Why do I feel bad saying no to sibling ?

[Anonymous]

I would reply saying you cannot accomodate siblings at *your party* but they are free to hang out with their other kids at another space in the venue if that's possible and the little kids won't be able to bother the party guests. Because you are already getting inquiries, I would actually go further and have this info beforehand to pass out incase any parents bring siblings.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by your party room is full but the venue can accommodate additional kids? If adults aren’t sitting, the kids can squeeze in. I have seen crowded party rooms often. Invite the kid, what’s your loss? There is always leftover food and cake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by your party room is full but the venue can accommodate additional kids? If adults aren’t sitting, the kids can squeeze in. I have seen crowded party rooms often. Invite the kid, what’s your loss? There is always leftover food and cake.

Rude parent is here. Do you always try to invite uninvited siblings to your child’s friends’ parties?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it way past the age? Many families haven't had the same experience as you and are not aware. There are many internationals and transients in this area.

So ditch the attitude and just regretfully say no, the party room is full.

Sheesh.

Lol it's past the time for OP, that's what matters. Sheesh

Op don't feel at all guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it way past the age? Many families haven't had the same experience as you and are not aware. There are many internationals and transients in this area.

So ditch the attitude and just regretfully say no, the party room is full.

Sheesh.

Because 11 year old kids can be dropped off, not like 4-5 year olds.

Sure but it depends on how far away the venue is. If it’s close, drop off is easy. If not, parent with smaller kid has to hang around and wait.

That isn't OP's concern though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by your party room is full but the venue can accommodate additional kids? If adults aren’t sitting, the kids can squeeze in. I have seen crowded party rooms often. Invite the kid, what’s your loss? There is always leftover food and cake.

Rude parent is here. Do you always try to invite uninvited siblings to your child’s friends’ parties?

Pp here. I do actually. I always fine someone (actually at times 2/3 people) who says they will be there will actually not end up showing up. It’s never turned into an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by your party room is full but the venue can accommodate additional kids? If adults aren’t sitting, the kids can squeeze in. I have seen crowded party rooms often. Invite the kid, what’s your loss? There is always leftover food and cake.

Rude parent is here. Do you always try to invite uninvited siblings to your child’s friends’ parties?

Pp here. I do actually. I always fine someone (actually at times 2/3 people) who says they will be there will actually not end up showing up. It’s never turned into an issue.

They still have to pay for your kid. It is rude.

If you are friends with parents, then it is fine of course. Random school friend? Not close friend who may have just invited all the boys? Very rude and host is just being polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it way past the age? Many families haven't had the same experience as you and are not aware. There are many internationals and transients in this area.

So ditch the attitude and just regretfully say no, the party room is full.

Sheesh.

Because 11 year old kids can be dropped off, not like 4-5 year olds.

Sure but it depends on how far away the venue is. If it’s close, drop off is easy. If not, parent with smaller kid has to hang around and wait.

Or, the parent can go do something else with sibling. There’s always a coffee shop or similar around any play venue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it way past the age? Many families haven't had the same experience as you and are not aware. There are many internationals and transients in this area.

So ditch the attitude and just regretfully say no, the party room is full.

Sheesh.

Because 11 year old kids can be dropped off, not like 4-5 year olds.

Sure but it depends on how far away the venue is. If it’s close, drop off is easy. If not, parent with smaller kid has to hang around and wait.

Yes, and? 99.9999% of birthday party venues are t in the middle of a barren dessert. Use your little pocket computer you carry with you at all times, look up somewhere to take your other kids (parks are free, or if it’s cold or raining (horrors!), you can use your parental problem solving abilities to find a free or cheap nearby indoor place to take your other kids for the duration of the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by your party room is full but the venue can accommodate additional kids? If adults aren’t sitting, the kids can squeeze in. I have seen crowded party rooms often. Invite the kid, what’s your loss? There is always leftover food and cake.

No. Stop being presumptuous and rude, if your other children were invited, the host would have already told you so at the point of invitation.

[Anonymous]

Don’t feel bad at all. It’s your kid’s party. They likely don’t want a random sibling there. No parent should be staying anyway.

[Anonymous]

OP—You feel bad because someone has put you in an awkward position by asking. That’s why the “It never hurts to ask” people are wrong. It’s a rude question—don’t ask. If siblings were invited, the invitation would say so.

[Anonymous]

Was rude of them to ask. But if convenient for you , and if it means a lot to your child for this particular guest to attend, you could offer the guest a ride if the “no siblings” policy means they can’t attend. If your child is indifferent, I would just move on and not feel badly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP—You feel bad because someone has put you in an awkward position by asking. That’s why the “It never hurts to ask” people are wrong. It’s a rude question—don’t ask. If siblings were invited, the invitation would say so.

+1. I had one party where there was extra space and the host sent out an invite for siblings to come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP—You feel bad because someone has put you in an awkward position by asking. That’s why the “It never hurts to ask” people are wrong. It’s a rude question—don’t ask. If siblings were invited, the invitation would say so.

+1. I had one party where there was extra space and the host sent out an invite for siblings to come.

OP here. If I actually had space, I would not have minded even if it would still have cost me since I have to pay per kid. The person who asked me was someone my child wasn’t even going to invite. Kid is not a close friend at all. His closer friends all have siblings and not one sibling came. The other friends carpooled.