S/o Do you harshly judge parents withOUT a lot of outside help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't judge you for that, but I do judge you for posting such inane nonsense. Wasn't the other post enough?

+1

Seriously!

[Anonymous]

The grass is always greener, OP. Just do you and enjoy the days it all comes together, whatever that looks like.

[Anonymous]

There are people who will judge everything! If this takes up real estate in your brain, you have much bigger problems.

[Anonymous]

I don’t judge you for being in that situation but I judge you for whining about it on the internet. I’m a widow making it all work with two young kids now for 2 years since my husband passed. It’s just life. Sometimes it ain’t easy.

[Anonymous]

I don't judge anyone for not having help or being on a tight budget, but it does seem like you could have done more research into costs. If you run for PTA Treasurer I won't vote for you unless nobody else is running.

[Anonymous]

It's not the lack of outside help, it's that you didn't do enough research. It's fine if people choose not to have outside help. But poor research and financial planning skills is the root of your problem, it seems.

I do judge people who bought more house or car than they can afford, especially if their house or car looks tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge you but the reality is we are probably not going to hang out much outside of occasional birthday parties. Families without help are always stressed on weekends. Those of us with help have time to do a lot of outings.

Why do you think I want to hang out with you? That's quite an assumption.

[Anonymous]

I can't get past the first page of this thread, esp. the PP who talked about how people don't plan for having kids. If only people who could afford nannies and housekeepers had kids, we'd have very few kids in the world right now. And I venture to say they'd all grow up to be insufferable snobs.

The people who have lots of help and think they planned so well are just lucky wealthy people. Don't give me your story of how you worked so hard and blah blah blah. There are a billion stories out there of people with hardships and choices you can't imagine in your little bubble. You are lucky. Thank the stars and enjoy your life, but don't preach to anyone else.

Another example of the snobbery of the wealthy and how they justify to themselves that they are "better" and "deserve" more money, more help, more whatever, because they "worked so hard" and "made the right choices".

Honestly, STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't get past the first page of this thread, esp. the PP who talked about how people don't plan for having kids. If only people who could afford nannies and housekeepers had kids, we'd have very few kids in the world right now. And I venture to say they'd all grow up to be insufferable snobs.

The people who have lots of help and think they planned so well are just lucky wealthy people. Don't give me your story of how you worked so hard and blah blah blah. There are a billion stories out there of people with hardships and choices you can't imagine in your little bubble. You are lucky. Thank the stars and enjoy your life, but don't preach to anyone else.

Another example of the snobbery of the wealthy and how they justify to themselves that they are "better" and "deserve" more money, more help, more whatever, because they "worked so hard" and "made the right choices".

Honestly, STFU.

Psst...you're no better than the people you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge you but the reality is we are probably not going to hang out much outside of occasional birthday parties. Families without help are always stressed on weekends. Those of us with help have time to do a lot of outings.

We are a “family without help” and we definitely aren’t stressed on weekends. We do plenty of outings. Frankly, the majority of DCUMland is comprised of “families without help.” Many of us are doing just fine. I’m able to work full time, help my kids with nightly homework, cook meals, clean the house, exercise, spend time doing leisurely things, etc. It is perfectly doable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t judge you but the reality is we are probably not going to hang out much outside of occasional birthday parties. Families without help are always stressed on weekends. Those of us with help have time to do a lot of outings.

We are a “family without help” and we definitely aren’t stressed on weekends. We do plenty of outings. Frankly, the majority of DCUMland is comprised of “families without help.” Many of us are doing just fine. I’m able to work full time, help my kids with nightly homework, cook meals, clean the house, exercise, spend time doing leisurely things, etc. It is perfectly doable.

Good for you! I wish more families were like yours? Too many are tired and stressed and homebound on weekends, with the exception of structured activities and birthday parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't judge you for that, but I do judge you for posting such inane nonsense. Wasn't the other post enough?

+ To infinity!

Frankly, OP, I don't waste my time on such nonsense because most of us are doing the best we can with the resources we have.

Get a life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't get past the first page of this thread, esp. the PP who talked about how people don't plan for having kids. If only people who could afford nannies and housekeepers had kids, we'd have very few kids in the world right now. And I venture to say they'd all grow up to be insufferable snobs.

The people who have lots of help and think they planned so well are just lucky wealthy people. Don't give me your story of how you worked so hard and blah blah blah. There are a billion stories out there of people with hardships and choices you can't imagine in your little bubble. You are lucky. Thank the stars and enjoy your life, but don't preach to anyone else.

Another example of the snobbery of the wealthy and how they justify to themselves that they are "better" and "deserve" more money, more help, more whatever, because they "worked so hard" and "made the right choices".

Honestly, STFU.

Psst...you're no better than the people you are talking about.

Your post makes no sense. Anyone who boasts about how they made all the right decisions and blah blah blah is an insufferable snob. No reason not to think it won't rub off on their kids. That's how this stuff gets perpetuated. My pointing it out is not snobby. It's an accurate observation.

Truth hurts, eh?

[Anonymous]

I judge the judgmental. Unless you’ve walked in a persons shoes, you have no idea what they are dealing with. Yo do t know why their kids are on screens, why they eat nuggets or ANYTHING else.

If a screen is the help a mom can afford, then I don’t blame her for using it.

Some of the PPs kids would be better off with more screen time along with more compassion.

[Anonymous]

I feel really bad for your friend's MIL. It would really suck to make someone dinner twice a week and be available to watch their child whenever they need you to, only to have them complain about how annoying and intrusive you are. Your friend needs to be nicer to her MIL.


I don't know about the rest of it. I assume that most people are doing their best.