Should my boyfriend help me move?

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[Post New]02/02/2023 16:21
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Anonymous
MAYBE HE ASSUMES HE WILL BE THERE HELPING. I WOULD.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:26
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Anonymous
No. You’re an adult with a job not a college student. Pay professionals to move your stuff. smh at your parasitism and entitlement.j
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:30
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:No. You’re an adult with a job not a college student. Pay professionals to move your stuff. smh at your parasitism and entitlement.j


She is paying someone. Read the OP.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:30
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Maybe I’m in the minority, but I would want help just because moving does suck. OP hasn’t stated where this relationship is going, if this is just a “for now” situation or if it’s something more. But if the latter, to me, this is part and parcel that kind of relationship. Being picked up from the airport, helping each other move, those are the things that soften the edges of life. Having sex and spending time together is nice, and if two divorceEd people are on the same page about only wanting that it makes sense. But I get the impression that that isn’t where the OP is at.


Agree with this.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:32
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Anonymous
He sounds really disappointing. Does he come through for you in other ways? I would not want him as a life partner or role model for my kids.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:33
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Anonymous
He really should have offered. I wouldn’t ask but I’d definitely re-think this relationship after you get settled.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:34
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Anonymous
One of the main reasons to have a boyfriend is so he can do stuff like help you move! Of course he should help. He should have offered frankly. Now if you’d ask if he should actually haul the furniture with his forty something back, my answer would be no
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:34
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Anonymous
I’ve had guys that I’ve been on like three dates with offer to help me move
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:35
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:You’ve been dating for a year and aren’t comfortable having this conversation with him? Of course he should help if he’s able, but he probably thinks you have it covered.


OP: I've been talking about it a lot and how the packing is a bit overwhelming; I guess I thought he'd offer. I never ask him to do anything for me really- never to help with my kids, or pick up something for me, or drive me anywhere. So I guess I'm feeling like I'm not getting much practical support from him in general.


Keep an eye out. My friend (in 40's, both with teens) was moving apartments and BF of over 2 years did not comment, offer support or to help etc. either. Within a month, ghosted and never heard from again.

[Post New]02/02/2023 16:39
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Helping people move is the worst. You hired movers. You’re a big girl yourself. Cut the guy a break. And when he moves don’t offer to help him either.


+ 1
You outsource this. You are not a young person in your 20s FFS, and you are not a married couple or a relative
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:41
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You’ve been dating for a year and aren’t comfortable having this conversation with him? Of course he should help if he’s able, but he probably thinks you have it covered.


OP: I've been talking about it a lot and how the packing is a bit overwhelming; I guess I thought he'd offer. I never ask him to do anything for me really- never to help with my kids, or pick up something for me, or drive me anywhere. So I guess I'm feeling like I'm not getting much practical support from him in general.


You pay packers and movers.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:44
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:One of the main reasons to have a boyfriend is so he can do stuff like help you move! Of course he should help. He should have offered frankly. Now if you’d ask if he should actually haul the furniture with his forty something back, my answer would be no


There is a reason both of you are divorced. Don't be a parasite. Do this yourself. I would expect him to help you if you were sick but not if you could outsource work
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:44
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Anonymous
He shouldn’t move you but if he were a real mensch he’d offer to help in some fashion. Sounds like he doesn’t take your arrangement very seriously and has no interest in filling a husband role for you.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:45
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had guys that I’ve been on like three dates with offer to help me move


Because its a new relationship and they are expecting booty.
[Post New]02/02/2023 16:47
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Anonymous
Both of you have baggage (divorced, aged, kids) and your relationship is largely not the biggest priority for either of you. Don't be a drag.
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