daycare toilet training policies

[Anonymous]

My son is 22 months and in a daycare. I have started planning toilet training as me and my husband are full time employed and have a busy schedule including some travel. We need to plan days off 2-5 months in advance. I have asked for the meeting with a teacher to discuss the training coordination with the daycare, twice. I did not get a meeting but the teacher told my husband they do not recommend to start before 2, the child has to be ready (basically he has to pull down the pants and announce that he has to go which is an equivalent to being trained (first stages)). I asked about toilet training policies the Director of the daycare, two weeks ago, no response either. Here is the question, how am I supposed to interpret these "subtle messages"? They will not assist in training? I do not want to start and face the sabotage from the teachers. Tell me please about your experience in toilet training when the child is in a daycare. I am particular interested in training before 30 months

[Anonymous]

My daycare wouldn’t do any training before 2 (they didn’t have a little kid potty in the 0-2 room) and was discouraging when I asked about it for my just turned two year old. I took a weekend to do undies and sitting on the potty every half hour at home, continued this through mornings/evenings/weekends while asking that my kid be taken to the potty regularly at daycare in pull-ups (no idea if they did or not; she definitely never actually used the potty at daycare during this time). About three weeks later she got through an entire weekend in undies using the potty at home (with reminders although they’d moved to at transitional times by this point) so I sent her to daycare in undies the next week. She didn’t have any accidents at daycare that first week so they didn’t insist on putting her back in diapers/pull-ups.

[Anonymous]

You get your kid through the adjustment to the two year old room, and once you have a relationship with those teachers and they know your kid you can discuss it. But asking toddler teachers to plan toilet training with you when it won’t be carried out in their room is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Just take a long weekend and toilet train them. Then send them to school in underwear and don’t look back. Also they don’t need to be able to announce they are going, just recognize they are wet and even that’s not really necessary, just might take longer. Taking pants on and off is the only prerequisite I’ve found necessary and I’ve trained many children in this area.

[Anonymous]

Honestly if your work is such that you have to plan toilet training and depend on a teacher to tell you when to start, I’d say your priorities are off.

[Anonymous]

The kids should be able to pull their pants down on their own and identify when they need to go.

When kids are having accidents, it tells you they’re not potty trained and not ready to be in underwear yet. in a daycare setting it is unsanitary to have kids walking around with urine and feces and spreading it all over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly if your work is such that you have to plan toilet training and depend on a teacher to tell you when to start, I’d say your priorities are off.

NP.

What?

We definitely planned I'm advance and coordinating with the daycare makes total sense. WTF is your problem?

OP, I would plan to do it around 25-27 months. Just plan to take the days off. Sometimes daycares will essentially train the child for you, and they will tell you when the child is "ready" in their mind. But you are under no obligation to wait for them. Their perceptions of "readiness" may result in waiting too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly if your work is such that you have to plan toilet training and depend on a teacher to tell you when to start, I’d say your priorities are off.

NP.

What?

We definitely planned I'm advance and coordinating with the daycare makes total sense. WTF is your problem?

OP, I would plan to do it around 25-27 months. Just plan to take the days off. Sometimes daycares will essentially train the child for you, and they will tell you when the child is "ready" in their mind. But you are under no obligation to wait for them. Their perceptions of "readiness" may result in waiting too long.

Good advice here. I went ahead and trained my kid that daycare didn’t think was “ready”. No issues. A couple of the other daycare parents I know waited for daycare to say they were ready and now their kids are in a new class and the new teachers are giving them a hard time for their kids not being potty trained.

[Anonymous]

IME, daycare trained when they thought mine were ready not when I asked them to train. But I was free to train on my own, which, like others, I did. Also if you send your kid in underwear and they are having accidents, they will put them back in diapers. Daycares do everything they can to avoid accidents so they train later than parents. You’re expecting too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You get your kid through the adjustment to the two year old room, and once you have a relationship with those teachers and they know your kid you can discuss it. But asking toddler teachers to plan toilet training with you when it won’t be carried out in their room is ridiculous.

Totally agree with this. I would not start before the daycare is on board, and I certainly wouldn’t do it before the transition to the 2s room, or you’ll just have more regression.

[Anonymous]

I have 4 kids and have never heard of planning toilet training? You just wait until you see signs that your child is ready, encourage it at home, when they have begun using the potty consistently then you switch to underwear. Wtf about taking days off? None of my friends have ever done that either. Perhaps if your child is not ready and you need to force them to learn, but this seems so strange to me. When they are ready it is a non-even.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 4 kids and have never heard of planning toilet training? You just wait until you see signs that your child is ready, encourage it at home, when they have begun using the potty consistently then you switch to underwear. Wtf about taking days off? None of my friends have ever done that either. Perhaps if your child is not ready and you need to force them to learn, but this seems so strange to me. When they are ready it is a non-even.

Totally disagree. You don't need signs a kid is ready. If you wait until signs, you might wait forever.

At 20 months, we did 3 day naked with all 3 kids. It clicked instantly (well it clicked by day 3 with 2/3 kids and day 5 with the other kid). Zero accidents after the first month. 20 month olds are so eager to please!

We waited a week or two to tell daycare. They didn't believe us. So we sent the kids in pullups and the kids told them they needed to go. Daycare begrudgingly took them and my kids stayed dry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 4 kids and have never heard of planning toilet training? You just wait until you see signs that your child is ready, encourage it at home, when they have begun using the potty consistently then you switch to underwear. Wtf about taking days off? None of my friends have ever done that either. Perhaps if your child is not ready and you need to force them to learn, but this seems so strange to me. When they are ready it is a non-even.

Totally disagree. You don't need signs a kid is ready. If you wait until signs, you might wait forever.

At 20 months, we did 3 day naked with all 3 kids. It clicked instantly (well it clicked by day 3 with 2/3 kids and day 5 with the other kid). Zero accidents after the first month. 20 month olds are so eager to please!

We waited a week or two to tell daycare. They didn't believe us. So we sent the kids in pullups and the kids told them they needed to go. Daycare begrudgingly took them and my kids stayed dry.

Did the kids tell daycare they needed to go in the week or two it took you to tell daycare?

[Anonymous]

Original poster here: The room has a little toilet and a sink in the what it looks like a little cubicle. It is not clear when my child will be transferred to a 2 years old group as they have two kids older than him in our group and one has turned two a few weeks ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly if your work is such that you have to plan toilet training and depend on a teacher to tell you when to start, I’d say your priorities are off.

OP here, my priorities are fine. I need a coordination with a daycare as it can take longer than a week as the previous posters said. Everything will go down the drain if the teachers will put my child back to diapers after a hard work of toilet training initiation. Also that kind of attitude from teachers can create problems for years to come.