What am I going to do about my mother?

[Anonymous]

OP, have you spoken with your father about this? Can you work with him to make a plan for when he can't fully care for her (which may happen well before he dies)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you spoken with your father about this? Can you work with him to make a plan for when he can't fully care for her (which may happen well before he dies)?

Yes - he is resistant to making a concrete plan to sell something and buy a place near me. He says if he goes I will have to hire her a constant companion and that he is leaving money for me to do so.

[Anonymous]

If your Dad has no immediate concerns, this is not something to panic over today. Chances are if your Dad starts to decline, your mom will slowly be less dependent. I would start contacting local resources (to them) on some day when you have time and are in the mood. It will make you feel more at ease.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your Dad has no immediate concerns, this is not something to panic over today. Chances are if your Dad starts to decline, your mom will slowly be less dependent. I would start contacting local resources (to them) on some day when you have time and are in the mood. It will make you feel more at ease.

Op - dad has mild copd so there are some concerns.
The issue with my mom is she needs to be with someone 24/7 from a mental health perspective, even pinning the physical issues for a second

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I had a similarly problematic mother and luckily she went first. She was across the globe as well. Hopefully your dad is living healthy and trying to hang on as long as possible.

If not what is she gonna do, she will find someone else to claw into with her anxieties, or maybe she will surprise everyone by miraculously surviving alone!