Do you know any women who successfully started the whole “marriage and kids” thing at 40+?

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Anonymous wrote:Freeze your eggs ASAP. Don’t think about it just do it.

When the latest you can freeze your eggs?

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If you have PCOS, I heard you can have a longer window. Do some research to confirm.

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Yes, I know 2 people.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. One of my closest friends got married at 45 and had her first child at 50. She’s incredibly happy. It does happen. I’ve seen it happen.

Um, how?

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Anonymous wrote:Freeze your eggs ASAP. Don’t think about it just do it.

When the latest you can freeze your eggs?

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A friend of mine froze hers at 40, and apparently she had a large reserve. Everyone is different.

Has she tried to use them yet? It is so incredibly unlikely that anyone (ANYONE) can freeze eggs at 40 and get a viable pregnancy from them. It’s not at all the same as getting naturally pregnant at 40, which we all know happens to some people sometimes.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. One of my closest friends got married at 45 and had her first child at 50. She’s incredibly happy. It does happen. I’ve seen it happen.

Um, how?

I know someone who has 14 kids and tge 14th was at 50 all natural.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Freeze your eggs ASAP. Don’t think about it just do it.

When the latest you can freeze your eggs?

Like 35

If you have PCOS, I heard you can have a longer window. Do some research to confirm.

This is true. Both me and a friend are mid 30s (35, 38) have two children and can't conceive our 3rd. We both have been diagnosed with PCOS and have huge reserves. Of course no idea if that means we'll be successful or not.

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I have a friend who was climbing the corporate ladder, moving a lot, and didn’t marry until 45. She had a baby at 47 (presumably using DE—she didn’t share and I’m def not going to ask!). Baby looks just like dad anyway.
They have a nice house and lots of $$ to hire help, but she is very tired at 51 with a preschooler.
So OP, it’s possible but if kids are a priority for you I’d suggest starting earlier.

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Yes. My friend met her DH at 40, got married at 41, baby at 42 (no Ivf). Very happy. Her DH is a few years younger like late 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. One of my closest friends got married at 45 and had her first child at 50. She’s incredibly happy. It does happen. I’ve seen it happen.

Do not condone this.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. One of my closest friends got married at 45 and had her first child at 50. She’s incredibly happy. It does happen. I’ve seen it happen.

Um, how?

I know someone who has 14 kids and tge 14th was at 50 all natural.

Not true by means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Freeze your eggs ASAP. Don’t think about it just do it.

When the latest you can freeze your eggs?

Like 35

A friend of mine froze hers at 40, and apparently she had a large reserve. Everyone is different.

But most of them might not be good quality by that age.

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OP if you come on here and ask if people have ever heard of any particular scenario happening to anyone they’ve ever known, the answer will be yes. But how does that affect you? You should not let it influence your planning that some people on DCUM know someone who had a baby at 50. If you want a baby and you’re 40, go get your baby today. Deal with actual facts and science and your real life, not the anecdotes of some people on the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Freeze your eggs ASAP. Don’t think about it just do it.

When the latest you can freeze your eggs?

Like 35

A friend of mine froze hers at 40, and apparently she had a large reserve. Everyone is different.

But most of them might not be good quality by that age.

Right. Probably lots of poor quality eggs that won’t survive freezing and thawing and won’t fertilize. Fertility clinics probably should not freeze eggs for 40 year old women.

Signed, a former fertility patient

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Freeze your eggs ASAP. Don’t think about it just do it.

When the latest you can freeze your eggs?

Like 35

A friend of mine froze hers at 40, and apparently she had a large reserve. Everyone is different.

But most of them might not be good quality by that age.

They genetically screen then before freezing, do your research. It cost extra $4k per cycle and insurance covers it in some states. A woman might be able to get 2-3 viable eggs from several Ivf cycles up to age 50. Even when ovaries are technically “asleep”, not producing any ripe eggs naturally. Some women respond to hormone stimulation others don’t. Some might get just one viable egg with low reserve that results in healthy pregnancy. Others might get 10 eggs and all genetically mutated not fit for transfer into uterus.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Freeze your eggs ASAP. Don’t think about it just do it.

When the latest you can freeze your eggs?

Like 35

A friend of mine froze hers at 40, and apparently she had a large reserve. Everyone is different.

But most of them might not be good quality by that age.

Right. Probably lots of poor quality eggs that won’t survive freezing and thawing and won’t fertilize. Fertility clinics probably should not freeze eggs for 40 year old women.

Signed, a former fertility patient

Women should be free to freeze at any age. Signed a fertility patient who only got 3 eggs at age 27 when everyone advised to adopt. One became my beautiful son.