Talk to me about Oakcrest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have never forced anything on her re political or religious views. We have always just given her the tools and support she needs. She did attend a Christian based after school care for a couple of years.

She is an incredibly independent, thoughtful and fun young woman. She will do well wherever she goes.

We trust her. She trusts herself.

She will be fine is she chooses Oakcrest and will get out of it a that she can.

Give her the tools to make sure she researches Opus Dei.

+1. Sounds like the parent doesn't want to learn. Read the reviews here on niche by current students. https://www.niche.com/k12/oakcrest-school-vienna-va/reviews/. We made the mistake of sending our religious but not Catholic boy to the Heights. He was viciously bullied. I rue the day we let Catholic schools into our life. There are also old threads here on both the Heights (brother school/opus dei) and on Oakcrest, which parents should read. There is also a video of female students talking about indoctrination at Oakcrest. It's in the old threads. Google DCUrbanmoms and Oakcrest. But read the comments on the Heights too because it's the same environment.

[Anonymous]

We know Opus Dei. I'm not sure what she/we should be afraid of?

Indoctrination? Handmaid's Tale culture?

Seriously, I am done with this . On both sides.

Our daughter will be just fine wherever she chooses. And we will be there to support her.

Try supporting your DC vs controlling the environment. It's much more satisfying and you can just enjoy being their parent. And they will respond better to you.

But you do you. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

The parents are somewhat powerful there.
A few years ago, a longtime dean left after imposing harsh penalties on the senior prankers. They weren't allowed to walk and that's huge for such small school. She didn't come back the next year.

[Anonymous]

As to me not wanting to learn, that's LOL.

You all are missing the point. I read the same arguments on the "woke" high school thread but from a different angle. You are either woke or you are maga.

And there is a thread for every kid who went to a public/private and wasn't happy. From all sides. So pointing me to a thread about how awful Oakcrest was is just a waste of time. Because if I want to find a thread about how awful Potomac, or SFS or Holton, Bullish etc was, it wouldn't take me a long.

But again, you all do you. This is/was sadly a waste of my time. Go back to doing what you do best. And best of luck to your DCs.

[Anonymous]

You are not required to go to daily mass. You can go to the library instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the website of this school says it is guided by the teachings of Opus Dei - this is essentially catholic fundamentalists - I am catholic and would not send my kids there but its a personal decision

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we are not a Catholic family, we are Christian. Not particularly conservative in the political sense (we believe anybody should be able to love whomever they want regardless of gender, for example) but we are conservative in how we are raising our children: very little technology, no dating before 16, dressing modestly, etc— point is, we have traditional Christian values for our children, which is why we are even considering Catholic schools. However I have heard some unnerving things about Oakcrest and a lot of the teachers beliefs that they push on students. Our daughter is hopeful to go to the school for middle school if not high school, so we are just trying to gather information now before we actually apply in future years. I would really appreciate hearing from currently enrolled (or graduates from the last few years) about your opinion of the school. Positives, negatives, anything in between greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Don’t you trust whatever you already heard? The school isn’t for you. End of story, or you’ve jumped on the catholic bashing train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As to me not wanting to learn, that's LOL.

You all are missing the point. I read the same arguments on the "woke" high school thread but from a different angle. You are either woke or you are maga.

And there is a thread for every kid who went to a public/private and wasn't happy. From all sides. So pointing me to a thread about how awful Oakcrest was is just a waste of time. Because if I want to find a thread about how awful Potomac, or SFS or Holton, Bullish etc was, it wouldn't take me a long.

But again, you all do you. This is/was sadly a waste of my time. Go back to doing what you do best. And best of luck to your DCs.

This was not a waste of your time. I appreciate you making the effort to respond and explaining how you are going through the process with your daughter. I feel the same way as far as our parenting philosophy, and I’m going to let my daughter lead and making this decision while also taking on board any opinions from current or recently graduated girls. Thanks again for sharing!
-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We know Opus Dei. I'm not sure what she/we should be afraid of?

Indoctrination? Handmaid's Tale culture?

Seriously, I am done with this . On both sides.

Our daughter will be just fine wherever she chooses. And we will be there to support her.

Try supporting your DC vs controlling the environment. It's much more satisfying and you can just enjoy being their parent. And they will respond better to you.

But you do you. Good luck.

You posted asking for opinions, people gave them, and now you’re mad/defensive saying your child will be fine whatever she chooses. What exactly was the purpose of your post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We know Opus Dei. I'm not sure what she/we should be afraid of?

Indoctrination? Handmaid's Tale culture?

Seriously, I am done with this . On both sides.

Our daughter will be just fine wherever she chooses. And we will be there to support her.

Try supporting your DC vs controlling the environment. It's much more satisfying and you can just enjoy being their parent. And they will respond better to you.

But you do you. Good luck.

You posted asking for opinions, people gave them, and now you’re mad/defensive saying your child will be fine whatever she chooses. What exactly was the purpose of your post?

The OP asked for opinions from currently enrolled students or recent graduates. The usual cadre of bashers and uneducated opiners chimed in. That was the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We know Opus Dei. I'm not sure what she/we should be afraid of?

Indoctrination? Handmaid's Tale culture?

Seriously, I am done with this . On both sides.

Our daughter will be just fine wherever she chooses. And we will be there to support her.

Try supporting your DC vs controlling the environment. It's much more satisfying and you can just enjoy being their parent. And they will respond better to you.

But you do you. Good luck.

You posted asking for opinions, people gave them, and now you’re mad/defensive saying your child will be fine whatever she chooses. What exactly was the purpose of your post?

I didn't write what you are quoting. All my posts have "-OP" at the end.
-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have never forced anything on her re political or religious views. We have always just given her the tools and support she needs. She did attend a Christian based after school care for a couple of years.

She is an incredibly independent, thoughtful and fun young woman. She will do well wherever she goes.

We trust her. She trusts herself.

She will be fine is she chooses Oakcrest and will get out of it a that she can.

Give her the tools to make sure she researches Opus Dei.

+1. Sounds like the parent doesn't want to learn. Read the reviews here on niche by current students. https://www.niche.com/k12/oakcrest-school-vienna-va/reviews/. We made the mistake of sending our religious but not Catholic boy to the Heights. He was viciously bullied. I rue the day we let Catholic schools into our life. There are also old threads here on both the Heights (brother school/opus dei) and on Oakcrest, which parents should read. There is also a video of female students talking about indoctrination at Oakcrest. It's in the old threads. Google DCUrbanmoms and Oakcrest. But read the comments on the Heights too because it's the same environment.

And now you're making the mistake of equating crazy outlier schools (my opinion of O and Heights) with "Catholic schools". I'm a Catholic-in-name-only and my kids have a perfectly lovely experience at our parish k-8.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have never forced anything on her re political or religious views. We have always just given her the tools and support she needs. She did attend a Christian based after school care for a couple of years.

She is an incredibly independent, thoughtful and fun young woman. She will do well wherever she goes.

We trust her. She trusts herself.

She will be fine is she chooses Oakcrest and will get out of it a that she can.

Give her the tools to make sure she researches Opus Dei.

+1. Sounds like the parent doesn't want to learn. Read the reviews here on niche by current students. https://www.niche.com/k12/oakcrest-school-vienna-va/reviews/. We made the mistake of sending our religious but not Catholic boy to the Heights. He was viciously bullied. I rue the day we let Catholic schools into our life. There are also old threads here on both the Heights (brother school/opus dei) and on Oakcrest, which parents should read. There is also a video of female students talking about indoctrination at Oakcrest. It's in the old threads. Google DCUrbanmoms and Oakcrest. But read the comments on the Heights too because it's the same environment.

can you please post a link to this video? I cannot find it. thanks,
-OP

[Anonymous]

We love Oakcrest but it sounds like it's not for you.

There are plenty of schools where you can get the "love whomever they want regardless of gender" acceptance of modern culture -- I daresay any non-Catholic school would fit the bill.

You'd probably be much happier elsewhere, and really Oakcrest is not looking for the drama of dissent with these woke political ideologies.

[Anonymous]

Former Oakcrest staff member and student here. The girls are mostly lovely and dedicated students. A lot of the education there is rigorous and students can be really exceptional and go on to excellent colleges.

It is intensely Catholic, but of a certain type. Much more anti-abortion than, say, welcoming the stranger. It will definitely not be a welcoming environment for someone who is LGBTQ or supports LGBTQ rights. It would mostly be clear that these views are wrong throughout the school community, although you will likely find a few (particularly older) students or families with these views. I know of a teacher who led her students in prayer for a certain political candidate to win. Humanities (literature and history) will also be much more classical in nature (a lot fewer non-western works or history than you'd find most elsewhere, including more mainstream Catholic schools).

While I have many positive memories, given where I am now in life I could never imagine going there or working there again.