When teens are no longer interested in close grandparent relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never understand posts like this. You and your DH dislike her to the point that you don’t visit and have a close relationship yourselves. You send the kids alone, even though they don’t like it and you don’t trust her. Why are you doing that? You’d rather make someone you don’t like and don’t want to be around happy than your own children. I’ll never understand. It would be different if you value family time and you and DH were spending the same amount of time with her, but you’re just dumping it all on your kids because they can’t say no, or it doesn’t matter to you if they say no. Kids should be heard. You’re not teaching them to value family members who love them, you’re teaching them that kids don’t have autonomy and that they have to put up with loads of crap from elders out of a misguided sense of respect.

This is a more explicit version of what I was going to post. Which is -- what is the actual upside here? You have only posted about sending your kids to someone whose own son dislikes her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother was a horrible grandmother she only really likes babies and toddlers.

As the kids grew she never tried to develop relationships.

She has no interest. Sad.

Maybe it was difficult for her to deal with the older age groups.

NP. well then Grandma loses out. No need to make the older age group suffer through if Grandma cannot deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother was a horrible grandmother she only really likes babies and toddlers.

As the kids grew she never tried to develop relationships.

She has no interest. Sad.

This is my mil. Makes zero effort with her grandkids. It’s so sad to me.