What do you do if your 19 YO DD hates you?

[Anonymous]

Well, that's how it read to me.

[Anonymous]

Do you have anything constructive to add to the discussion???

[Anonymous]

Yes. I think people should be clear in their posts. OP's post is vague. Most people in the situation would be clearer and say, A close relative of mine ... It's happened before on other threads and folks have responded in kind.

[Anonymous]

My guess is that with a parent(s) who are Type A, the 19 yo didn't get any attention (neglected), minimal emotional support while growing up, especially given her brighter siblings. Maybe she needs some therapy, go travel, find herself, and mature. Op can be there for emotional support.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a troll who purposely misrepresented a situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I think people should be clear in their posts. OP's post is vague. Most people in the situation would be clearer and say, A close relative of mine ... It's happened before on other threads and folks have responded in kind.

I agree because I thought it was her daughter, more importantly, why isn't her ACTUAL mother posting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know why she does this?

OP here. She is not my daughter, she is a close relative. She has genius siblings (valedictorian, phd, that kind of stuff) and a mom she describes as "neurotic". I think a lot of it is that even though she is perfectly competent at schooling, she is not a genius like her siblings and so rather than compete, she gave up. She doesn't want to be anal (and accomplished and degreed and professionally successful) like her mother. And yes I can see why she complains about her mother being "ridiculous" and "crazy" in her type A behaviors sometimes.

Add to that a dash of very selfish and really just doesn't seem to care that much about her family. She doesn't seem to love the rest of us as much as we love her, and one another. And yes her parents still give her money sometimes.

It's a very sad, disturbing situation. I think the only solution for her is military school, but there are concerns about sending her. She is ridiculously attractive (large breasts, pretty face) and the concerns are she would be a "target" at military school.
I am really afraid this girl is going to be just.... lost.

This is disturbing on several levels. First of all, I'm a "ridiculously attractive (large breasts, pretty face)" female military officer. Yes, they do exist. No, they are not "targeted". Secondly, what military school? The type of school you're thinking of is a high school. She's beyond that. The rest of them, the military service academies like West Point, US Naval Academy (Class of '94!!), etc, are elite universities, among the most prestigious and selective in the country. She won't be getting in there. I'm not sure what your point is with your references to "military schools", except that you clearly don't understand much about them or the military in general.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this is an ugly, flat-chested troll.