Do you think it is appropriate to play violent video games in front of young children?

[Anonymous]

The biggest problem is that your spouse is dismissing your feelings about this. Being a parent means you have to set some boundaries, and being a co-parent means you have to negotiate those boundaries. His outright dismissal of your concern is the biggest problem here. It’s not about the video games. It’s about his inability to sit and talk this this through.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on the kid. Does she seem upset by it? If not, it’s fine.

Tell me you’re not around children ever without saying you’re never around children.

Don't be ridiculous. Your kids aren't as fragile as you seem to think they are.

Or I should say your kids weren't, since I bet you're a grandma at this point.

Damn, this is what you’re bringing to the table: grandma insults and thinking that kids must be fine as long as they are not visibly crying or upset. Wow.

It wasn’t intended as an insult, just an educated guess. Which I continue to believe is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest problem is that your spouse is dismissing your feelings about this. Being a parent means you have to set some boundaries, and being a co-parent means you have to negotiate those boundaries. His outright dismissal of your concern is the biggest problem here. It’s not about the video games. It’s about his inability to sit and talk this this through.

What makes you think the husband was more dismissive of the wife’s viewpoint than the other way around? Did she even try talking to her daughter to see if there was any reason to think there was a problem?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH is playing video games next to my 5yo daughter. The purpose of the game is to shoot and kill the enemy. Graphics very violent. Dh seems to think I’m unreasonable to think this is inappropriate. I just need a reality check because I’m so bothered by the whole situation.

Team DH. Relax.

You are one trashy person, and I don't often use that word. A 5 yo is not a 2 yo. That's in big kid territory and whoever is playing the games should care what the kid is seeing. But for your household, I guess it probably doesn't matter since this is your attitude. Probably video games are just the tip of whatever media your kids are seeing you watch.

[Anonymous]

I'd need to see the game to judge - my kids are 5 years apart, and the eldest has viewed violent movies in front of my youngest. Said youngest watched Jurassic World in 3D for her 4th birthday, and loved it.

But there is a line, and your husband has to respect your opinions and reach some sort of compromise with you on where that line is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the kid. Does she seem upset by it? If not, it’s fine.

Tell me you’re not around children ever without saying you’re never around children.

Don't be ridiculous. Your kids aren't as fragile as you seem to think they are.

Or I should say your kids weren't, since I bet you're a grandma at this point.

Damn, this is what you’re bringing to the table: grandma insults and thinking that kids must be fine as long as they are not visibly crying or upset. Wow.

It wasn’t intended as an insult, just an educated guess. Which I continue to believe is true.

Wow you’re the hysterical beeyitch I’m just stating the truth that is hitting too close to home for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biggest problem is that your spouse is dismissing your feelings about this. Being a parent means you have to set some boundaries, and being a co-parent means you have to negotiate those boundaries. His outright dismissal of your concern is the biggest problem here. It’s not about the video games. It’s about his inability to sit and talk this this through.

What makes you think the husband was more dismissive of the wife’s viewpoint than the other way around? Did she even try talking to her daughter to see if there was any reason to think there was a problem?

That's a great idea. Maybe when you talk to her, she will quote you one of these studies, since you think a 5yo can manage such a conversation.

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/whats-the-impact-of-media-violence-on-kids
https://www.evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/violence-media-affects-childrens-behavior/
https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1186998.pdf
https://theconversation.com/watching-violence-on-screens-makes-children-more-emotionally-distressed-106757
https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-TV-Violence-013.aspx
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-baby-scientist/201801/violent-media-and-aggressive-behavior-in-children

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd need to see the game to judge - my kids are 5 years apart, and the eldest has viewed violent movies in front of my youngest. Said youngest watched Jurassic World in 3D for her 4th birthday, and loved it.

But there is a line, and your husband has to respect your opinions and reach some sort of compromise with you on where that line is.

Have a dinosaur loving kid who saw Jurassic World at a young age and they were fine with it, probably because of the almost mythical nature of dinosaurs, but I know they wouldn't be okay with first person shooter games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biggest problem is that your spouse is dismissing your feelings about this. Being a parent means you have to set some boundaries, and being a co-parent means you have to negotiate those boundaries. His outright dismissal of your concern is the biggest problem here. It’s not about the video games. It’s about his inability to sit and talk this this through.

What makes you think the husband was more dismissive of the wife’s viewpoint than the other way around? Did she even try talking to her daughter to see if there was any reason to think there was a problem?

That's a great idea. Maybe when you talk to her, she will quote you one of these studies, since you think a 5yo can manage such a conversation.

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/whats-the-impact-of-media-violence-on-kids
https://www.evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/violence-media-affects-childrens-behavior/
https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1186998.pdf
https://theconversation.com/watching-violence-on-screens-makes-children-more-emotionally-distressed-106757
https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-TV-Violence-013.aspx
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-baby-scientist/201801/violent-media-and-aggressive-behavior-in-children

Ok, Tipper.

The rest of us know correlation is not causation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd need to see the game to judge - my kids are 5 years apart, and the eldest has viewed violent movies in front of my youngest. Said youngest watched Jurassic World in 3D for her 4th birthday, and loved it.

But there is a line, and your husband has to respect your opinions and reach some sort of compromise with you on where that line is.

Have a dinosaur loving kid who saw Jurassic World at a young age and they were fine with it, probably because of the almost mythical nature of dinosaurs, but I know they wouldn't be okay with first person shooter games.

Great, then don’t play first-person shooter games around them. But it sure sounds like the OP’s daughter is different. At least, she said nothing to indicate the daughter was not "okay" with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the kid. Does she seem upset by it? If not, it’s fine.

Tell me you’re not around children ever without saying you’re never around children.

Don't be ridiculous. Your kids aren't as fragile as you seem to think they are.

Or I should say your kids weren't, since I bet you're a grandma at this point.

Damn, this is what you’re bringing to the table: grandma insults and thinking that kids must be fine as long as they are not visibly crying or upset. Wow.

It wasn’t intended as an insult, just an educated guess. Which I continue to believe is true.

Wow you’re the hysterical beeyitch I’m just stating the truth that is hitting too close to home for you

Seriously- how old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd need to see the game to judge - my kids are 5 years apart, and the eldest has viewed violent movies in front of my youngest. Said youngest watched Jurassic World in 3D for her 4th birthday, and loved it.

But there is a line, and your husband has to respect your opinions and reach some sort of compromise with you on where that line is.

Have a dinosaur loving kid who saw Jurassic World at a young age and they were fine with it, probably because of the almost mythical nature of dinosaurs, but I know they wouldn't be okay with first person shooter games.

PP you replied to. It depends on the child, it depends on how the violence is explained, and most of all, it depends on the overall parenting in that home. Viewing first person shooters won't ruin a kid whose life is generally peaceful and whose parents care for and respect each other and their kids. Studies have shown that teens who became school shooters, for example, overwhelmingly had been neglected and lived in conflict-ridden households.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biggest problem is that your spouse is dismissing your feelings about this. Being a parent means you have to set some boundaries, and being a co-parent means you have to negotiate those boundaries. His outright dismissal of your concern is the biggest problem here. It’s not about the video games. It’s about his inability to sit and talk this this through.

What makes you think the husband was more dismissive of the wife’s viewpoint than the other way around? Did she even try talking to her daughter to see if there was any reason to think there was a problem?

That's a great idea. Maybe when you talk to her, she will quote you one of these studies, since you think a 5yo can manage such a conversation.

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/whats-the-impact-of-media-violence-on-kids
https://www.evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/violence-media-affects-childrens-behavior/
https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1186998.pdf
https://theconversation.com/watching-violence-on-screens-makes-children-more-emotionally-distressed-106757
https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-TV-Violence-013.aspx
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-baby-scientist/201801/violent-media-and-aggressive-behavior-in-children

Ok, Tipper.

The rest of us know correlation is not causation.

Fine Kim,
But lawyer talk doesn't always translate into child psychology, but like I said, I'm sure your kids have seen worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Playing video games would annoy me more than the violent content

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biggest problem is that your spouse is dismissing your feelings about this. Being a parent means you have to set some boundaries, and being a co-parent means you have to negotiate those boundaries. His outright dismissal of your concern is the biggest problem here. It’s not about the video games. It’s about his inability to sit and talk this this through.

What makes you think the husband was more dismissive of the wife’s viewpoint than the other way around? Did she even try talking to her daughter to see if there was any reason to think there was a problem?

That's a great idea. Maybe when you talk to her, she will quote you one of these studies, since you think a 5yo can manage such a conversation.

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/whats-the-impact-of-media-violence-on-kids
https://www.evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/violence-media-affects-childrens-behavior/
https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1186998.pdf
https://theconversation.com/watching-violence-on-screens-makes-children-more-emotionally-distressed-106757
https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-TV-Violence-013.aspx
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-baby-scientist/201801/violent-media-and-aggressive-behavior-in-children

Ok, Tipper.

The rest of us know correlation is not causation.

Fine Kim,
But lawyer talk doesn't always translate into child psychology, but like I said, I'm sure your kids have seen worse.

Try actually taking some psych and statistics classes before trying to pretend you know what you're talking about.