What’s the likelihood that my daughter is gay? r/o

[Anonymous]

At that age, you can't predict, OP. I was pretty obsessive about my best friend, yet I am decidedly heterosexual. My daughter is like this too. She loves her best friend very much indeed, but it does not mean anything in terms of future orientation.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. My advice is the same as I would give to any parent - make sure that when you reference dating, relationships, etc., that your language is open to any gender/sexuality rather than locked into a certain expectation (eg, referring to her future husband). Give her space to feel secure in figuring out who she is without fear that her family will reject her if she isn’t “right.”

[Anonymous]

https://www.gayparentstobe.com/gay-parenting-blog

[Anonymous]

DD said when's he was in first grade that she had two crushes, one on a boy and one on a girl. When she was 12 she came out as gay, not bi. She's 14 now and I don't think she likes boys at all (except as friends). She is pretty stealthy about her romantic life but not as stealthy as she thinks she is and I know she has "dated" two girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At age 8 it is not a true sexual attraction so has no bearing on her adult attractions.

this. Crushes are not sexual attractions. 8 is too young to feel anything real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At age 8 it is not a true sexual attraction so has no bearing on her adult attractions.

this. Crushes are not sexual attractions. 8 is too young to feel anything real.

But sexual orientation isn't just about sexual attraction. There are also butterflies, excitement, etc. Not saying that a kid knows themselves at age 8, though.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry for this news, OP, but I read your post in detail and consulted my manual, and I am assassing an 87% probability of gayitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old daughter has recently started to tell me that she has a crush, and it’s one her little girl friends. She fully understands what it means to be lesbian/gay. I am just wondering at 8 years old, if she really knows that she is gay. I remember my first crush as well, which was a boy in kindergarten. I would ever admit at that age that I liked a particular boy, but even at 5 years old, I knew I liked boys.

Nope, she doesn't.

She's 8.

[Anonymous]

Gay and transgender is new thing for kids

[Anonymous]

8%

[Anonymous]

7.1 percent chance.
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/feb/17/lgbtq-americans-gallup-poll-survey

[Anonymous]

BFF knew he was gay at age 6 (I am a happily married, straight woman).

DD at age 4, wanted to marry her bff, Larla. DD is now an adult, and came out as gay as a teen.