Struggling with guilt over indifference towards my mother

[Anonymous]

Don’t bother trying to get her to follow the doctors orders, make better choices, etc. It’s not your job. Since you feel indifferent to your mother (I can’t imagine) maybe you should just visit when you can. Bring the kids, maybe some takeout food, make pleasant talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No advice but I get it. My parents aren’t together but I have a close relationship with my dad and a polite but very distant relationship with my mom resulting from years and years of horrible stuff on her part that has caused her to burn nearly all her bridges in life. Anyway, as my parents age and face serious health issues I am completely despondent thinking about my dad’s decline and eventual death, but honestly feel very little when it comes to my mom. I dont want bad things to come to her, I just feel….fairly indifferent. And I feel bad about that. But I also know it’s the natural consequence of her abusive behaviour for years.

This is my situation, too, although my parents are still married, and this is exactly how I feel, too (NP). Thank you for sharing.