Twins

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, but since fraternal twins are as similar as any other set of siblings, I don't think the answer for them is interesting.

Hi! Fraternal twin here. We are not as similar as any other set of siblings. We were in the womb together and we grew up together and had a different sense of our twin sibling because we shared every moment on earth with them. You get it if you get it (you clearly don’t), but I’m calling this out because your interjecting is really odd and annoying.

[Anonymous]

Not PP but they aren't wrong, genetically fraternals are only as similar as regular siblings. Often siblings who are an year apart, also have similar life experiences so not much difference there either. Womb activity is similar but different sacs so different experiences. In same womb, one can develop well or survive while other develops complications or die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not PP but they aren't wrong, genetically fraternals are only as similar as regular siblings. Often siblings who are a year apart, also have similar life experiences so not much difference there either. Womb activity is similar but different sacs so different experiences. In same womb, one can develop well or survive while other develops complications or die.

I have both a fraternal twin and a regular sibling and the experience is different. Having a sibling a few years younger or older is different. Birth order makes a huge difference in people’s lives as does your experience of growing up with someone who has the same level of consciousness as you during your early years. Again, you get it if you get it. And again, you clearly don’t.

[Anonymous]

My teenage b/g twin niece/nephew are VERY different kids. They don't even look alike! Both terrific, but their brains works very differently. Even as just siblings they are incredibly different. They get along pretty well though, which is really nice to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, but since fraternal twins are as similar as any other set of siblings, I don't think the answer for them is interesting.

Hi! Fraternal twin here. We are not as similar as any other set of siblings. We were in the womb together and we grew up together and had a different sense of our twin sibling because we shared every moment on earth with them. You get it if you get it (you clearly don’t), but I’m calling this out because your interjecting is really odd and annoying.

I have fraternal twins and there is no doubt that having a twin has affected them in both positive and a few negative ways, no matter how much we tried to let each one have their own identity.

Definitely an impact made also by how the world views them in their younger years. "The twins!" always, even though we ourselves never referred to them that way.

No if you are just talking about genetic impacts of being an identical twin, of course that is not a factor with fraternal twins.

[Anonymous]

You aren't twins if you aren't twins

[Anonymous]

I have uncles who are twins. They are so dissimilar that one was at a dinner party and when another guest heard his name, he asked if he was related to Monsignor xxx (his twin). He answered "yes" and the dinner guest asked "is he your uncle?"

[Anonymous]

I have fraternal twins and while the experience isn't as unique as having an identical twins sibling it's still fairly different than having any other sibling.
I have a brother who is only 14 months younger than I am but we were always viewed as two distinct people. We were a grade apart in school. No-one referred to us
as a unit.
Twins have a slightly different childhood. They are always compared to each other. They go through every milestone together. People refer to them as a unit.
I think fraternal twin parents tend to treat them as any two siblings (at least I did) but the outside world loves to remind us that they're twins whenever they can.

My are g/b and are pretty similar (age 17). Fairly athletic, decently smart, probably right in the middle between introvert and extrovert.
My daughter is a bit more of a type A; my son is more type B. He is more social and "popular", she has a quieter social life and a few good friends.
We put them in different classes since age 4 and now in high school they attend different schools.
They're fundamentally each other's best friends but they don't spend a whole lot of time together on a daily basis.

[Anonymous]

I have identical twin girls who are now 19. They used to only play with each other and preferred to sleep wrapped up together in the same bed even though they had separate rooms. They would take turns sleeping together in each other's room .Middle school changed them. One changed her appearance drastically and made her own friends, was the life of the party and did AS Cheer. My other DD kinda drifted for a while and they fought. But, at 16, they changed and kinda each found their niche and went to separate school. My athletic extrovert went to her home school and cheers there. The other artsy, punk rock DD went to a magnet and has her own life. Their friends do not mix but when they are alone at home, I will find them curled up on the couch together watching a movie, playing a game or baking brownies.

[Anonymous]

Did you experience lower or higher sibling rivalry among twins?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you experience lower or higher sibling rivalry among twins?

My 20 year old recently said to me (somewhat jokingly) that it’s her life’s mission to one up her brother at all times. I was shocked. I don’t think he feels that competitive with her but maybe he is in a different way. My Ds is a very strong student and somewhat shy and awkward and my DD also has good grades but not nearly as high as him but she’s super outgoing and has tons of social presence and friends. She’s jealous of his grades and he’s jealous of her social personality.

They actually go to the same college but in different majors so at least they don’t get competitive about actual grades in classes.

[Anonymous]

I have identicals. They're alike in a lot of aspects but one is extroverted and the other introverted. The introvert has one friend and it's her sister.
The extrovert - many many friends.
And, they are each other's bff.
One is married. When the other comes to visit the husband gets the couch.

[Anonymous]

I have identical twin ACs. One is an ordinary young man, the other has a comically large black tophat, curly mustache, and goatee. Whenever I ask him to come home for Thanksgiving he threatens to aim his Death Ray at the cranberry sauce and starts cackling. Other son is great though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not PP but they aren't wrong, genetically fraternals are only as similar as regular siblings. Often siblings who are an year apart, also have similar life experiences so not much difference there either. Womb activity is similar but different sacs so different experiences. In same womb, one can develop well or survive while other develops complications or die.

So there are two jerks on this h thread than one - got it.

[Anonymous]

My kids are Irish twins (and in the same grade). Very different people but with similarities the rest of us can see, even if they can't.