Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?

[Anonymous]

The DCUM crowd is anti-athletic recruit. Many, many kids share this info upon commitment- they worked very hard, usually at school AND sport, and are excited. My DS knows plenty of kids who have announced commitments over the last 4-6 months.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to wait- if something doesn't work out, it will be embarrassing. Why do that?

[Anonymous]

Would it be worse to (1) wait until it’s a sure thing or (2) post now but possibly have to deal with the embarrassment of having to publicly walk it back?

[Anonymous]

When my DC got in HYPSM, they said they would like it to keep it confidential until May 1st. These early announcers create so much anxiety on other kids who get rejected/deferred. Have some decency.

[Anonymous]

It’s not your job to manage this for your kid. If it doesn’t work out he’ll learn a lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would it be worse to (1) wait until it’s a sure thing or (2) post now but possibly have to deal with the embarrassment of having to publicly walk it back?

This...since he probably won't listen to the other advice about it being sort of douche-y while everyone else is in the thick of it.

[Anonymous]

I have one friend whose kid was recruited and signed early and she bragged about it SO HARD on social media for the kid's entire senior year.

Well, it was a disaster. Kid dropped out of the sport, transferred schools and is on a totally different path now. It seems better, but it took a year to get there.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose coach/school posted the info about their kid over the summer. I don't know if they asked permission before posting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is an athletic recruit, applied ED to a high academic D3, and anticipates receiving a likely letter in the next few days. Should DS wait until the acceptance in December before putting it on social media?

There is no absolute right or wrong answer unless your student wants to continue with the recruiting process or unless your student has something bad in his or her background that may be revealed to the school by a jealous individual (something recreational drug usage or allegations of dishonesty--academic or otherwise or ???).

Coaching changes do occur and, until the deal is done, nothing is certain.

But, my impression is that most athletes do share the good news.

[Anonymous]

Parent of a athletic recruit at a HA D3. He waited for the ED decision to come. Then posted something like "furthering my academic and athletic career....." Mainly bc there were so many questions from parents/kids due to the sport (I know we all could just ignore them) plus it then got into the sport recruiting site and the coaches stopped reaching out. Good luck to your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose coach/school posted the info about their kid over the summer. I don't know if they asked permission before posting.

OP here. This. DS has clubs/coaches who will repost this stuff because, quite frankly, they can take some deserved credit....but the information will no longer be in DS's control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS is an athletic recruit, applied ED to a high academic D3, and anticipates receiving a likely letter in the next few days. Should DS wait until the acceptance in December before putting it on social media?

i'd have him tape it to his forehead.

the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose coach/school posted the info about their kid over the summer. I don't know if they asked permission before posting.

OP here. This. DS has clubs/coaches who will repost this stuff because, quite frankly, they can take some deserved credit....but the information will no longer be in DS's control.

I have three kids who were/are NESCAC recruited athletes. Definitely don't post before admission; as others have noted, sometimes things don't work out even after a likely letter. I've seen it (with a friend of one of my kids and it's ugly). And, to the extent that you can, please try to persuade your kid not to post at all.

[Anonymous]

I have one friend whose kid was recruited and signed early and she bragged about it SO HARD on social media for the kid's entire senior year.

Well, it was a disaster. Kid dropped out of the sport, transferred schools and is on a totally different path now. It seems better, but it took a year to get there

Tons of kids quit sport and transfer - why is this a disaster and what does it have to do with announcing the commitment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not your job to manage this for your kid. If it doesn’t work out he’ll learn a lesson.

I agree. It sounds like OP has already shared with her kid the potential downsides. It’s his decision.