What might be the best next steps here?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| I don't have much to add to the many thoughtful responses here, but just want to say, OP, that you are a kind and loving DIL. I hope that is appreciated, especially by your DH. Wishing you the best outcome in a difficult situation. |
Anonymous
| PP's who are familiar with CCRC's, do any of you have any experience with Riderwood in Maryland, and any of its positives and negatives? |
Anonymous
(I'm not OP, but my IL's are in a similar place and were looking at that place.) |
Anonymous
| AS an elder care lawyer here kept emphasizing in her presentation, it is all in the contract!! So it may be worth a read over with a lawyer to be sure you have the financial details, medical services and options on how services are done — moving the person around or bringing more services to them as possible clearly understood. It is pages and pages of fine print and quite possible an elderly person will see what they want to. DO NOT RELY only on what the marketing person presents. Some places will take your name on a waiting list for a fee. Also understand that they evaluate you to see if you have the functioning level needed to be in IL, Al etc. And often a second time after one comes in and has had a chance to settle in. |
Anonymous
That's kind of you to say. DH definitely appreciates and FiL, before his decline, often told him that "your wife knows how to play your mom like a fiddle." Look, it's now always that way, but I probably have more experience than my MiL does to some extent. Her parents were never in the equivalent of a CCRC when they were alive and her ILs had one arrangement for the duration of their stay. Want to help them be in the best situation they can be as well as what is the best use of their money. It also makes it easier on DH who shoulders the majority of the burden. |
Anonymous
yes, it's all in the details - that's a good reminder. Also about the evaluation. I had forgotten that there is usually a second one after they move. TY. |
Anonymous
Riderwood has a good reputation from a few folks I’ve heard. (A neighbor has his father there and has good things to say about the rehab piece). Riderwood is big, which I think can be nice for the diversity of ages, backgrounds, skills, and interests. (E.g., if your parent is interested in music, there’s a performing arts group, etc). I’ve also heard relatively good things about Ingleside(s), Asbury Methodist Village, Kensington Park. There’s also one out past 6 flags in MD that I can’t find right at this second which is reportedly very good as well. I’d recommend looking at nursing home compare on Medicare.gov and putting in “in a continuing care community” and you can see the NH ratings which are important. |
Anonymous
| I’m the 16:41 poster. The other place in MD that I’ve heard good things about is Collington in Mitchellville. |