Having a hard time accepting my dad has a girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your feelings are totally normal, but if you can, try to think of it as a testament to their marriage. IME the ones who find love again quickly do so because they had such a good experience the first time, they can’t handle the idea of being alone. I watched this with my cousin who lost the love of his life. His daughters struggled with feeling like mom was “replaced,” even though the new woman to her credit did try to honor her memory. OTOH my widowed grandmothers, both of whom had crappy marriages and were widowed early, never looked at a man again and had great sunset years solo, 😆

This!! It is totally normal to feel weird about it, OP. You don't have to feel guilty about your mixed emotions. But I agree with PP - those in my family who had wonderful happy marriages were quick to try again - they know how much it can enrich your life to be with someone you care about. Those in crappy marriages stayed happily single for the rest of their days.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I will be for real. It is not a testament to anyone's marriage when a man partners up again.

Its ok to be sad. Odds are, you will get pushed aside, and her family will become the family. If that doesn't happen, then it's fantastic.

The bright side is, if she's in it for the long haul, then she's a bit younger than him and can take care of him when the time comes.

[Anonymous]

My dad now has a GF 33 years his junior and younger than me! It is tough but you would get over it.