Toddler discipline

[Anonymous]

If you said he was 8 my response would be different but at 2-3 i find modeling the appropriate response rather than immediately reprimanding typically works best. Especially if it’s the first time they do something “out of character”. While your response wasn’t necessarily wrong imo, it also didn’t teach him anything.

At this age it’s often lack of knowledge about how you expect them to behave and less malicious intent imo. I’d say thanks for letting me know you need help but when you need help with something this is how you should ask (use age appropriate/natural language) then role play once or twice and fix the toy.

I’d avoid drawing too much attention to the fact that he yelled the first time and spend more time praising him after you practice and he does it like you prefer. Remember it might not be perfect either, he’s still learning, so as long as the “practice” run is better than what you got the first time (yelling and inappropriate), praise the attempt and expect better the first time the next time. For something like asking for help which is an important life skill you might need to create situations where he needs help and practice with him (not all at once just when you think about it) so he has a chance to practice lots and learn it young.

I think many times parents expect perfection but forget the part where we have to teach them things in small steps. Be consistent, model kindness, and save “discipline “ for things that have been taught and he’s clearly just acting out so to speak. And be kind to yourself, parenting is hard work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No Bad Kids completely changed the way I patented my toddlers in a VERY GOOD way. I still use things I learned from that book. It’s made me a more empathetic parent than I ever had. But I am still strict and have high standards for behavior. But I don’t expect robot children.

I'm another big fan of No Bad Kids. I do not know how I'd have parented my toddlers without it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No time out. When misbehaves, explain the child about the cause and effect. We take care of ourselves and our things.
If the child is angry or sad let the child sit down and let him calm down by itself. Only they can do it. Before leaving the child to calm down say, when you are feeling better you are welcome to join and play, etc

Ugh. Leave a 2 year old to figure out how to handle and calm down from their big scary feelings by themselves? Teach them that they can only be with you when they’re happy and calm. No thanks.

You tell the child its ok to be angry. When you feel angry, sad sit down, listen to the sounds, feel the air. Its mindfulness.

Just like adults, children needs time and space to cool off. So they learn to control thier emotions. This is the start.
We are teaching young toddlers to breathe in and breathe out also when they're are angry. You can be angry. Just not act out on it. It' will pass.

You can not breathe for your angry child. Let them learn to control their emotions.

[Anonymous]

De nada

[Anonymous]

If you feel the misbehaving is surpassing the limits, it's not normal. The child needs to be checked with a behavioralist. If your a religious or anti meds, trust your doctor. Your child might need medication