Two year old will NOT let us cut his hair

[Anonymous]

Another one here whose son hated the Electric device they use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then don't cut it. Wait. I'm assuming he doesn't have any formal events or presentations coming up.

This. Not necessary for health and well-being then not worth the struggle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then don't cut it. Wait. I'm assuming he doesn't have any formal events or presentations coming up.

If they wait his fear will be stronger. Need to keep exposing him to getting his hair cut and he'll soon realize it's ok.

Hahahahaha. Clearly you didn't have this issue with your child. Mine is 5.5, we have been getting his hair cut every 8 weeks since he was 1 and he STILL hates it/fears it. We've moved past the violent thrashing phase, but there are still tears every.single.haircut. It's exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Are you buzzing it or cutting it with scissors?

[Anonymous]

What? He won't let you. No, fake news. You're the adult. You're rules. If you want his hair cut, then get at it. So what if he tantrums. 2 year olds tantrum. Big deal. Let him have his fit and do it anyway. Let him sit on your lap.

If you're cool with the shaggy look...fine...who cares. But...he's gonna wig out about brushing it too. The hair cut is an every few weeks/months battle. Brushing knotty hair is a chronic twice a day battle.

You're choice.

[Anonymous]

My friend's 3 1/2 year old grandson has never had a haircut. Who knows how old he will be when it happens. He knows he just has to whimper and it won't happen.

No advice OP. How is he for brushing it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then don't cut it. Wait. I'm assuming he doesn't have any formal events or presentations coming up.

If they wait his fear will be stronger. Need to keep exposing him to getting his hair cut and he'll soon realize it's ok.

Lol. No. Jfc how old are you.

Thankfully now we know that exposure therapy is utter crap. Very trauma uninformed.

What? You're wrong. Exposure therapy can be very helpful to many many people! They're not putting him in a pit of snakes, he's getting a haircut, which isn't physically painful. At all. I think an exposure ladder could really help op. Start by brushing his hair a lot. Like someone else said, touch scalp and his ears so he gets used to it. Think of small steps you can do in between and write it on a paper. Give him a bribe like a Hershey kiss when each task is done.

[Anonymous]

Buzz it all off and you’ll only have to cut it twice a year to keep it out of his eyes.

[Anonymous]

Cartoons and one parent holds from behind while one cuts with scissors. I would do a little every day until it’s a non issue. You can’t let these things become a battle, but now that it’s a battle, you have to win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then don't cut it. Wait. I'm assuming he doesn't have any formal events or presentations coming up.

If they wait his fear will be stronger. Need to keep exposing him to getting his hair cut and he'll soon realize it's ok.

He will not go to college with hair down to his feet. I promise you this. It is not a big deal. No need to make a thing out of it. Swimming lessons, yes, kids need to learn to swim, hair cut - no he will eventually ask for it himself or do it himself or some neighbors kid will.

The “he won’t go to college like that” trope is the weirdest thing to me. I don’t think that’s anyone’s fear with regard to potty training or hair cutting or whatever. We’re trying to strike the right balance of authority and autonomy so that our kids feel secure and confident, and they go to college with good mental health and competent life skills. I just don’t think it’s a good argument, and it’s condescending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then don't cut it. Wait. I'm assuming he doesn't have any formal events or presentations coming up.

If they wait his fear will be stronger. Need to keep exposing him to getting his hair cut and he'll soon realize it's ok.

Lol. No. Jfc how old are you.

Thankfully now we know that exposure therapy is utter crap. Very trauma uninformed.

Eh in this case yes I think it is silly. Child is 2, he will get over it and "exposures" just mean more grief for everyone.

But not every mental health issue is caused by trauma. My young child suffers from an anxiety disorder, and exposures are really, really important to her treatment.

[Anonymous]

Well this thread is a relief. My 2 year old DS also hates hair cuts. Terrified of the buzzer but can handle quick work with scissors. Hoping he outgrows this soon because he has so much hair, he needs a cut every 4 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well this thread is a relief. My 2 year old DS also hates hair cuts. Terrified of the buzzer but can handle quick work with scissors. Hoping he outgrows this soon because he has so much hair, he needs a cut every 4 weeks.

All he needs is a ponytail holder.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well this thread is a relief. My 2 year old DS also hates hair cuts. Terrified of the buzzer but can handle quick work with scissors. Hoping he outgrows this soon because he has so much hair, he needs a cut every 4 weeks.

All he needs is a ponytail holder.

PP here. This made me laugh because we do 🙂

[Anonymous]

OP, they usually outgrow this! Don't worry.

In fact, I saw a little boy at church today, 5, who has always been terrified of haircuts so had long hair, often in a bun or ponytail. Today he came in with a sharp new short haircut!

He was going to see Santa later today and decided that he wanted a haircut for the picture LOL his mom took him right to the salon! So yes, they won't go to college without having had a haircut