My toddler is a screamer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Wow you had the one 18 month old who never screamed. Amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Wow you had the one 18 month old who never screamed. Amazing.

Not the way OP is describing. NP here and there’s clearly a problem here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Nanny of 25 years here - None of the kids I’ve worked with from newborn to toddler were screamers. We (the parents and I) nipped that in the bud right away. When you scream, you are ignored, and don’t get what you want. Screaming for what you want is learned behaviour, from positive reinforcement. I know DCUM hates nannies and thinks we are all morons, so go ahead and pile on, but no, not all 18 month olds are screamers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Wow you had the one 18 month old who never screamed. Amazing.

It’s not “one.” Just stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Wow you had the one 18 month old who never screamed. Amazing.

Your kids a screamer too I see

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Nanny of 25 years here - None of the kids I’ve worked with from newborn to toddler were screamers. We (the parents and I) nipped that in the bud right away. When you scream, you are ignored, and don’t get what you want. Screaming for what you want is learned behaviour, from positive reinforcement. I know DCUM hates nannies and thinks we are all morons, so go ahead and pile on, but no, not all 18 month olds are screamers.

They're not all screamers, but ignoring doesn't always work. Cool that it did for you. I'm guessing most of these toddlers you nannies for were not special needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Nanny of 25 years here - None of the kids I’ve worked with from newborn to toddler were screamers. We (the parents and I) nipped that in the bud right away. When you scream, you are ignored, and don’t get what you want. Screaming for what you want is learned behaviour, from positive reinforcement. I know DCUM hates nannies and thinks we are all morons, so go ahead and pile on, but no, not all 18 month olds are screamers.

They're not all screamers, but ignoring doesn't always work. Cool that it did for you. I'm guessing most of these toddlers you nannies for were not special needs.

Nannied

[Anonymous]

Mine was like that. He took a LOT of one on one attention from me to learn social rules. One time I got out of paying a library fine due to the screaming (I was trying to pay and the librarians said they take care of it as they shooed me out, lol). I’ve always thought my DS was on the spectrum a bit. In the end he grew up and is in a great post college career. The younger years were really rough though. Wishing you the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Nanny of 25 years here - None of the kids I’ve worked with from newborn to toddler were screamers. We (the parents and I) nipped that in the bud right away. When you scream, you are ignored, and don’t get what you want. Screaming for what you want is learned behaviour, from positive reinforcement. I know DCUM hates nannies and thinks we are all morons, so go ahead and pile on, but no, not all 18 month olds are screamers.

They're not all screamers, but ignoring doesn't always work. Cool that it did for you. I'm guessing most of these toddlers you nannies for were not special needs.

Nannies for boys with adhd and ignoring worked, but more effective is putting kids on a schedule and being very consistent. Kids thrive with a routine and boundaries. Anticipate their needs, so there’s no reason to scream.

[Anonymous]

*nannied

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Nanny of 25 years here - None of the kids I’ve worked with from newborn to toddler were screamers. We (the parents and I) nipped that in the bud right away. When you scream, you are ignored, and don’t get what you want. Screaming for what you want is learned behaviour, from positive reinforcement. I know DCUM hates nannies and thinks we are all morons, so go ahead and pile on, but no, not all 18 month olds are screamers.

It's not because you're a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about a 3-4 year old. My 3.5 year old is a screamer, it's HARD. 18 month olds are all screamers. They don't have the words to express themselves yet.

No, They are not.

Nanny of 25 years here - None of the kids I’ve worked with from newborn to toddler were screamers. We (the parents and I) nipped that in the bud right away. When you scream, you are ignored, and don’t get what you want. Screaming for what you want is learned behaviour, from positive reinforcement. I know DCUM hates nannies and thinks we are all morons, so go ahead and pile on, but no, not all 18 month olds are screamers.

It's not because you're a nanny.

Just stop. The woman has cared for probably 8 to 20 kids in 25 years so I think she’s got the right to her proud opinion.

That said, of course it isn’t all nurture. Toddlers on the autism spectrum do scream a lot and often seem unhappy. I think OP is right to be concerned.

[Anonymous]

Consider teaching him some sign language if he isn't talking yet.
It didn't really do anything for my daughter when she was a baby but when she was a toddler, it really bridged the communication gap.

This won't help with screaming necessarily or help you take this class (buy some of the same instruments for your house and use a youtube video instead of you need guidance) BUT it might make him a happier kid to communicate perhaps?