How to embrace a loss of a loved parent?

[Anonymous]

Thank you, PPs... -NP

[Anonymous]

I agree with other posters that 'embrace' really doesn't cover it. With the deaths of close family/friends, I either make peace with the fact that they're gone or find a new way to 'hold' them in my heart without pain. Grieving is tough and lasts for whatever amount of time you need to get through the pain of loss to a mental place that is less focused on loss and more focused on the person, the memories, what you learned from them, etc.

[Anonymous]

Thank you, everyone, for your posts. For taking the time to reply. For caring. I take away something from every post and I’m grateful for your advice.

Some stories are heart-breaking, and I wish that everyone finds peace - yes, it may take time - about their loved ones.

I will keep trying too. Our parents go at the time when we have no choice but keep it together for our own kids - their grandkids.

[Anonymous]

I think it is accepting what happened and being sad about it is part of life.
It seems you are doing that and find comfort in his fast pain free departure.

[Anonymous]

I lost my parent recently in a very sudden and unexpected way at 68. We were very close and I was devastated the first couple of weeks. Now, just a few months later I feel numb. I never cry and just tell the story of her death so matter of factly. Often times others cry as I tell the story but I just remain so stoic and blunt about it. This reaction really confuses me, as I was incredibly close to her and saw her almost daily, so it’s a huge loss.