Teens driving friends while having provisional license

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[Post New]02/02/2023 07:14
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Anonymous
We live in a state that has this license for 9 months. Obviously, we were kids as new drivers they need to follow the law. I am also certain that nearly 100% kids don’t go the full 9 months without a friend in car. It’s really an eternity in the life of a teenager. And I don’t think most parents know (how would they?) I do think my older kid was picking a friend up for little local jaunts by month 5 or 6 but I don’t know for sure. Younger kid is on month 3 now and I don’t think he has had yet but really there’s no way to be sure.
[Post New]02/02/2023 07:16
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your kid will 100% get locked up if they get caught doing this.


Obviously, this isn’t true, but they do lose their license. I did not allow my kid to be the driver or the passenger breaking the rule. I would say you don’t want anyone to lose their license over this.

I’ve never heard of someone getting pulled over to check, kid probably has to make a driving violation to get busted, which of course is probably more likely with friends in the car.


They lose their license?


Ask your insurance agent what it will do to your rates, too
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:06
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Anonymous
We are not in MD; we live in Virginia.
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:14
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Anonymous
Do we allow it? No. Do they do it? Probably, yes. If they are at school at want to go to chic fila which is two minutes up the street, I highly doubt my son drives and watches his two other friends walk along side him on the sidewalk…
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:18
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Anonymous wrote:Do we allow it? No. Do they do it? Probably, yes. If they are at school at want to go to chic fila which is two minutes up the street, I highly doubt my son drives and watches his two other friends walk along side him on the sidewalk…


Yep, this.
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:25
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Anonymous
My son's friend in MD got caught. yes lost license til age 21.
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:44
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Hard no. There is a good reason for this rule.

+1
Absolutely no way would I allow this, either my kid driving or my kid riding with a friend who did this.
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:46
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Have had 3 kids get their driver’s licenses so far. They follow the limitations of the provisional license or they don’t drive. It’s not negotiable for us.

Look up the statistics on the risks associated with newly-licensed drivers having teen passengers. It’s something like having 2 teen passengers doubles the risk of a fatal crash and 3+ passengers quadruples it. These rules exist for a reason.


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My cousin was in a *horrible* car accident as a teen (broke her back) when she was a passenger in a full car being driven by a friend. No one was drinking, no one had cell phones (this was years ago), but it's just really unsafe.
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:47
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Anonymous
They lose their license, and you might have big problems with insurance if they are involved in an accident while driving in violation of the terms of a provisional license.
[Post New]02/02/2023 08:50
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Anonymous
Absolutely not.

It has a downside though, because it means they take 5 cars everywhere they go instead of 1. They aren't distracting each other in the car, but there are more teen drivers on the road than necessary (and likely more dangerous competitive driving behavior).
[Post New]02/02/2023 09:00
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Anonymous
No. Illegal and unsafe. My son has his provisional license now. In theory he could start driving others in a month but he won’t be. He doesn’t drive much and needs more time to get more experience and confidence.
I will say that while my kid doesn’t want to take others — he is a super cautious person by nature— he has at least one friend who is eager to get rides— has calculated the exact day on which my son is allowed by law to have passengers. I know this because I know this kid and interact with him a lot. I imagine there may be others I don’t know of as well. So that’s something you have to anticipate and manage.
[Post New]02/02/2023 09:05
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Anonymous wrote:No. Illegal and unsafe. My son has his provisional license now. In theory he could start driving others in a month but he won’t be. He doesn’t drive much and needs more time to get more experience and confidence.
I will say that while my kid doesn’t want to take others — he is a super cautious person by nature— he has at least one friend who is eager to get rides— has calculated the exact day on which my son is allowed by law to have passengers. I know this because I know this kid and interact with him a lot. I imagine there may be others I don’t know of as well. So that’s something you have to anticipate and manage.


Yeah, friends asking for a rides is challenging. My DS started getting requests a couple of days after he got his provisional license. He actually came up with a plan to Uber sometimes to get togethers so that he wasn’t always saying no to his friends, which I thought was a creative solution.
[Post New]02/02/2023 09:07
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. Illegal and unsafe. My son has his provisional license now. In theory he could start driving others in a month but he won’t be. He doesn’t drive much and needs more time to get more experience and confidence.
I will say that while my kid doesn’t want to take others — he is a super cautious person by nature— he has at least one friend who is eager to get rides— has calculated the exact day on which my son is allowed by law to have passengers. I know this because I know this kid and interact with him a lot. I imagine there may be others I don’t know of as well. So that’s something you have to anticipate and manage.


Yeah, friends asking for a rides is challenging. My DS started getting requests a couple of days after he got his provisional license. He actually came up with a plan to Uber sometimes to get togethers so that he wasn’t always saying no to his friends, which I thought was a creative solution.

Make sure your kid knows that they can use you as the bad guy and totally throw you under the bus on this.
[Post New]02/02/2023 09:10
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Anonymous
Absolutely not. And not after that either, not for a long, long time. We make the rules, and they are way stricter than the law.
[Post New]02/02/2023 12:09
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My son's friend in MD got caught. yes lost license til age 21.


That seems like an incredibly harsh punishment. 5 years of no license?
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