No more cum laude, individual awards announced rarely

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care and I don’t see the big deal. The achievement happened, so why does it matter if it is announced? The person who received the award or achieved a goal can feel proud of them accomplishment and their loved ones are aware and can also be proud. Why isn’t that sufficient?

It used to be fun to celebrate others people's success. It's is like a toast to community as a whole to take a moment to be proud of a community members achievement. Now, every one is just too sour to see beyond their own nose, to have fun and cheer for "the competition." It's sad and selfish. I personally don't need that much attention;but, I miss the warm community feeling.

OP is talking about announcements at a graduation, correct? Are you suggesting that you cannot participate in the fun, cheering and warm community feeling at a graduation - a whole room of achievement being celebrated and congratulated! - unless these awards are announced? Really?

Just saying I miss the awards. It was fun to cheer on other people's success. Graduation was great, but I missed the fun of the awards. It's like sprinkles on the ice cream...extra fun and felt special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Head over to the college discussion. Awards matter.

OP isn’t talking about awards not being given, just not being publicly announced and celebrated in a ceremony. You’ll still have the award to but in your college applications.

[Anonymous]

Being selfish is the trademark of rugged American individualism.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has been a push everywhere. My child is super involved in the arts. The program director shared with me that last year they stopped announcing internal and external awards. It was because parents of non-recipients where relentless to the point of abusive of she and her staff about their kids not being acknowledged.

The parents are paying a lot of money, if Larla's painting wasn't good enough, maybe it was the teacher's fault? Isn't superior instruction and individual attention supposed to be the point of an independent school- why can't the teacher get Larla to your kid's level?

So you want the school to assure you that your kid is better than the others?

Maybe they can provide the service that they are selling. If Larlo isn't doing well in a class, then he's obviously not getting enough hand holding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Head over to the college discussion. Awards matter.

Right, to that individual. The rest of us could not care less about Billy’s place as first trombonist in the district orchestra.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Head over to the college discussion. Awards matter.

Right, to that individual. The rest of us could not care less about Billy’s place as first trombonist in the district orchestra.

The college forum folks would argue that it matters when these awards prevent your child from getting accepted at whatever college both students were seeking. It's all a zero-sum game!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Head over to the college discussion. Awards matter.

Right, to that individual. The rest of us could not care less about Billy’s place as first trombonist in the district orchestra.

That's so sad. Where is your sense on community?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if cum laude ceremony stopped because of the pandemic but the past two years there’s no announcement of cum laude recipients at Larlos school. Also, individual mentions for debate rankings or music competitions, etc., are not announced, even though kids are placing. It feels like the school wants to protect the kids egos who don’t qualify.

Cathedral schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Head over to the college discussion. Awards matter.

OP isn’t talking about awards not being given, just not being publicly announced and celebrated in a ceremony. You’ll still have the award to but in your college applications.

Not PP but our child's HS school didn't give awards (at all). I didn't notice until college application time that there were kids from different schools with all these awards to report. Looking back, I think the bigger issue in the complete absence of awards is that our school is such a grind and it'd be nice for kids to have something positive coming back at them other than the grade for the work. And not in the "participation award" vein - but real meaningful achievements to celebrate within the community other than sports titles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care and I don’t see the big deal. The achievement happened, so why does it matter if it is announced? The person who received the award or achieved a goal can feel proud of them accomplishment and their loved ones are aware and can also be proud. Why isn’t that sufficient?

It used to be fun to celebrate others people's success. It's is like a toast to community as a whole to take a moment to be proud of a community members achievement. Now, every one is just too sour to see beyond their own nose, to have fun and cheer for "the competition." It's sad and selfish. I personally don't need that much attention;but, I miss the warm community feeling.

OP is talking about announcements at a graduation, correct? Are you suggesting that you cannot participate in the fun, cheering and warm community feeling at a graduation - a whole room of achievement being celebrated and congratulated! - unless these awards are announced? Really?

Just saying I miss the awards. It was fun to cheer on other people's success. Graduation was great, but I missed the fun of the awards. It's like sprinkles on the ice cream...extra fun and felt special.

I agree with this - celebrate within the community!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Head over to the college discussion. Awards matter.

OP isn’t talking about awards not being given, just not being publicly announced and celebrated in a ceremony. You’ll still have the award to but in your college applications.

Not PP but our child's HS school didn't give awards (at all). I didn't notice until college application time that there were kids from different schools with all these awards to report. Looking back, I think the bigger issue in the complete absence of awards is that our school is such a grind and it'd be nice for kids to have something positive coming back at them other than the grade for the work. And not in the "participation award" vein - but real meaningful achievements to celebrate within the community other than sports titles.

Our school gives awards to graduating seniors, which is too late to include on applications. What other awards are we talking about here? Something that juniors are eligible for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with this - celebrate within the community!

Not saying this is you, PP, but many parents (whether at public or private) like to talk a good game about "community," all the way until their kids are competing for the same scarce item.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being selfish is the trademark of rugged American individualism.

Actually, you are 100% wrong. Individualism appreciates individuals being being recognized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if cum laude ceremony stopped because of the pandemic but the past two years there’s no announcement of cum laude recipients at Larlos school. Also, individual mentions for debate rankings or music competitions, etc., are not announced, even though kids are placing. It feels like the school wants to protect the kids egos who don’t qualify.

Cathedral schools?

I don’t think so. Prize Day goes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being selfish is the trademark of rugged American individualism.

Actually, you are 100% wrong. Individualism appreciates individuals being being recognized.

Until the recognition of others creates obstacles to achieving one's own selfish, individual goals.