Friend is getting requests for nice pics- how to advise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD has asked me how she can help her friend who is being pestered for nice pics by a boy in one of her classes. The kids are 10th graders and have never been in any sort of relationship. Apparently this has been going on all year. The friend is afraid to tell her parents because she thinks they will blame her.

I have made the following suggestions:
-say loudly to him the next time he sends request to stop asking her for child porn
-screenshot request and go to school counselor
-go to school counselor without screenshot
-take photo of request with a different phone in case he is using app that reports screenshots
-skip the class this is happening in (I don’t think this is a great idea, but it could buy time to meet with counselor)

I realize none of these are great ideas. I just feel like this is clearly harassment and there should be consequences.

What am I missing?

DD’s “friend” May be a euphemism for herself.

Boys regularly asked my dd for nude pics and I asked her to say no, that sending nude pics is considered distributing child porn by many authorities and can lead to them becoming registered sex offenders (yes I know someone that happened to as a teen).

It is extremely common now that boys ask this and infuriates me that girls are often treated like this.

Whether the girl being is harassed is your DD or not, the victim can just take screen shots of his requests. I would report it with screen shot evidence to the school for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD has asked me how she can help her friend who is being pestered for nice pics by a boy in one of her classes. The kids are 10th graders and have never been in any sort of relationship. Apparently this has been going on all year. The friend is afraid to tell her parents because she thinks they will blame her.

I have made the following suggestions:
-say loudly to him the next time he sends request to stop asking her for child porn
-screenshot request and go to school counselor
-go to school counselor without screenshot
-take photo of request with a different phone in case he is using app that reports screenshots
-skip the class this is happening in (I don’t think this is a great idea, but it could buy time to meet with counselor)

I realize none of these are great ideas. I just feel like this is clearly harassment and there should be consequences.

What am I missing?

DD’s “friend” May be a euphemism for herself.

Boys regularly asked my dd for nude pics and I asked her to say no, that sending nude pics is considered distributing child porn by many authorities and can lead to them becoming registered sex offenders (yes I know someone that happened to as a teen).

It is extremely common now that boys ask this and infuriates me that girls are often treated like this.

Whether the girl being is harassed is your DD or not, the victim can just take screen shots of his requests. I would report it with screen shot evidence to the school for sure.

I had initially wondered this myself. But the school counselor sent me a note to share that she thinks my DD is making positive strides in recovering from her own sexual harassment situation last year by supporting a friend in going to an adult instead of feeling like she had to handle it alone. This was one of the target behaviors we have been working on with DDs therapist.