Major midlife crisis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am feeling similarly OP. Well, lucky to have a DH I don’t want to flee, who indulges me in my ridiculousness, but I still know what you mean. I was pretty wild when younger and happily gave all that up for a long term relationship, then marriage in my early thirties. Didn’t have so much as a crush on anyone for over a decade, found fulfillment (and exhaustion!)in a busy life of work, kids, husband, hobbies. I am now 42 and constantly thinking about sex, going out way more, partying with friends, flirting with the idea of swinging or at least making out with others (with DH permission). It’s fun, though, I’m not too worried about it. Has to be hormonal on some level. Does feel like a second adolescence…

Just wanted to say that I wish my spouse was like this. Thanks for sharing.

You have kids? What do they think of their new mom?

[Anonymous]

Having teens is tough. why does no one tell you this?

I feel similar, hormones must have something to do with it. Read some erotica, have fantasies, & have sex with your husband. It can be a fun reawakening of how you 2 were back in the beginning, try to channel that energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is probably the crux: "I have an urge to flee my asocial husband and my problematic teen."

Tread carefully that you don't do something you'll regret as you work through this temporary time in your life.

Problematic teen will change. Asocial husband probably will not. All three kids of mine are grown and launched, doing well. Husband is still asocial, preferring only to indulge in his own hobby. No vacations if it doesn’t involve his hobby, nor activities unless it does. And it has to be hostel-like accommodations.