When both parents have jobs where sudden days off aren’t feasible.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for all the responses. Neither DH nor I will leave our careers for ones with more flexible demands.

We’re going to go with a full-time nanny plus use back up care and MIL if nanny is sick. Two days a week we do have a housekeeper and I’m going to talk to her about possibly doing a little childcare if something catastrophic happens to nanny, backup care and MIL on the weeks where DH is away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am assuming nanny care plus a back up is our best bet, correct? My schedule is usually 8 to 3 while DH is working out of town 28 weeks a year (home every weekend). My MIL is also retired and lives a few streets away and it excited to care for the baby.

Who was your backup if nanny got sick? I don’t want to make my MIL our back up if she has plans.

Do you leave at 8 and home at 3?

Those are great hours, OP! I’m assuming you have a very short commute too!

[Anonymous]

I have not had good luck with bright horizons back up care

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all the responses. Neither DH nor I will leave our careers for ones with more flexible demands.

We’re going to go with a full-time nanny plus use back up care and MIL if nanny is sick. Two days a week we do have a housekeeper and I’m going to talk to her about possibly doing a little childcare if something catastrophic happens to nanny, backup care and MIL on the weeks where DH is away.

Ok no one cares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all the responses. Neither DH nor I will leave our careers for ones with more flexible demands.

We’re going to go with a full-time nanny plus use back up care and MIL if nanny is sick. Two days a week we do have a housekeeper and I’m going to talk to her about possibly doing a little childcare if something catastrophic happens to nanny, backup care and MIL on the weeks where DH is away.

Ok no one cares

Grow up, PP, and get a little life for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am assuming nanny care plus a back up is our best bet, correct? My schedule is usually 8 to 3 while DH is working out of town 28 weeks a year (home every weekend). My MIL is also retired and lives a few streets away and it excited to care for the baby.

Who was your backup if nanny got sick? I don’t want to make my MIL our back up if she has plans.

Your MIL should only be a true emergency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all the responses. Neither DH nor I will leave our careers for ones with more flexible demands.

We’re going to go with a full-time nanny plus use back up care and MIL if nanny is sick. Two days a week we do have a housekeeper and I’m going to talk to her about possibly doing a little childcare if something catastrophic happens to nanny, backup care and MIL on the weeks where DH is away.

Ok no one cares

Grow up, PP, and get a little life for yourself.

NP. No one does care.

[Anonymous]

OP- I run a local agency and provide back up care to my clients (to the extent possible). If you hire through an agency, they may also offer this and then you will already have an established relationship with the owner and seen several of their candidates throughout the interview process and should have an initial level of trust in anyone they would send you as back up.

[Anonymous]

What would you do if you got sick? My kids wanted their mom around when they were sick. Trying not to judge, but hopefully your employer can be understanding. Instead of coming up with backup childcare plans, figure out back up work plans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you got sick? My kids wanted their mom around when they were sick. Trying not to judge, but hopefully your employer can be understanding. Instead of coming up with backup childcare plans, figure out back up work plans.

Of course you are judging her (and assuming it's a her). No need for that. Yes, kids want mommy (and daddy) when they are sick, but they will be absolutely fine in the hands of a loving nanny or MIL. And, it's not like the OP will not be there for her (again, assuming) kids when they are sick; she just won't be there from 8-3.

[Anonymous]

I haven't used Bright Horizons since before the pandemic, but I did not find them to be very reliable for day-of issues. Often if something came up in the morning (sick nanny, preschool closure), I couldn't get someone there until 10am or so. They were okay for days where I could plan ahead (nanny vacation or something like that).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all the responses. Neither DH nor I will leave our careers for ones with more flexible demands.

We’re going to go with a full-time nanny plus use back up care and MIL if nanny is sick. Two days a week we do have a housekeeper and I’m going to talk to her about possibly doing a little childcare if something catastrophic happens to nanny, backup care and MIL on the weeks where DH is away.

Ok no one cares

Grow up, PP, and get a little life for yourself.

NP. No one does care.

So why read the thread? Seriously, I never understand comments like yours. Why do you force yourself to read something you don’t care about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you got sick? My kids wanted their mom around when they were sick. Trying not to judge, but hopefully your employer can be understanding. Instead of coming up with backup childcare plans, figure out back up work plans.

My kids are very comfortable with their loving nanny. Plus colds don’t require mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would you do if you got sick? My kids wanted their mom around when they were sick. Trying not to judge, but hopefully your employer can be understanding. Instead of coming up with backup childcare plans, figure out back up work plans.

Again, it’s not the flexible employer in jobs like these. It’s thinks like postponing your knee replacement because your surgeon’s kid had a cold and his nanny was sick or cancelling your flight because the pilot’s nanny had the flu.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all the responses. Neither DH nor I will leave our careers for ones with more flexible demands.

We’re going to go with a full-time nanny plus use back up care and MIL if nanny is sick. Two days a week we do have a housekeeper and I’m going to talk to her about possibly doing a little childcare if something catastrophic happens to nanny, backup care and MIL on the weeks where DH is away.

Ok no one cares

Grow up, PP, and get a little life for yourself.

NP. No one does care.

So why read the thread? Seriously, I never understand comments like yours. Why do you force yourself to read something you don’t care about?

The whining and complaining amuse me.