daycare toilet training policies

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have 4 kids and have never heard of planning toilet training? You just wait until you see signs that your child is ready, encourage it at home, when they have begun using the potty consistently then you switch to underwear. Wtf about taking days off? None of my friends have ever done that either. Perhaps if your child is not ready and you need to force them to learn, but this seems so strange to me. When they are ready it is a non-even.

Totally disagree. You don't need signs a kid is ready. If you wait until signs, you might wait forever.

At 20 months, we did 3 day naked with all 3 kids. It clicked instantly (well it clicked by day 3 with 2/3 kids and day 5 with the other kid). Zero accidents after the first month. 20 month olds are so eager to please!

We waited a week or two to tell daycare. They didn't believe us. So we sent the kids in pullups and the kids told them they needed to go. Daycare begrudgingly took them and my kids stayed dry.

Did the kids tell daycare they needed to go in the week or two it took you to tell daycare?

OP here, did you get any toilet training policies, e.g. pullups only? I did not get any of instructions AT ALL. I used to have monthly meetings with a teacher to discuss my child progress, 3 months - nothing, for whatever reason they are afraid to even have a conversation and I am trying to figure out why

[Anonymous]

Start teaching your kid to pull his own underwear and pants up and down himself now. Also make sure he can take his own shoes off and put them on. An accident takes a lot more to clean up than just changing a diaper. Your kid isn't the only one in the class, try to remember that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly if your work is such that you have to plan toilet training and depend on a teacher to tell you when to start, I’d say your priorities are off.

OP here, my priorities are fine. I need a coordination with a daycare as it can take longer than a week as the previous posters said. Everything will go down the drain if the teachers will put my child back to diapers after a hard work of toilet training initiation. Also that kind of attitude from teachers can create problems for years to come.

What? No, your child will not be doomed to diapers forever if they're in a pull-up at daycare and undies at home for a few weeks or even months. Signed a PP who trained her own child on weekends/mornings/evening while she wore pull-ups to daycare for the better part of a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You get your kid through the adjustment to the two year old room, and once you have a relationship with those teachers and they know your kid you can discuss it. But asking toddler teachers to plan toilet training with you when it won’t be carried out in their room is ridiculous.

+1 ours potty trained our kid in the 2s room. They don't start before that for the reasons PPs discussed.

[Anonymous]

I potty trained my son in the 2s room. To be honest we were closed for a week because of a COVID case and I just trained him at home and then sent him in underwear. He didn't have a whole lot of accidents. Daycare really wouldn't have trained him at all had I not done it first.

Get him through the transition first, then find a long weekend and just train him at home (Oh Crap didn't exactly work for me, I had to put my kid in underwear or he'd just pee on the floor, having the feedback of wet underwear worked, though).

[Anonymous]

For those of you talking about how you knew your kids were ready but daycare thought otherwise, please don't forget that home and daycare are two different environments. Lots of kids train at home first-some are afraid of loud daycare toilets, of pooping/peeing in front of a bunch of people, etc. Others train at daycare first-the peer pressure/role modeling works for them.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to take the lead on this not your daycare. Its more work for your daycare to deal with a potty training kid than to change a diaper. Assuming he has access to a potty in his daycare room I say go for it. This is a great age if he's showing signs. We never did the whole pants free long weekend thing but that worked for some people. We just did a few weeks of sitting on the potty and regular/reasonable intervals at home.
Then less and less time in pullups at home in the evenings and weekends. Then when it seemed like it was clicking it was off to school with undies (and several changes of cloths). Just make sure to tell the teacher that your kid has no pullups and take away any extras.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to take the lead on this not your daycare. Its more work for your daycare to deal with a potty training kid than to change a diaper. Assuming he has access to a potty in his daycare room I say go for it. This is a great age if he's showing signs. We never did the whole pants free long weekend thing but that worked for some people. We just did a few weeks of sitting on the potty and regular/reasonable intervals at home.
Then less and less time in pullups at home in the evenings and weekends. Then when it seemed like it was clicking it was off to school with undies (and several changes of cloths). Just make sure to tell the teacher that your kid has no pullups and take away any extras.

They may not accept the child without them. They can't be cleaning up pee and poop all day-it's group care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of you talking about how you knew your kids were ready but daycare thought otherwise, please don't forget that home and daycare are two different environments. Lots of kids train at home first-some are afraid of loud daycare toilets, of pooping/peeing in front of a bunch of people, etc. Others train at daycare first-the peer pressure/role modeling works for them.

That seems like a reason for parents to take the lead on training at home so they can master using the potty where it's quiet and private. Waiting for them to be "ready" at daycare first means expecting them to learn in the hardest environment first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get your kid through the adjustment to the two year old room, and once you have a relationship with those teachers and they know your kid you can discuss it. But asking toddler teachers to plan toilet training with you when it won’t be carried out in their room is ridiculous.

+1 ours potty trained our kid in the 2s room. They don't start before that for the reasons PPs discussed.

that would be fine, but it seems we will be transferred in the Fall when my kid will be 30 months

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those of you talking about how you knew your kids were ready but daycare thought otherwise, please don't forget that home and daycare are two different environments. Lots of kids train at home first-some are afraid of loud daycare toilets, of pooping/peeing in front of a bunch of people, etc. Others train at daycare first-the peer pressure/role modeling works for them.

That seems like a reason for parents to take the lead on training at home so they can master using the potty where it's quiet and private. Waiting for them to be "ready" at daycare first means expecting them to learn in the hardest environment first.

I do not mind taking the lead, hence I am planning... but the teachers did not even discuss it with me, tehy did not care what I have to say about it and that bothers me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 4 kids and have never heard of planning toilet training? You just wait until you see signs that your child is ready, encourage it at home, when they have begun using the potty consistently then you switch to underwear. Wtf about taking days off? None of my friends have ever done that either. Perhaps if your child is not ready and you need to force them to learn, but this seems so strange to me. When they are ready it is a non-even.

Totally disagree. You don't need signs a kid is ready. If you wait until signs, you might wait forever.

At 20 months, we did 3 day naked with all 3 kids. It clicked instantly (well it clicked by day 3 with 2/3 kids and day 5 with the other kid). Zero accidents after the first month. 20 month olds are so eager to please!

We waited a week or two to tell daycare. They didn't believe us. So we sent the kids in pullups and the kids told them they needed to go. Daycare begrudgingly took them and my kids stayed dry.

Did the kids tell daycare they needed to go in the week or two it took you to tell daycare?

OP here, did you get any toilet training policies, e.g. pullups only? I did not get any of instructions AT ALL. I used to have monthly meetings with a teacher to discuss my child progress, 3 months - nothing, for whatever reason they are afraid to even have a conversation and I am trying to figure out why

I thought they told you you need to wait until he's in the 2 year old room? That is the conversation.

It's not reasonable to have a kid toilet training in a room that isn't staffed or set up for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get your kid through the adjustment to the two year old room, and once you have a relationship with those teachers and they know your kid you can discuss it. But asking toddler teachers to plan toilet training with you when it won’t be carried out in their room is ridiculous.

+1 ours potty trained our kid in the 2s room. They don't start before that for the reasons PPs discussed.

that would be fine, but it seems we will be transferred in the Fall when my kid will be 30 months

Then that's when you start. And the teachers in that room are you have conversations with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 4 kids and have never heard of planning toilet training? You just wait until you see signs that your child is ready, encourage it at home, when they have begun using the potty consistently then you switch to underwear. Wtf about taking days off? None of my friends have ever done that either. Perhaps if your child is not ready and you need to force them to learn, but this seems so strange to me. When they are ready it is a non-even.

Totally disagree. You don't need signs a kid is ready. If you wait until signs, you might wait forever.

At 20 months, we did 3 day naked with all 3 kids. It clicked instantly (well it clicked by day 3 with 2/3 kids and day 5 with the other kid). Zero accidents after the first month. 20 month olds are so eager to please!

We waited a week or two to tell daycare. They didn't believe us. So we sent the kids in pullups and the kids told them they needed to go. Daycare begrudgingly took them and my kids stayed dry.

Did the kids tell daycare they needed to go in the week or two it took you to tell daycare?

OP here, did you get any toilet training policies, e.g. pullups only? I did not get any of instructions AT ALL. I used to have monthly meetings with a teacher to discuss my child progress, 3 months - nothing, for whatever reason they are afraid to even have a conversation and I am trying to figure out why

I thought they told you you need to wait until he's in the 2 year old room? That is the conversation.

It's not reasonable to have a kid toilet training in a room that isn't staffed or set up for it.

The room is fine it has a little toilet. The problem with a daycare is they move kids between group not right after they turn certain age, e.g. in our 1+ we got a girl of 18 months transferred from infants, when I joined that 1+ group, there were kids 29 months old, so the delay is upto 6 months

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get your kid through the adjustment to the two year old room, and once you have a relationship with those teachers and they know your kid you can discuss it. But asking toddler teachers to plan toilet training with you when it won’t be carried out in their room is ridiculous.

+1 ours potty trained our kid in the 2s room. They don't start before that for the reasons PPs discussed.

that would be fine, but it seems we will be transferred in the Fall when my kid will be 30 months

Then that's when you start. And the teachers in that room are you have conversations with.

I am afraid my son will be out of recommended age when he moves to that new room, the old room is properly equipped, they trained kids before here