Coworkers keep commenting on my clothes - what should I be wearing?

[Anonymous]

OP, do they say something in your face? That is inappropriate and honestly unprofessional. Not everybody wants to wear leggings and sweatshirts to work.

I am 105lbs myself, but more on a sweatshirt side, because WFH and i don't have the energy to invest in thinking about outfits for zoom calls. And i would admire by what sounds like your completely professional put-together outfits.

[Anonymous]

I could see my younger coworkers saying things like this, but they really wouldn't mean any bad by it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another fat girl here with a fondness for nice shoes and accessories for the same reason. If you know them well enough for them to comment, you know them well enough to ask them nicely to stop commenting about prices.

I’d get less nice about it after that. Just a withering sigh and “what do you want me to say to that, Gladys?”

Why would you ask them nicely?

Just tell them to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another fat girl here with a fondness for nice shoes and accessories for the same reason. If you know them well enough for them to comment, you know them well enough to ask them nicely to stop commenting about prices.

I’d get less nice about it after that. Just a withering sigh and “what do you want me to say to that, Gladys?”

Why would you ask them nicely?

Just tell them to grow up.

I don't want to be rude. I'm sure in their minds, I'm flaunting "wealth."

[Anonymous]

Have you tried reframing their comments as compliments. I would lean in with a "Thank you-this purse makes me so happy!"

[Anonymous]

say ..."and I never pay full price!"
and wink and walk away

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny and carry $1000 handbags, because my employers are generous. People need to stay in their land and mind their own business. Wear what you want!!

[Anonymous]

Maybe they’re trying to compliment you or maybe they’re envious b’s. Hard to tell from the context. I work with a lot of younger people and I also sometimes get comments about how they couldn’t afford x,y,z. I’m mid 40’s and have spent several more decades working and saving. It’s your money and style darlin’, do what you want!

[Anonymous]

I think you sound ok and they sound rude to comment.

[Anonymous]

OP, can I ask what clothes/brands you wear? I’m about a size 16 and wanting to up-level my wardrobe.

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird that they are making these comments. You aren't doing anything weird or anything that seems like flaunting wealth. I mean, a Coach bag? It's just rude for them to say these things. Hopefully they are actually trying to complement you, and maybe you're just taking it wrong?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been in similar situations and said I bought the thing they were commenting on with a huge discount/at an outlet/on sale

[Anonymous]

Also you can tell them these are gifts! Imagine the excitement lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are rude.

Don’t change.

Agree. They probably look like slobs, as most people do these days.

You remind me of a local librarian I know. She is plus sized, but is always dressed impeccably, with hair done, tasteful makeup, and really fun printed dresses that have some structure. Think like the nicer Boden ones. She looks great! I’m just a patron, but I always make sure to compliment her when I see her and love her outfit. The other librarians wear very boring and unprofessional looking clothes: stretchy pants and plain sweaters, sneakers. I bet she gets the side eye from them. Glad she doesn’t seem to care

[Anonymous]

Keep doing you!

I had this happen when I was new and the only single, childfree worker years ago.

I kept getting so many "must be nice" comments when someone would ask what I did that weekend and I said something like went to a show/concert/shopping. It was just jealousy. They also always commented on my clothing because I wore nicer pieces than theirs. "Better enjoy the fancy clothes now before you have kids. Pretty soon you'll be sorting through your white shirts looking for the one with the least noticeable stain!" I finally shut them up with a "honestly, Deb, I don't even know if I still want kids after hearing how much all you guys complain about yours." They laid off after that.