Dax Tejera’s widow’s arrest for child endangerment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does a camera help if you see your child choking or see an intruder? And if you're enjoying dinner with friends, are you really watching the camera? Scary.

NP. Agree, a camera is useless if a child is in imminent danger and you're not near enough to do anything.

The circumstances -- of the issue with the children, totally apart from Tejera's tragic death -- remind me of the disappearance of Madeleine McCann. He parentsr left her (age 3) and her 2-year-old twin siblings alone in a rented apartment while the parents went out to dinner. The restaurant was only 180 feet from the ground floor apartment and supposedly the parents checked on the kids in person at some, or several, points, but she was kidnapped by someone who entered the apartment while the parents were at dinner, and she has never been found.

You just don't leave young children alone like that. Even if you're just feet away. Socializing and dining, which is going to distract you no matter how much you check in via camera or in person.

At first I thought for sure that Tejera's widow must have been with the kids and frantically rushed out in a total and understandable panic, leaving them. But knowing that both parents chose this setup with no thought for fire, choking, the thousand other things a young kid can get into--wow, that gobsmacks me.

+ 1 And no time wasted (being prostrate with grief)before asking for contributions to the kid’s 529 plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does a camera help if you see your child choking or see an intruder? And if you're enjoying dinner with friends, are you really watching the camera? Scary.

NP. Agree, a camera is useless if a child is in imminent danger and you're not near enough to do anything.

The circumstances -- of the issue with the children, totally apart from Tejera's tragic death -- remind me of the disappearance of Madeleine McCann. He parentsr left her (age 3) and her 2-year-old twin siblings alone in a rented apartment while the parents went out to dinner. The restaurant was only 180 feet from the ground floor apartment and supposedly the parents checked on the kids in person at some, or several, points, but she was kidnapped by someone who entered the apartment while the parents were at dinner, and she has never been found.

You just don't leave young children alone like that. Even if you're just feet away. Socializing and dining, which is going to distract you no matter how much you check in via camera or in person.

At first I thought for sure that Tejera's widow must have been with the kids and frantically rushed out in a total and understandable panic, leaving them. But knowing that both parents chose this setup with no thought for fire, choking, the thousand other things a young kid can get into--wow, that gobsmacks me.

+ 1 And no time wasted (being prostrate with grief)before asking for contributions to the kid’s 529 plan.

Yeah, she's a piece of work. Especially at that income level.

I have to wonder if they were both on drugs to make a poor decision like that. And have a heart attack that young.

[Anonymous]

The article I read today said they left the children alone for two hours while they went out to dinner. Yes, under the surveillance of a camera, but as we all know that doesn't matter. It might be ok if you are out on the patio or in another part of the house but not two hours out to dinner a block away.

[Anonymous]

I get that it's frustrating when your kids just sleep. 99.9999999999999 it would be totally fine. Except sometimes it's not.

I also thought of Madeleine McCann.

When my kids were young and my husband would (very rarely) travel, walking the dog at night was a challenge (and the dog needed to go out - city living, no yard). I'd carry the baby monitor and walk back and forth in front of the house, which was not satisfying to the dog. Or on nice summer nights my husband and I might have drinks on the porch with neighbors, again with baby monitor in hand.

At their income and status levels, it really is inexcusable not to hire a babysitter for a couple of hours. And I have to believe he had life insurance? I hope so.

[Anonymous]

Anyone want to bet that they were out for more than dinner? Someone his age generally doesn't have a heart attack without a stimulant involved.

[Anonymous]

So many headlines (and articles, even) are making it seem like she rushed out of the hotel with her sick husband. Not that they went out on the town and left their kids in the hotel.

So much for responsible journalism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get that it's frustrating when your kids just sleep. 99.9999999999999 it would be totally fine. Except sometimes it's not.

I also thought of Madeleine McCann.

When my kids were young and my husband would (very rarely) travel, walking the dog at night was a challenge (and the dog needed to go out - city living, no yard). I'd carry the baby monitor and walk back and forth in front of the house, which was not satisfying to the dog. Or on nice summer nights my husband and I might have drinks on the porch with neighbors, again with baby monitor in hand.

At their income and status levels, it really is inexcusable not to hire a babysitter for a couple of hours. And I have to believe he had life insurance? I hope so.

As far as I can tell, her good friends and parents got there quickly. Even more ridiculous that they didn't set up child care beforehand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get that it's frustrating when your kids just sleep. 99.9999999999999 it would be totally fine. Except sometimes it's not.

I also thought of Madeleine McCann.

When my kids were young and my husband would (very rarely) travel, walking the dog at night was a challenge (and the dog needed to go out - city living, no yard). I'd carry the baby monitor and walk back and forth in front of the house, which was not satisfying to the dog. Or on nice summer nights my husband and I might have drinks on the porch with neighbors, again with baby monitor in hand.

At their income and status levels, it really is inexcusable not to hire a babysitter for a couple of hours. And I have to believe he had life insurance? I hope so.

As far as I can tell, her good friends and parents got there quickly. Even more ridiculous that they didn't set up child care beforehand.

I thought they were with the couple?

[Anonymous]

Holy $hit, I still remember Madeline McCann. I would never, ever leave children that young in a hotel room. I’m so sorry her husband died while they were at a dinner party, BUT I must be super old because no one ever talks about Madeline McCann any more and they never found her. Scared the crap out of me. I would never leave my kids that young.

Didn’t a couple do this to go to a wine tasting at the Ritz near GW and left their kids in the car (and watched them on FaceTime)?

[Anonymous]

Wow. A wealthy, educated couple (she was a senior producer for the Washington Post!!!) - there was absolutely no excuse. I guarantee they had done this before - given her overconfidence about it. The arrest was absolutely warrented.

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/world/abc-news...e-arrest/ar-AA15Uqdg

[Anonymous]

If her sister was able to get there so quickly, why wasn’t she babysitting them then? I don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Oof. I don't know anything about this case and I've left my young child with hotel nannies several times, but I would never be comfortable with just a baby monitor after reading about the Madeleine McCann case. Horrifying.

[Anonymous]

I was babysitting my infant grandson in a hotel in Charlotte. He was very fussy and hotel security came to the door. Not because of the noise, but because of the concern the baby was alone. Security said it happens all the time that people go out to dinner and leave children. Unbelievable!

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for her that her husband died, but they left their kids alone in a hotel room and went to a restaurant outside the building - cameras would be no help if one of the children became suddenly ill, or a fire broke out, or some creep on the staff decided to molest or abduct one of their kids. It’s mindblowing to me that after Madeline McCann’s abduction - and likely torture and death - any parent but especially any educated intelligent parent would leave kids unattended this way. They could afford a babysitter, and most hotels have services with pre-vetted sitters. Shame on her, I hope she steps up and does better as a single grieving parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to bet that they were out for more than dinner? Someone his age generally doesn't have a heart attack without a stimulant involved.

Pure conjecture, but yes, one wonders.