Requesting class change kindergartener

[Anonymous]

Op, I've had to deal with all sorts of people I could barely stand to be in the same room with (and they've had to deal with me). This is part of life. It something criminal happened, talk to the principal, teacher and make them aware.
Otherwise, buck it up buttercup.

[Anonymous]

I have the solution for you: private school.

[Anonymous]

You know I would just try to frame things in a really respectful way and explain why a teacher change/classroom change would benefit your kid without insulting their current kindergarten teacher. It's really hard to give specific advice without the details.

That being said it's only been 2 days and you might need to give the teacher at least a week or two to get things sorted out. It's possible that the principal is not going to make a switch right away either for that reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the thread. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1078203.page

Op believe it or not this isn't an uncommon experience. Lawn mower mothers trying to control their children's friendships, stalking and gossiping. I have even seen one loon post passive aggressive posts on here about 1 my best friends DCs, I've heard of mothers go to the school administrstors and gossip about other peoples children, there have been mothers who called me over to meetings about nonsense ( that didnt happen ) on the playground, etc. Ive pulled my own dc out of an extracurricular to avoid one of these.

A teacher who has been around more than a few years will have seen this all before. The other mother is a specific type that teachers, friends, principals and coaches have seen before. They are typically the ones signing up for class mom to get in with the teacher, gossip and control.

Don't let her drive you into looking like the nutcase. They will see her for what she is. In the meantime, it sounds like the teacher separated the kids which is good. People like her are looking for drama so just act as pleasantly as you can and don't let her antagonize you into her crazy town. Just ignore and avoid. She will find a new target.

If you go to the principal and say "I want a teacher change because the other mother liked one of my posts" you will look like the crazy one. If she does anything that you can actually document, document and then go to the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have the solution for you: private school.

Do you just like troll The forum begging people to go to private school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those principals are idiots and I'd ignore that nonsense.

We've had some great teachers at MCPS (the vast majority in middle and high school were truly excellent) but my son's 1st grade teacher was typically absent, had dance parties for the kids once a week where they did no work, ignored my kid because she said he seemed ahead and there were lots of kids who needed to catch up and gave the same homework assignment every single week. She was useless. I regret not asking to switch. Instead we left MCPS for a few years for private school because that teacher really made it such a miserable year.

Children are entitled to an education and a hiring mistake should not mean my kid gets no instruction for a year.

Of course I'd phrase it differently than just "I don't like the teacher," We tell our kids that isn't grounds to switch. There must be a real issue that is going to prevent them from thriving that year. And thriving is important - it isn't just about survival.

I think if there is a bullying situation with other kids, it's an easy reason to switch. It's when you don't like the vibe from the teacher that the principal is going to ignore the request.

Nope. You aren't entitled to choose your teacher. You're entitled to an adult in the room who passed a criminal background check and nothing else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP posted in another thread about having conflict with another mom during summer camp and asking for the kids to be separated but theyb were still placed together

Oh, FFS, not her again. Grow up, OP. Your kid is not moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen it done multiple times, principals really don’t have as much say over this as you think. It goes best when approached calmly, assertively, with definitive reasons why it’s better for the child. Yes, sometimes they first say no, but a single strongly worded letter to the superintendent about the difficulty with the principal usually gets things moving. If not a legal letter always works. Squeaky wheel definitely gets the grease.

And here, folks, is Exhibit A for why we have a teacher shortage. How absolutely asinine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen it done multiple times, principals really don’t have as much say over this as you think. It goes best when approached calmly, assertively, with definitive reasons why it’s better for the child. Yes, sometimes they first say no, but a single strongly worded letter to the superintendent about the difficulty with the principal usually gets things moving. If not a legal letter always works. Squeaky wheel definitely gets the grease.

And here, folks, is Exhibit A for why we have a teacher shortage. How absolutely asinine.

I’m usually happy when a student gets moved if a parent wants it because in the meantime they’re usually insufferable. I think teacher switches being more available/easier to get would keep teachers not make them quit. I’ve rarely heard a complaint by the teachers about this because assuming the parents have a good reason, and majority do, it usually is better for the child. I think the principals are more difficult to deal with because they can create such a hassle around it and meanwhile everyone is miserable, so if a teacher were to quit it would more likely be due to uncompromising principals as opposed to concerned parents.

[Anonymous]

It just sounds like the OP and the other mom need more maturing, and the OP might be projecting her discomfort onto her kid. Teachers seem to have no problem seating students so they’re far away from each other, but it sounds like OP just doesn’t want to the awkwardness of dealing with the other mom. We all need to learn how to deal with people we’d rather not.

[Anonymous]

Let your kid learn how to deal with this situation. No class will ever be perfect.

If it’s a mom to mom issue, ignore her and let the school handle necessary meetings.

[Anonymous]

I think it also depends on your principal. Mine I know will not do this.

[Anonymous]

You can always ask and they can always say no so give it a try.

At our school the principal would not have allowed it. Except for only one time that I know of where the mother was so incredibly persistent. Squeaky wheel doesn’t even begin to describe it. There was shouting and yelling and lots of tears coming from the office. It was a spectacle and so uncomfortable. Finally, the mother got her way but everybody knew to stay away from her and it was incredibly unpleasant.

[Anonymous]

My kid had a teacher change relatively early during 1st grade-though not day 3 early. It was clear the first few weeks that his personality and her classroom style were a bad match and after trying some things that didn't work, we agreed on a classroom change. Sometimes it just isn't a good fit and a simple change can make a world of difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have the solution for you: private school.

Yeah if you think that private school isn't going to have really obnoxious people that are hard to get along with I have another thought coming.

I got bullied by a kid in private school for years and teachers did nothing because his family donated millions to the school