Can’t create enough space from a mean neighbor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be honest with the mom, and say, we need a king break from larlo as he’s been mean too many times, specifically recent incidents x and y. I would tell junior he needs to take a break from larlo until he can learn to be a better friend, stop sitting with him on the bus, etc.

I wouldn’t do this. It never goes well. Just avoid.

Except the other parents need to know about the more extreme behavior, someone should tell them about the physical aggression. The thing about the kid deliberately crushing other kids’ fingers rises to the level of telling the parents. Keep that brief and factual. Otherwise the parents might have no clue about the red flags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be honest with the mom, and say, we need a king break from larlo as he’s been mean too many times, specifically recent incidents x and y. I would tell junior he needs to take a break from larlo until he can learn to be a better friend, stop sitting with him on the bus, etc.

I wouldn’t do this. It never goes well. Just avoid.

Except the other parents need to know about the more extreme behavior, someone should tell them about the physical aggression. The thing about the kid deliberately crushing other kids’ fingers rises to the level of telling the parents. Keep that brief and factual. Otherwise the parents might have no clue about the red flags.

From OP’s original post “ some other parents told me that he’s hurt my son at school or practice, nothing major but something along the lines of put your finger here and crushed it.”

OP didn’t witness this and her kid won’t “tattle”, so it would be a stretch for OP to complain. But OP is wise to create distance because she has observed other concerning behavior.

[Anonymous]

Ha! My little brother had friends like this. Total dips. Well, I told them like it was and kicked them out of my house and pool when they forgot their manners. A lot of those behaviors rubbed off on my little brother and that was another matter, so something to think about. Now as a Mom, I will not let my child play with kids who are mean or bad or annoying. If she is the one who is behaving like that, we will apologize, leave immediately and she is on playdate probation. I refuse to tolerate those types of kids, even when it might come from my own at times.