Raise your hand if you gave deposits to multiple schools.

[Anonymous]

Parents with clinical anxiety do this.

[Anonymous]

Genuinely wondering what the problem is. OP and other people who do this will ultimately make a decision, so it's not like their kid is taking up more than one spot in a school come June 1st. They lose the deposit(s), sure, but that's just punishing them and no one else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents with clinical anxiety do this.

I have clinical anxiety and I did not do this.

[Anonymous]

This is a shady thing to do. Bad for the school and the people on the waitlist, and it only prolongs the agony for you. Unless your dc is able to attend both schools for a while in the fall you will not get any more useful data. Just suck it up and make a decision.

[Anonymous]

Virtually nothing happens between now and June 1st. This is just massively selfish. This does hurt schools that are planning staffing and programming, wait-list students and their families, and your chances of every re applying this student or any siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely wondering what the problem is. OP and other people who do this will ultimately make a decision, so it's not like their kid is taking up more than one spot in a school come June 1st. They lose the deposit(s), sure, but that's just punishing them and no one else.

That’s right and the deposit is non refundable at the schools I know so the school is be compensated by those who want to be indecisive.

[Anonymous]

If you live in DC and your kid is applying to DCPS selective schools, you won't know if they get into those until March 31 (the misalignment in these admissions timelines is maddening!). And, some folks might be seeing if financial aid offers change after the enrollment deadline, or seeing how the different schools assess and place their kids for the upcoming year as an indicator of how good a fit it really is in terms of process, learning content, or more. It's not something we would do but I can see that there are still some factors up in the air at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely wondering what the problem is. OP and other people who do this will ultimately make a decision, so it's not like their kid is taking up more than one spot in a school come June 1st. They lose the deposit(s), sure, but that's just punishing them and no one else.

Losing a deposit is nothing to a family who can pay $50,000/yr. for school. The punishment comes to those who otherwise may have earned a spot, but instead wait to hear of wait pool movement to each day for months.

[Anonymous]

The only reason this could be ok in my view is if there are multiple kids to consider and one is waitlisted at both of the schools where a deposit was put down. I can understand wanting to have your kids at the same school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely wondering what the problem is. OP and other people who do this will ultimately make a decision, so it's not like their kid is taking up more than one spot in a school come June 1st. They lose the deposit(s), sure, but that's just punishing them and no one else.

It probably gets harder for schools to get their preferred candidates to accept from the wait list the longer they have to wait. People become more settled about going elsewhere, make connections at new family events, etc. Also for families really hoping to get off the waitlist, and for whom the school is a great fit, this really sucks for them. It’s kind of a selfish move and would come across as such. If you doing this OP, make a decision and give notice right away to save face.

[Anonymous]

If you are still hoping to get off of the waitlist, and eventually do (but after you put down the deposit at the place where your child got in), you could end up paying for two. But I think typically,if this happened the right thing to do would be to inform the school that was your backup immediately so that they could open the space. But that scenario would still mean two deposits if you decided to accept the offer off of the waitlist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you live in DC and your kid is applying to DCPS selective schools, you won't know if they get into those until March 31 (the misalignment in these admissions timelines is maddening!). And, some folks might be seeing if financial aid offers change after the enrollment deadline, or seeing how the different schools assess and place their kids for the upcoming year as an indicator of how good a fit it really is in terms of process, learning content, or more. It's not something we would do but I can see that there are still some factors up in the air at this point.

Even if you're waiting on the DC lottery there's no reason to put down multiple deposits. Put down a deposit at your first choice private and then if you get in somewhere in the lottery you can pull out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only reason this could be ok in my view is if there are multiple kids to consider and one is waitlisted at both of the schools where a deposit was put down. I can understand wanting to have your kids at the same school.

Yes. That and the move across the river scenario sound reasonable. Waiting to see if you magically like one school a month later is rude.

[Anonymous]

I’d encourage you not to do this. Frequently, admissions officers know one another and this may come to light. Prepare to be asked by the “losing” school where you will be attending/what changed for you. While it won’t impact your admission to either school, it certainly won’t endear you to the community you ultimately choose (or pull out of).

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll trying to rile everyone up. And it is working.