Never married no kids couples

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know the woman wants to get married and have kids? I kind of doubt it.

+1. OP sounds like a judgy old fool. And what’s with her last sentence? Women are not trash to be “disposed” of.

OP seems like the type of nosy biddy who thinks everyone who has a lifestyle any different from hers is "weird". Something tells me she's not happy with same-sex couples, people who "only" have one or two children, or mixed race families.

She should try staying in her own lane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the woman wants to get married and have kids? I kind of doubt it.

Not OP, but my experience with these couples is that we split up by gender, and DH ends up talking with the man, while I end up talking to the woman. Her frustration with the relationship always comes up.

[Anonymous]

OP you seem to be making a lot of assumptions which may or may not be true. My DH and I are in our late 40's with no kids. We were together a long time before we got married which I know raised a lot of eyebrows. Honestly, marriage was not important to me-in fact, I was very hesitant to marry for various reasons. Before we married people who did not know us well often incorrectly assumed that I really wanted to get married and DH didn't because that's the common narrative.

It's weird how other people's choices about marriage and kids bother some people. There were family members of ours who seemed oddly relieved when we married. And we've definitely gotten they side eye from some people for not having kids. I'm hoping that for younger generations this isn't the case. But as a Gen X-er, it definitely has been for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you seem to be making a lot of assumptions which may or may not be true. My DH and I are in our late 40's with no kids. We were together a long time before we got married which I know raised a lot of eyebrows. Honestly, marriage was not important to me-in fact, I was very hesitant to marry for various reasons. Before we married people who did not know us well often incorrectly assumed that I really wanted to get married and DH didn't because that's the common narrative.

It's weird how other people's choices about marriage and kids bother some people. There were family members of ours who seemed oddly relieved when we married. And we've definitely gotten they side eye from some people for not having kids. I'm hoping that for younger generations this isn't the case. But as a Gen X-er, it definitely has been for me.

Sorry for the typo-I meant "the side eye" not "they side eye."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

Right? Wtf?! Having kids does not prevent cancer.

Actually, there is evidence that childbearing (and breastfeeding) lowers your risk for certain cancers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

Right? Wtf?! Having kids does not prevent cancer.

Actually, there is evidence that childbearing (and breastfeeding) lowers your risk for certain cancers.

But that's not 100% and it's completely inappropriate for pp to suggest not in the case she described.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

Right? Wtf?! Having kids does not prevent cancer.

Actually, there is evidence that childbearing (and breastfeeding) lowers your risk for certain cancers.

Not endometrial. You'd have to have over 10 children and breastfeed them all for 1+ years to lower the risk for this cancer.

[Anonymous]

I know TONS who got together after 40 and also women who come from money. They don't want kids and also don't want to share their inheritance. In some states like California, finances get messy even if the $ was prior to marriage.

[Anonymous]

I’ve heard it all. OP blames a woman’s cancer on a man for not knocking her up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

Right? Wtf?! Having kids does not prevent cancer.

Actually, there is evidence that childbearing (and breastfeeding) lowers your risk for certain cancers.

Not endometrial. You'd have to have over 10 children and breastfeed them all for 1+ years to lower the risk for this cancer.

Thank you for rebutting the PP’s ridiculous statement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

Right? Wtf?! Having kids does not prevent cancer.

Actually, there is evidence that childbearing (and breastfeeding) lowers your risk for certain cancers.

And it increases your risk for certain cancers. Women who are older than 30 when they give birth to their first child have a higher risk of breast cancer than women who have never given birth. Women who have recently given birth have a short-term increase in breast cancer risk that declines after about 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Don’t assume, OP. I have a pretty, feminine, not particularly career driven early 40s friend. She’s been with her SO since college. They are not married and are child free. She doesn’t value marriage and does not like or want children. Looking at her, one would probably think she wants a traditional life when that isn’t true at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard it all. OP blames a woman’s cancer on a man for not knocking her up.

stop trying to make fetch happen

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

Right? Wtf?! Having kids does not prevent cancer.

Pregnancy can actually accelerate cancer so she probably lived longer because she did not have kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

No actually if you don't use your parts, they are definitely more prone to certain cancers - ovarian etc. Totally true.