DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?

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Anonymous wrote:I’d let him do it. Once in a lifetime opportunity. And if he’s talented enough that he’s being offered a 130k salary straight out of undergrad, there will be another job offer.

Op said $103k, which is a standard professional salary these days with inflation and hot labor market. OP should clarify how much of a hot shot he is job market wise — my feeling is if he was that desirable he would have multiple offers and negotiated a 6 month start date. That’s what adults do.

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Bad idea.

You can’t control him. But make sure he knows he will not be living at your house for free, not using your car and gas, will have to pay for his own cell etc.

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He should have taken a gap year after HS or before college graduation. He should take one now if he wants to. You have few responsibilities at this point in your life and a year off will benefit him in the long run.

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Anonymous wrote:He should have taken a gap year after HS or before college graduation. He should take one now if he wants to. You have few responsibilities at this point in your life and a year off will benefit him in the long run.

This is after college graduation?

He should have gotten like an overseas grad degree or something like that.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d let him do it. Once in a lifetime opportunity. And if he’s talented enough that he’s being offered a 130k salary straight out of undergrad, there will be another job offer.

Op said $103k, which is a standard professional salary these days with inflation and hot labor market. OP should clarify how much of a hot shot he is job market wise — my feeling is if he was that desirable he would have multiple offers and negotiated a 6 month start date. That’s what adults do.

LOL no.

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Candidly, this seems self-indulgent. The year off will serve no objectively valuable purposes; it's an extended vacation which costs money, time, and may jeopardize later job prospects in that a replacement offer may not be so easy to find. Lots of risk, little benefit and certainly no financial benefit - one less year of earning savings towards the future, a future which could include FIRE if desired but to do that you have to start early and be consistent in earnings and savings.

Spend a few $ on counseling to address potential depression instead.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d let him do it. Once in a lifetime opportunity. And if he’s talented enough that he’s being offered a 130k salary straight out of undergrad, there will be another job offer.

Op said $103k, which is a standard professional salary these days with inflation and hot labor market. OP should clarify how much of a hot shot he is job market wise — my feeling is if he was that desirable he would have multiple offers and negotiated a 6 month start date. That’s what adults do.

He got three offers, two from start-up companies. None of the employers was willing to move the start date three months out, let alone six or twelve months out.

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Anonymous wrote:How wealthy and connected are you? People who forgo employment after college have parents who can support them nearly indefinitely and help connect them with jobs.

He has $25k - they wont cover a year of traveling even by backpack. No student debt?

OP here. No student debt. He won a prestigious academic scholarship that covered both tuition, room, board, and a $200/month in stipend.

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I think he is wrong but I know from dealing with my then H that people make mistakes, insist on them, and then still come out ok somehow. They do recognize their mistakes later on but still make new ones.
For me the most important skill was learning to let go. So I guess I would tell the kid that I think it would be a mistake not to take the job and then let it go. Maybe he’ll be laid off in 6 months, the way things are going. Then he can pursue the things he thinks he missed out on.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd negotiate a start date for the job in the fall.

No employer can put a job on hold for 12 months.

Of course they can. I worked in big 5 and my job didn’t start until September.

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Let him do what he wants. He's already aware that he needs to take care of his mental health and you should honor that.

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This is not your call he is an adult

I would encourage him to take the job in 2024 when Republicans take over there will not be any we are headed to a major depression .

However like I said you have no say. Have him move out no help from you and let him make his bed it’s his life not yours you raised a slacker omg he had to work hard to get where he is smm

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He's an adult, so it isn't for you to "let him" do it or not. But if you will not be supporting him in any way, you should make this very clear, so that he understands the potential consequences.

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What choice do you have? He’s an adult. Even if you cut him off he can manage for a year fine.

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I would not suggest having a one year gap on his resume immediately after graduating from college.