Should I send my 15 month old to daycare?
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Anonymous
Kindergarten teacher here, we know which ones are the SAHM/Nanny kids. They have a really hard time adjusting to school. |
Anonymous
Fascinating! I remember a time when teachers used to say they could always tell which kids had been in daycare since infancy, and not in a good way. There are pros and cons to the several early childcare options, a lot depends on the child's personality and temperament and a lot also depends on the quality of the care whether it's SAHM, nanny or daycare center. Generalizations about which is better for all kids are not really helpful at all. |
Anonymous
| I started DS at 15 months, and DD at 5 months. Both are happy and thriving. I can't remember any particular difficulties with starting at 15 months. |
Anonymous
| Do what works for you and your family. We have a nanny as much for our sake as parents (no drop off/pickup, not missing work because of constant illness) as for my toddler’s sake (1:1 attention, naps in his own crib, etc). We plan to enroll him in half-day preschool when he turns 3 and think that will be plenty of time for him to get socialization/experience in a classroom setting before kindergarten. But we are also super fortunate to have found an awesome nanny and to be able to comfortably afford her. If we had been in a different boat, we would not hesitate to do daycare. (In fact, until a sudden change in income a couple of years ago, we had always assumed we would be daycare parents. ) |
Anonymous
It's unlikely there would be a spot for a 15mo immediately. I would start visiting daycares and getting on lists if you haven't already OP. With ratios more spots tend to open at 2, so that's a natural time to move. |
Anonymous
| My child started at 14-15 mos and it was the perfect age. |
Anonymous
| Mine started daycare at 16 months because of the pandemic. I had expected her to be in daycare at 6 months. Instead, she had two parents juggling work full time and childcare. She was a great sleeper so we made it work. I think it was really nice for her to have a very consistent sleep and eating schedule but I’m sure she would have been fine if she’d had gone earlier. She’s now 30 months and has learned so much! I love her little Montessori school/daycare. |
Anonymous
| 3 months old is fine. Any age. It's your preference with schedules, etc. It all matters that your children gets love and patience from any setting |
Anonymous
| We had a FT nanny until the youngest was 7. We sent the oldest to part time day care 4-half days a week at 18 months. By the youngest we sent her 2 half days at 18 months. We would have done more but the daycare was really an over subscribed church preschool and there simply wasn’t availability. There are clear benefits and drawbacks of both, so we tried to balance the two. Finances were not an issue for us, so we kept the nanny. Absolutely, don’t feel guilty putting a 15 month old in full time care you have to. There will be a bit of initial anxiety, but they will get some language benefits. |
Anonymous
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Daycare is Preschool too. Most daycare providers are preschool Teachers. We love our Teacher!
Daycares are Family Child Care homes who gives love and education to the little ones. It's just smaller group. It's your preference. The cons of centers is that not always the child gets much attention 1:1. Every childcare setting needs more staff. But that's me. Go with your gut, any childcare setting will give love and patience to children |
Anonymous
Bullshit. My kids did NOT have a hard time adjusting to school. Probably because school was not their first time being in a class with other kids, taught by a teacher or coach. They took tumbling, dance, art, etc., in the year before they started school specifically to learn how to take direction by someone else, how to function in a group of kids, and how to ignore the kids and focus on the teacher's instructions when needed. But you go on thinking you know everything and are superior since it makes you feel so good. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
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You are approaching the age where separation anxiety kicks in. My kid loved his daycare, but at about age 2 for six months or so, he cried and pitched a fit at drop off, as did several other kids. We would get him in and then I’d go, and he was wailing, bu the time I got to the outside of the building, he was calm, happy, and playing, and when I came to pick him up at night, he didn’t want to go home.
So just be mindful that if you start soon and see this, that it may not have anything to do with daycare, but it’s just a normal-ish thing. |
Anonymous
Certain posters here who identify themselves as teachers have serious Dunning-Kruger issues |
Anonymous
| I would never, but it’s up to you obviously |