I feel guilty not sending my kids to private

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Anonymous wrote:No, they have a better college admissions chance in public school, plus it gives me more than a decade more for compounding interest to work on my investments before I need to pay for college.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:We moved to McLean from Alexandria for their good public schools. It feels like everyone in our neighborhood sends their kids to private. It seems like the families who can afford private sent their kids to private during the pandemic if they weren’t already in private. We have a seven figure income and can easily afford private tuition.

Would you send your kid to private if you could easily afford it?

OMG just stop. My income is higher than yours I raised 6 kids that went to schools like MIT & Yale from public. We did both so I have samples at both.

No private school is not better than public for every kid.

Op every kid is different.

What type of private school? Religious? LOL no.

Stop bashing your local public you want to waste your money go ahead. If you want to go private have a better reason because the one you came up with is absurd.

Hey PP stop bashing "religous" schools. My kids did those Lol "religous "schools k-12 and are now at Princeton and Yale.

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Anonymous wrote:We moved to McLean from Alexandria for their good public schools. It feels like everyone in our neighborhood sends their kids to private. It seems like the families who can afford private sent their kids to private during the pandemic if they weren’t already in private. We have a seven figure income and can easily afford private tuition.

Would you send your kid to private if you could easily afford it?

You shouldn’t. Nobody gives f-.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry you found out the hard way that TONS of families in McLean send their kids to private school.

FWIW, we send one kid to public and one to private but we only send the one to private because he was not thriving in public. My default is public schools however I'm kind of glad we're almost done with the craziness that is now FCPS (our oldest is a rising senior). There is so much divisiveness now and so many people are trashing the teachers. I hate the current environment.

We moved to McLean with a preschool aged child and two kids in elementary. The vast majority of all our neighbors and kids from our preschool go private. Then at our elementary school, I noticed many of the public school students switched to private in 3rd and 7th grade. That does not include the kids who switched because of covid and did not come back.

The students who are left seem like those who can’t afford private school tuition.

I do have access to the Langley senior college admissions and they are fantastic this year. I don’t necessarily think my kids would get into a better college frlm a private school. I feel like the actual education would be better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We moved to McLean from Alexandria for their good public schools. It feels like everyone in our neighborhood sends their kids to private. It seems like the families who can afford private sent their kids to private during the pandemic if they weren’t already in private. We have a seven figure income and can easily afford private tuition.

Would you send your kid to private if you could easily afford it?

OMG just stop. My income is higher than yours I raised 6 kids that went to schools like MIT & Yale from public. We did both so I have samples at both.

No private school is not better than public for every kid.

Op every kid is different.

What type of private school? Religious? LOL no.

Stop bashing your local public you want to waste your money go ahead. If you want to go private have a better reason because the one you came up with is absurd.

I know the better schools are in DC. We would probably consider Potomac, Little Langley, Madeira, Holton Arms, Landon, Basis to name a few.

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Newsflash. Many rich people send their kids to private school.

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Anonymous wrote:For most kids, yes, I would pay for private for high school if you can find a good fit.

I would not do twelve years of private because those kids are usually completely out of touch with the world most people live in.

-Big three grad who went to public and private, whose kids are on public but we can’t afford it. Felt fine with public till high school and now I wish I could give my kids the private high school education I had.

If your Big 3 education was so awesome, how come it didn't position you to be able to pay for your own kids to go private?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We moved to McLean from Alexandria for their good public schools. It feels like everyone in our neighborhood sends their kids to private. It seems like the families who can afford private sent their kids to private during the pandemic if they weren’t already in private. We have a seven figure income and can easily afford private tuition.

Would you send your kid to private if you could easily afford it?

OMG just stop. My income is higher than yours I raised 6 kids that went to schools like MIT & Yale from public. We did both so I have samples at both.

No private school is not better than public for every kid.

Op every kid is different.

What type of private school? Religious? LOL no.

Stop bashing your local public you want to waste your money go ahead. If you want to go private have a better reason because the one you came up with is absurd.

Your personal experience does not serve as credentials for justifying your argument.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For most kids, yes, I would pay for private for high school if you can find a good fit.

I would not do twelve years of private because those kids are usually completely out of touch with the world most people live in.

-Big three grad who went to public and private, whose kids are on public but we can’t afford it. Felt fine with public till high school and now I wish I could give my kids the private high school education I had.

If your Big 3 education was so awesome, how come it didn't position you to be able to pay for your own kids to go private?

Here’s the flip side. Private schools coddle kids. They don’t learn how to advocate for themselves or look for resources because everything is handed to them. Who do you think has more drive or resilience?

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Anonymous wrote:No, they have a better college admissions chance in public school, plus it gives me more than a decade more for compounding interest to work on my investments before I need to pay for college.

Better college admissions from public? That’s new. St. albans must have some VERY successful affluent mostly caucasian students if they’re sending 20 to Yale and Chicago alone.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry you found out the hard way that TONS of families in McLean send their kids to private school.

FWIW, we send one kid to public and one to private but we only send the one to private because he was not thriving in public. My default is public schools however I'm kind of glad we're almost done with the craziness that is now FCPS (our oldest is a rising senior). There is so much divisiveness now and so many people are trashing the teachers. I hate the current environment.

We moved to McLean with a preschool aged child and two kids in elementary. The vast majority of all our neighbors and kids from our preschool go private. Then at our elementary school, I noticed many of the public school students switched to private in 3rd and 7th grade. That does not include the kids who switched because of covid and did not come back.

The students who are left seem like those who can’t afford private school tuition.

I do have access to the Langley senior college admissions and they are fantastic this year. I don’t necessarily think my kids would get into a better college frlm a private school. I feel like the actual education would be better.

I also have access to the Langley college matriculation list, and apart from a few athlete recruits that went to the high tier Ivys, it was nothing special. I feel like the more affluent public schools will always have a few more at the top than the lower tier public schools, but apart from that the bottom 75% of every public school in FCPS is the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We moved to McLean from Alexandria for their good public schools. It feels like everyone in our neighborhood sends their kids to private. It seems like the families who can afford private sent their kids to private during the pandemic if they weren’t already in private. We have a seven figure income and can easily afford private tuition.

Would you send your kid to private if you could easily afford it?

Yes, I would. We don't have a seven figure income, but we still make sacrifices to send our children to private school. We've experienced both FCPS and private school, and the difference is night and day. Education is an important value in our family. It seems to go without saying that people would send their children to "the best" university that they can, but they often overlook the critical younger years where education and social development are even more important.

For the record, both my wife and I went to public school and the thought of sending my children to private school never occurred to me until failure after failure with FCPS drove us away. We can never go back.

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No, I wouldn't. I don't like the elitist environment.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We moved to McLean from Alexandria for their good public schools. It feels like everyone in our neighborhood sends their kids to private. It seems like the families who can afford private sent their kids to private during the pandemic if they weren’t already in private. We have a seven figure income and can easily afford private tuition.

Would you send your kid to private if you could easily afford it?

Yes, I would. We don't have a seven figure income, but we still make sacrifices to send our children to private school. We've experienced both FCPS and private school, and the difference is night and day. Education is an important value in our family. It seems to go without saying that people would send their children to "the best" university that they can, but they often overlook the critical younger years where education and social development are even more important.

For the record, both my wife and I went to public school and the thought of sending my children to private school never occurred to me until failure after failure with FCPS drove us away. We can never go back.

Op here. Dh and I are also public school kids. We originally liked and wanted our children to go to school with kids like us when we were younger. They are doing well, get good grades, have been in the AAP program so have a solid peer group of smart UMC students and happy. That is why we have stayed in public. My kids are well liked and well behaved. I think they would do well in any environment.

If we didn’t have the youngest who started in preschool and friends all went to private, I probably would not feel as guilty since older kids have always been in public.

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Well, you moved somewhere to be around rich people because you thought they were better. Don’t be surprised that the people around you choose to put their kids with even richer people because they think they are even better.