Judgy friend- help me be direct

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Wow Megan, that's wildly judgmental of you. Georgia's never said anything cruel about you."

Op here. I like the simplicity and directness.

I’m sure she doesn’t think she is being mean or gossipy. She thinks she is being the concerned friend.

The weight stuff- she is diet obesessed and honestly I feel she’s had a negative impact on my other friend, with her own weight obsession and “helpful advice”. It’s a whole can of worms I’m not sure how to address.

The judgment on her lifestyle and parenting is just so off the wall the way I see it. I think the other friend is an amazing parent, and has done the best she could do given the dificulties they have faced. She’s just made different choices and has different priorities.

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to be friends with someone like this? Do better and get a new friend. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might validly be concerned.

You are validly not comfortable talking about it.

How does gossiping to other people behind the person’s back do anything to help the object of her “concern?”