Is this normal - grandma saying Santa comes to her house to bring kids Christmas presents

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Anonymous wrote:This is what you took time away from your family to post? This is what is occupying your brain? I’m embarrassed for you.

Does that mean you are also embarrassed for yourself for reading a strangers question and responding?

Well I’m embarrassed for her - that should be enough!

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Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not normal, and I would shut that down fast. She had her turn to be Santa. Tell her on no uncertain terms that Santa is you and DH, end of list.

Holy control issues.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a made up story; so people make up the details in different ways. I don’t see how you are losing anything if your kid believes this for a couple of years. The whole story is pretty ridiculous, so there are plenty of details the kids pick apart when they start to realize that - this is not likely to be the inconsistent detail that reveals the truth. Obviously you have deeper issues with your mom and her overstepping what you see as your role; I would focus on resolving that instead of the particular details surrounding the Santa myth.

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Op here. Yes, this is probably the bigger issue. Thanks for the feedback. I do find my mil historically overbearing and mostly inconsiderate of boundaries. In the past she has said things like Christmas is “her” holiday to do. She also used to stop by unannounced, make plans with our kid without asking either of us, call every day for kid updates etc etc. She has invited herself to family stuff without asking like once she literally bought a plane ticket to go on vacay with us without telling us she would be there. Anyway all that stuff has ended after some messy conversations but I am def sensitive to it. Came on here for some quick feedback. Thanks to all who actually gave it to me.

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OP stop being ridiculous! Who cares???

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I’m a grandmother here, spending Christmas with my DD and Son-in-Law. SILs family tradition is big dinner Christmas Eve (though he said not gift opening.) SILs mother/the other grandmother said same thing w/Santa having dropped presents at her house already and said Santa wanted them all opened last night. What I found odd/presumptuous was this ‘Santa’ fulfilled nearly the entirety of our granddaughters’ wish lists “duplicating” nearly everything my DD/SIL had purchased but these were pretty awful near-dollar store knock offs. In the moment granddaughters thrilled with, for example, Barbie playhouse woo hoo!! and a ‘American Girl’ doll - same size but not even close to a nice example. But not only are almost every gift extremely tacky there were so many as I said “duplicating” the entire wish list so many many gifts) what I find especially selfish about this is that with no chance to replace already purchased gifts, I feel like the other grandmother has taken away some of the magic rightfully due to the parents to get the Santa presents their kids ask for.

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I hate it too. Especially since my kids then question why Santa doesn’t bring gifts to both grandparents houses and only one. And they want to know why they have stockings at grandmas house??

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a made up story; so people make up the details in different ways. I don’t see how you are losing anything if your kid believes this for a couple of years. The whole story is pretty ridiculous, so there are plenty of details the kids pick apart when they start to realize that - this is not likely to be the inconsistent detail that reveals the truth. Obviously you have deeper issues with your mom and her overstepping what you see as your role; I would focus on resolving that instead of the particular details surrounding the Santa myth.

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Op here. Yes, this is probably the bigger issue. Thanks for the feedback. I do find my mil historically overbearing and mostly inconsiderate of boundaries. In the past she has said things like Christmas is “her” holiday to do. She also used to stop by unannounced, make plans with our kid without asking either of us, call every day for kid updates etc etc. She has invited herself to family stuff without asking like once she literally bought a plane ticket to go on vacay with us without telling us she would be there. Anyway all that stuff has ended after some messy conversations but I am def sensitive to it. Came on here for some quick feedback. Thanks to all who actually gave it to me.

Holy cow. Yeah this isn’t about Santa, this is about an overstepping MIL!

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Omg. Be thankful that they have a grandmother that gives gifts and spends time with her grandchildren. Be thankful that she wants to make memories. Not everything needs and answer and not everything needs to be interpreted to be negative. You can see the positive in this, right OP?

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Those of you hating on the OP clearly don’t have a MIL who has overstepped. I am firmly Team OP here. My MIL has gone so overboard buying gifts for my only child that it amounted to thousands of dollars, making our “normal” Christmas presents look paltry in comparison. There does not need to be such excess, MIL has had the chance to play Santa. She does not need to make it a big deal and instead should just give a few gifts from Grandma. Give me a break.

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My grandmother on one side did the same thing. The other didn’t. Who cares? As a kid, I sure didn’t and wasted not a single ounce of energy wondering about it. That’s just the way it was.

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I think she is just trying to have your back on the Santa thing

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If your kids are questioning anything Santa does with too much scrutiny you’re about at the end one Santa anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kids are questioning anything Santa does with too much scrutiny you’re about at the end of Santa anyway.

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You have issues.

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My ILs do the same thing. I find it annoying too but they do a lot for us so I let it go. We have an only and she’s also the only grandchild. I feel like they had their kids and dad Santa.. leave mine alone for us to do it… but like I said, they help us out a lot so I let it go……