Child Support -VA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a very high income, you have health insurance at a very low cost. By the time you fight it, you will spend more on attorney fees than you will get. You want the money out of the principal. You can fully support your child. Leave it alone and let the anger go for your and your child's sake. It will take a year to work through the courts and if its not a US company it will be hard to get a garnishment and if you do, he'll probably job jump again. If you had a toddler or young child, it might be worth it.

There is a child support payment in the divorce decree. The verbal agreement is something we agreed upon because his income had more than doubled for the inital job he got overseas.

He is not paying anything at all.

[Anonymous]

Kid is 14. You have about 4 years before CS ends. You make a healthy income, it sounds like. You are guessing about his. Even if you could determine it, the differential may not be as much as you think and translate to maybe a couple of hundred dollars more a month. Over four years that might be $10,000 or so in total? And you will spend half that at least on legal fees and not see the inside out of a courtroom for a year. And even if you win there is probably no enforcement mechanism.

Is it worth it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a very high income, you have health insurance at a very low cost. By the time you fight it, you will spend more on attorney fees than you will get. You want the money out of the principal. You can fully support your child. Leave it alone and let the anger go for your and your child's sake. It will take a year to work through the courts and if its not a US company it will be hard to get a garnishment and if you do, he'll probably job jump again. If you had a toddler or young child, it might be worth it.

There is a child support payment in the divorce decree. The verbal agreement is something we agreed upon because his income had more than doubled for the inital job he got overseas.

He is not paying anything at all.

You keep posting here and we keep telling you to take it to court. Either take it to court or leave it alone and just ask for what the court has ordered. Anything about that isn't enforceable. The more you keep demanding and the more nasty you are, the more he's going to push back.

Your child is 14. You have a very good income, very low cost health care, military retirement. Go to court if you aren't willing to leave it alone. Posting here complaining and getting advice you refuse to follow makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a very high income, you have health insurance at a very low cost. By the time you fight it, you will spend more on attorney fees than you will get. You want the money out of the principal. You can fully support your child. Leave it alone and let the anger go for your and your child's sake. It will take a year to work through the courts and if its not a US company it will be hard to get a garnishment and if you do, he'll probably job jump again. If you had a toddler or young child, it might be worth it.

There is a child support payment in the divorce decree. The verbal agreement is something we agreed upon because his income had more than doubled for the inital job he got overseas.

He is not paying anything at all.

You keep posting here and we keep telling you to take it to court. Either take it to court or leave it alone and just ask for what the court has ordered. Anything about that isn't enforceable. The more you keep demanding and the more nasty you are, the more he's going to push back.

Your child is 14. You have a very good income, very low cost health care, military retirement. Go to court if you aren't willing to leave it alone. Posting here complaining and getting advice you refuse to follow makes no sense.

This is my first time posting on here. But, "OK".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a very high income, you have health insurance at a very low cost. By the time you fight it, you will spend more on attorney fees than you will get. You want the money out of the principal. You can fully support your child. Leave it alone and let the anger go for your and your child's sake. It will take a year to work through the courts and if its not a US company it will be hard to get a garnishment and if you do, he'll probably job jump again. If you had a toddler or young child, it might be worth it.

There is a child support payment in the divorce decree. The verbal agreement is something we agreed upon because his income had more than doubled for the inital job he got overseas.

He is not paying anything at all.

You keep posting here and we keep telling you to take it to court. Either take it to court or leave it alone and just ask for what the court has ordered. Anything about that isn't enforceable. The more you keep demanding and the more nasty you are, the more he's going to push back.

Your child is 14. You have a very good income, very low cost health care, military retirement. Go to court if you aren't willing to leave it alone. Posting here complaining and getting advice you refuse to follow makes no sense.

This is my first time posting on here. But, "OK".

Nope, multiple threads about the ex abroad, child support, verbal agreement...

[Anonymous]

The court (i.e. the judge) is not going to ask you to bring in bank statements. However, your Ex has the right to request copies of your bank statements as part of the discovery process for fairly obvious reasons; primarily to make sure you are not hiding income. Also, interest earned on bank accounts is added to gross income which probably won't move the dial on the calculations unless you have a ton of cash in high interest accounts.

You should consult a lawyer on the effect of those higher payments he made and whether they are considered gifts or whether they could be credited against future child support payments.

Finally, remember that child support is considered a judgment as it becomes due and is thus collectible for 20 years. If he starts paying again you may consider deferring collecting the arrears so as not to rock the boat and collect once he no longer needs to pay.

IANYL and of course this is not legal advice.