doing her nails. I wear minimal makeup but agree with PP that it is an older form of dress up.

She is friends with a boy in her class who wears full-on makeup to his basketball games and other activities, like a Ziggy Stardust kind of thing sometimes. When she has playdates over there he puts makeup on her.

That’s wonderful !

[Anonymous]

Take her to Sephora. My rule was no make up at school in grade school, but once in middle school it was up to them. But at 10 could play around at home with it

[Anonymous]

Get her involved in team sports- emphasize exercise for healthy skin and body. I second the buying skin care stuff- cleansing, masques, etc. let her enjoy a headband while using and a cute bag to put it in. A lightly tinted lip balm is okay, too.

[Anonymous]

No way I would let my 10 year-old DD wear makeup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 11-year-old is interested and I let her buy an eye shadow palate at Target but she had to pay for it. She is not allowed to wear it to school and would honestly never think of wearing it out to a sports event or something. She just likes to play with it, she also likes doing her nails. I wear minimal makeup but agree with PP that it is an older form of dress up.

She is friends with a boy in her class who wears full-on makeup to his basketball games and other activities, like a Ziggy Stardust kind of thing sometimes. When she has playdates over there he puts makeup on her.

That’s wonderful !

PP here - I agree! He is a great kid and is well-liked, kids enjoy the makeup. Such a difference from when I grew up!

[Anonymous]

I have boys that haven’t asked about makeup so admittedly I haven’t thought about this at all before this post. Just wondering why it’s a hard no? Even just a tinted lip balm? Isn’t it a way of expressing yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have boys that haven’t asked about makeup so admittedly I haven’t thought about this at all before this post. Just wondering why it’s a hard no? Even just a tinted lip balm? Isn’t it a way of expressing yourself?

It is viewed as sexualizing a pre-pubescent girl. Also, DCUM moms consider make-up on a young girl a class signifier. Same with temporary hair color unless it’s for a costume.

[Anonymous]

My 6th grader (age 11) is fully into skin care during the school week and makeup for special events/weekends. She’s a huge fan of Glossier and does research on skin care…. I barely wear makeup and admittedly she owns more than I do and seems better at applying it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have boys that haven’t asked about makeup so admittedly I haven’t thought about this at all before this post. Just wondering why it’s a hard no? Even just a tinted lip balm? Isn’t it a way of expressing yourself?

It is viewed as sexualizing a pre-pubescent girl. Also, DCUM moms consider make-up on a young girl a class signifier. Same with temporary hair color unless it’s for a costume.

Not OK for girls, except it is ok for a 10 year-old trans / non-binary child.

[Anonymous]

Just get her a blush and colored lipgloss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have boys that haven’t asked about makeup so admittedly I haven’t thought about this at all before this post. Just wondering why it’s a hard no? Even just a tinted lip balm? Isn’t it a way of expressing yourself?

It is viewed as sexualizing a pre-pubescent girl. Also, DCUM moms consider make-up on a young girl a class signifier. Same with temporary hair color unless it’s for a costume.

I’m the OP. Funny you mention hair color… I did let my daughter color her hair a bright color. We did streaks. For some reason, I had different feelings about make up. My daughter ended up walking to the drug store yesterday and buying a lip gloss that was similar to her lip color. It really does seem like dress up. The PPs are right, I think. I told her not to wear it to school.