What do you do when you really start to resent how much caretaking your kid needs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Right there with you. Right now we are in a better phase, but it's still more active, hardcore parenting and decision fatigue than a typical kid. And I'm ALWAYS on edge waiting for the good phase to end. Even a typical level of tears or attitude makes me feel like everything is about to collapse and I go into high alert mode.

OP here and this is my first reply. I am not single mom up above. I guess I struck a nerve. The above is so true for me. Even when things are not horrible I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. And things are getting so good with my other kid as he becomes a cool, interesting person and I feel guilty about my unloving feelings toward my SN kid. It's a struggle.

Yes! I'm the one you're replying to. I also have another kid, boy who is 12, and also so cool and interesting. We can do real things together - more mature movies and music etc, he's gaining a lot of independence this year. So I do get more resentful of how much harder my SN kid is. And I know I don't have it as tough as some people - I think she WILL be independent and ok, but it's such a different path to get there. The therapy and meds and 504s and frustrating teacher emails...so many more bumps in the road.