Teach your kids manners and while you're at it, have some yourselves!

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Anonymous wrote:I was astounded by the number of kids that were accompanied by their parents but still didn't say "trick or treat" or thank me for the huge handful of candy I gave them. Their parents were right next to them, and even they didn't say thank you!!!

My kids are on the high functioning end of the spectrum and getting them to approach the houses and ring the doorbells by themselves is already a milestone. We are the parents in the back saying trick or treat and thank you from the sidewalk. They are 3 and 8. Try not to judge.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Virtually none of the kids said "Trick or Treat," and only a few said thank you.

I asked my kids to say TOT and Thank you while I stood at the end of the driveway. Mostly they were too shy to do it. Most of the adults helped them out by saying Happy Halloween! and What a cute costume!

Sorry.

If your kids are old enough to walk up to the door, they are old enough to say "ToT" and "thank you."

For heaven's sake.

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I'm about as angry at the kids for being impolite as I am at you for giving them far too much candy.

Which means, zero.

Move on, OP.

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Our neighborhood had a ton of kids and almost all said trick or treat and thank you. Where do you live op?

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Anonymous wrote:Our neighborhood had a ton of kids and almost all said trick or treat and thank you. Where do you live op?

Same! I was struck by how polite everyone was. The older ones even stopped to have full conversations instead of grabbing and going. It was a nice surprise.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Virtually none of the kids said "Trick or Treat," and only a few said thank you.

I asked my kids to say TOT and Thank you while I stood at the end of the driveway. Mostly they were too shy to do it. Most of the adults helped them out by saying Happy Halloween! and What a cute costume!

Sorry.

If your kids are old enough to walk up to the door, they are old enough to say "ToT" and "thank you."

For heaven's sake.

And another disabilities basher.

For. Heaven's. Sake.

[Anonymous]

There are only a few Republicans on our block but they are by FAR the strictest about their kids' manners. Thank you notes get sent and you better believe they had to say thank you for the candy. OMG

[Anonymous]

You know, we had a group of first to third graders and weren’t paying a ton of attention. Realized they weren’t saying trick or treat, or thank you, so stopped them on the sidewalk to remind them, then prompted them if they forgot. But were definitely those rude kids for the first few blocks. Sorry neighbors, we’ll remember to give them the Halloween manners speech before sending them out next year

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Anonymous wrote:You know, we had a group of first to third graders and weren’t paying a ton of attention. Realized they weren’t saying trick or treat, or thank you, so stopped them on the sidewalk to remind them, then prompted them if they forgot. But were definitely those rude kids for the first few blocks. Sorry neighbors, we’ll remember to give them the Halloween manners speech before sending them out next year

Aw that's a nice response, PP, thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:You never know who has communication issues. Mine has mild selective mutism. I prepped her to say TOT and thank you. If I didn't remind her, she might not because of the excitement of the night. She did for most of the houses and I was very proud. But if someone asked her any further questions, she probably didn't respond.

My kid has selective mutism too. Last night he would only say trick or treat to me, not to the people handing out candy Therapist recommends that we don't speak for him or pressure him, but I did both of those things last night because of the judgment I knew we'd get from people like OP. It's a bummer.

My kid with ASD would often forget or was not able to say thank you when he was younger. I ALWAYS reminded him on the spot. At least you can speak for him and say "thank you." That's not pressuring, that's modeling.

Fast forward to now, he is 13 and was handing out candy. He himself was commenting on kids not saying thank you and grabbing handfuls of candy. He is very rigid about certain things and was getting wound up about it, but I told him to have grace and the spirit of Halloween was to have fun not to judge or count candy. His comment to me was "you always thought me to say "please" and "thank you." It's ingrained." It does stick with them so keep modeling good behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:A few didn't say trick or treat, but every kid last night said thank you. One little girl did a few twirls for me. A couple kids wanted to chat. It was a very sweet group, including the teens!

A couple of tweens showed up with capes, horns and a clipboard and tried to talk us into selling them our souls. That was a serious performance!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our neighborhood had a ton of kids and almost all said trick or treat and thank you. Where do you live op?

Same! I was struck by how polite everyone was. The older ones even stopped to have full conversations instead of grabbing and going. It was a nice surprise.

Similar. It was really neat how some of the older kids were really trying to connect. The offered compliments on our costumes and decorations. Lingered. A few asked where we got our supplies. Most said thank you and trick or treat. The younger ones were 50/50. Many were so crazed by the excitement they forgot. Most parents said thank you. We greeted everyone with a happy Halloween and big smile. That matters too.

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Anonymous wrote:A few didn't say trick or treat, but every kid last night said thank you. One little girl did a few twirls for me. A couple kids wanted to chat. It was a very sweet group, including the teens!

A couple of tweens showed up with capes, horns and a clipboard and tried to talk us into selling them our souls. That was a serious performance!

That’s amazing!!! I love it.

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Anonymous wrote:Every generation says this.

We for the last three years have had kids seeing crap adults spew. How in the world are they to understand how to treat others when literally the whole Republican party is screaming hate?

Big whoop they missed a few thank yous finally having some fun!

I forgive kids who are excited and don't have adults there to remind them, but lady, if you're standing their with your four year old, you sure as hell better be telling your kid to thank me for the candy I'm giving you.

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Anonymous wrote:Every generation says this.

We for the last three years have had kids seeing crap adults spew. How in the world are they to understand how to treat others when literally the whole Republican party is screaming hate?

Big whoop they missed a few thank yous finally having some fun!

I forgive kids who are excited and don't have adults there to remind them, but lady, if you're standing their with your four year old, you sure as hell better be telling your kid to thank me for the candy I'm giving you.

I typed too fast "standing there"