Why are Rich Men always sought after?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man.

I feel like this was in a Little Women quote by Amy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Patriarchy. For most of human history, women have not been permitted to acquire wealth, and so your best chance at survival was to marry a wealthy man. The cultural beliefs still persist - we raise girls on princess movies, which indoctrinates them early on that their value is based on the man they can attract.

I know for me, once I worked through these beliefs and learned how to become wealthy on my own, I lost all interest in rich men.

I am not a woman so I won't speak for you but isn't some of this evolutionary? Like, women are attracted to men with power and ambition for which money is a stand-in? Just as men are attracted to youth and fertility?

PP. I also happen to have a degree in biological anthropology

So the thing to keep in mind is:

1. Despite thousands of people doing it, sitting in a chair and thinking up what might be evolutionary advantageous is not science. You need actual data, not just what seems correct. Otherwise we'd all still think the world was flat.

2. Most data only looks at what are called WEIRD cultures (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic), which are actually the outlier when compared to world cultures and human history. For most of human history, we didn't have wealth - there was no way to acquire it and no need for it.

3. Most research is on white, Western college students age 18-21yo, because they are easily accessible by researchers. But clearly they don't represent a clear picture on all of humanity.

4. Most research until recently has been performed by white men, who are seeing data through their own biases. For example, it used to be "fact" that women had large glutes compared to other animals to be sexually appealing to men. Then science showed that, no, actually we have large glutes for bipedal walking, and sexual appeal is cultural.

When we look at other cultures, especially when they haven't been influenced by Western culture, we find very different data. For example, among hunter gatherers - which are generally accepted to be a more accurate representation of human history - both males and females rate the quality of "character" (being nice, kind, caring, an overall good person) as most important, and that males value "hard working" just as much as "beauty". That study also showed that only a small percentage of males rated "youth" as important. This is in direct contrast to what Western culture holds as the ideal partnership - a hunter gatherer male would have little use for a young, attractive female who refused to work and used up resources. Looking beautiful doesn't feed your children, and food is important in an environment where you're just a couple days away from starvation.

The takeaway is that what we are attracted to is most often cultural, and important for survival within that cultural. Which is really an overarching theme with humans - we rely far more on cultural adaptations than biological adaptations, which is what lead to our success as a species. BUT we can also change those cultural beliefs when they aren't serving us. Making my own wealth is far more beneficial for me and my children than trying to find a wealthy man.

[Anonymous]

Yachts. Vacation. Properties. Opportunities for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really see this.

My experience is that handsome, charismatic men have a lot of women around. Being rich isn’t enough if you are also socially awkward.

Lol no. Being rich is the most important thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really see this.

My experience is that handsome, charismatic men have a lot of women around. Being rich isn’t enough if you are also socially awkward.

Lol no. Being rich is the most important thing.

Are you a man or a woman?

[Anonymous]

My dad is quite wealthy and he is very sought after such that I’ve had women hope that I can assist in them meeting him. I doubt this would happen if he was poor. He’s also good looking so that helps.

[Anonymous]

"Why are Rich Men always sought after ?"

I now understand the concept of a rhetorical question.

[Anonymous]

Three things I learned during my long marriage:

1. Women love money.
2. Women are jealous of money other women seem to have access to.
3. Women love having money that they didn't have to work for, i.e. money they are "entitled to".

Three things I learned since being divorced:

1. Women love boats.
2. Women, including educated, professional women, in other countries love rich American men.
3. Young women will do almost anything to be around a guy who has money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why are Rich Men always sought after ?"

I now understand the concept of a rhetorical question.

Tomorrow's question: "Why is water wet?"

[Anonymous]

The wallet is the Most important bulge in a man’s pants!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wallet is the Most important bulge in a man’s pants!

As a woman, I can say this is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems like every rich guy willing to throw money around has a flock of beautiful women after him( regardless of his looks or age). Is this just a function of DC being a high cost of living area, or is it the case everywhere?

Just like there are men willing to sleep with any woman, not matter how messed up she is mentally or unattractive.

You are talking about people with no standards, in both cases. Or bad values.

Don't think confident women with self esteem wind up with these guys. Women who feel they have limited options do.

[Anonymous]

This has been true since the beginning of time. Life is easier when you have a lot of pocket change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three things I learned during my long marriage:

1. Women love money.
2. Women are jealous of money other women seem to have access to.
3. Women love having money that they didn't have to work for, i.e. money they are "entitled to".

Three things I learned since being divorced:

1. Women love boats.
2. Women, including educated, professional women, in other countries love rich American men.
3. Young women will do almost anything to be around a guy who has money.

As a woman - pretty much!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three things I learned during my long marriage:

1. Women love money.
2. Women are jealous of money other women seem to have access to.
3. Women love having money that they didn't have to work for, i.e. money they are "entitled to".

Three things I learned since being divorced:

1. Women love boats.
2. Women, including educated, professional women, in other countries love rich American men.
3. Young women will do almost anything to be around a guy who has money.

You said like you hang out with transactional people. Too bad you haven't met people of quality, but maybe you deserve each other.

1) I hate boats
2) Women from other countries love green cards, not rich american men.
2) I have had multi-millionaires and celebrities try to seduce and impress me, and it never worked. I choose my men based upon intelligence, character, looks/sex appeal, values and kindness.