Never married no kids couples

[Anonymous]

I am in my mid forties, married with 3 kids. The vast majority of our friends and colleagues are married with children and a few divorced couples.

I met a few couples recently where the couple has been together for a long time (decade) and not married. Woman clearly wants marriage and children but probably now past childbearing age. In these situations, the guy seems to hold all the power and money.

Why would you stay so long with someone who won’t marry you?

I feel like the guy could dispose of these women at any moment.

[Anonymous]

How do you know the woman wants to get married and have kids? I kind of doubt it.

[Anonymous]

I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

[Anonymous]

I know a three women like this… Maybe they have low self esteem, feel like this is the best I can do and just settle. All three women are gorgeous, outgoing, friendly, caring, and not catty. All three are a catch, but are with the wrong man. 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Wait: the guy makes more of the money? Still, in 2022?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my mid forties, married with 3 kids. The vast majority of our friends and colleagues are married with children and a few divorced couples.

I met a few couples recently where the couple has been together for a long time (decade) and not married. Woman clearly wants marriage and children but probably now past childbearing age. In these situations, the guy seems to hold all the power and money.

Why would you stay so long with someone who won’t marry you?

I feel like the guy could dispose of these women at any moment.

Sunk cost fallacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my mid forties, married with 3 kids. The vast majority of our friends and colleagues are married with children and a few divorced couples.

I met a few couples recently where the couple has been together for a long time (decade) and not married. Woman clearly wants marriage and children but probably now past childbearing age. In these situations, the guy seems to hold all the power and money.

Why would you stay so long with someone who won’t marry you?

I feel like the guy could dispose of these women at any moment.

Attachment disorder?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my mid forties, married with 3 kids. The vast majority of our friends and colleagues are married with children and a few divorced couples.

I met a few couples recently where the couple has been together for a long time (decade) and not married. Woman clearly wants marriage and children but probably now past childbearing age. In these situations, the guy seems to hold all the power and money.

Why would you stay so long with someone who won’t marry you?

I feel like the guy could dispose of these women at any moment.

Women clearly wants marriage is your assumption or you know it for a fact?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in my mid forties, married with 3 kids. The vast majority of our friends and colleagues are married with children and a few divorced couples.

I met a few couples recently where the couple has been together for a long time (decade) and not married. Woman clearly wants marriage and children but probably now past childbearing age. In these situations, the guy seems to hold all the power and money.

Why would you stay so long with someone who won’t marry you?

I feel like the guy could dispose of these women at any moment.

Sunk cost fallacy

Yep. Assuming OP’s assumption about the women wanting marriage is correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the woman wants to get married and have kids? I kind of doubt it.

+1. OP sounds like a judgy old fool. And what’s with her last sentence? Women are not trash to be “disposed” of.

[Anonymous]

How do you know the woman wants marriage and kids? I know a couple like this (they're late 30s/early 40s) and the woman does not want marriage and kids.

The man is a higher earner on paper right now so people may assume this but the woman actually has very significant personal wealth and assets due to being an early employee of a well known tech company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the woman wants to get married and have kids? I kind of doubt it.

+1. OP sounds like a judgy old fool. And what’s with her last sentence? Women are not trash to be “disposed” of.

+1 seriously. I know more and more millennial couples in their early and mid-30s that don’t want kids. And a few in their late 30s who struggled with infertility and seem to be relatively happily adjusting to exciting travel / extended family focused lives as the cool aunt and uncle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

WTF? So you blame the husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know 2 couples like this.

One- the man finally proposed and married her at 43 after dating for 10 yrs. Too late for kids by that point, though there was some talk about adoption. Unfortunately she ended up dying just a couple years later of an aggressive uterine cancer that I speculate maybe could have been avoided had she had kids.

Two- the woman is super progressive and has no interest in marriage or kids.

Uh, what? This sounds like a looney tunes conclusion.

Right? Wtf?! Having kids does not prevent cancer.