Bossy YOUNGER sister

[Anonymous]

I’m the oldest and this could apply to me. It’s a weird double dynamic. I was the last to get married, have kids, so they all seem to think I’m less competent than all of them (despite it going on 9 years now), and the other part is I always had a fantastic memory for facts, etc., and they hated that I often knew “the answer” in a discussion. Not even correcting them - just giving an answer when a question came up. They thought I was a know it all. Sorry for being …smart? Having a good memory (which is really what it was)? I did what a PP said, just started keeping my mouth shut and realizing they didn’t treat me with respect.

[Anonymous]

Haha! This will be my 2 daughter's. The younger DD is a narcissist, very demanding, gaslights, and is very stong-willed and the tiniest thing. My eldest DD is quiet, thoughtful and patient. But, man, can the younger one push her buttons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha, I am a younger sister and know my older sister thinks I can be bossy. But I learned very young if I didn't speak up she'd roll all over me so, perhaps you find yourself dealing with the monster of your own creation.

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[Anonymous]

My younger sister isn't particularly bossy, but she interrupts me (and other people) a lot. It is super annoying. We were recently interviewing people to help care for our mom and she couldn't even let the interviewees answer questions before jumping in to answer the questions herself. It was unreal and completely unhelpful. I've wondered if there is some kind of older/younger sister dynamic at play here. She definitely thinks she knows best in certain things so when it doesn't impact me I just let it slide because maybe I was the older sister who was always right because I was older. I mean I did learn to read before her simply because I was older. Who knows. Family relationships can be tricky and we've both had more than our fair share of challenges as kids (dysfunctional parents and family). She married and had kids first. I got a graduate degree and worked for a long time before becoming a SAHP. She is a DIY queen and definitely has some skills I don't. The opposite is true also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah but is she right?

I'm the youngest sibling. I get dismissed all the time. When I'm right (which is frequently) I know my siblings think I'm a know-it-all and condescending... which is really just a matter of perception because their default perception of me is "larla doesn't know what she's doing or talking about.' If I were the oldest sibling, I'd be "experienced" and "mature."

Kind of like confident, innovative women are "bossy" - but if they were men, they'd be thought of as leaders.

Wow. Thanks for being Exhibit A for what OP is talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My younger sister isn't particularly bossy, but she interrupts me (and other people) a lot. It is super annoying. We were recently interviewing people to help care for our mom and she couldn't even let the interviewees answer questions before jumping in to answer the questions herself. It was unreal and completely unhelpful. I've wondered if there is some kind of older/younger sister dynamic at play here. She definitely thinks she knows best in certain things so when it doesn't impact me I just let it slide because maybe I was the older sister who was always right because I was older. I mean I did learn to read before her simply because I was older. Who knows. Family relationships can be tricky and we've both had more than our fair share of challenges as kids (dysfunctional parents and family). She married and had kids first. I got a graduate degree and worked for a long time before becoming a SAHP. She is a DIY queen and definitely has some skills I don't. The opposite is true also.

My younger sister interrupts a lot too. I think what's happening with her is she sort of stops listening to what others are saying, starts thinking her own thoughts instead of listening, and then thinks of something to say and just says it because she no longer realizes someone else is talking. Usually she is apologetic if she realizes she interrupted, but not always.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My younger sister isn't particularly bossy, but she interrupts me (and other people) a lot. It is super annoying. We were recently interviewing people to help care for our mom and she couldn't even let the interviewees answer questions before jumping in to answer the questions herself. It was unreal and completely unhelpful. I've wondered if there is some kind of older/younger sister dynamic at play here. She definitely thinks she knows best in certain things so when it doesn't impact me I just let it slide because maybe I was the older sister who was always right because I was older. I mean I did learn to read before her simply because I was older. Who knows. Family relationships can be tricky and we've both had more than our fair share of challenges as kids (dysfunctional parents and family). She married and had kids first. I got a graduate degree and worked for a long time before becoming a SAHP. She is a DIY queen and definitely has some skills I don't. The opposite is true also.

If you speak in long paragraphs with no breaks, as you write, she’s used to fighting to get a word in edgewise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My younger sister isn't particularly bossy, but she interrupts me (and other people) a lot. It is super annoying. We were recently interviewing people to help care for our mom and she couldn't even let the interviewees answer questions before jumping in to answer the questions herself. It was unreal and completely unhelpful. I've wondered if there is some kind of older/younger sister dynamic at play here. She definitely thinks she knows best in certain things so when it doesn't impact me I just let it slide because maybe I was the older sister who was always right because I was older. I mean I did learn to read before her simply because I was older. Who knows. Family relationships can be tricky and we've both had more than our fair share of challenges as kids (dysfunctional parents and family). She married and had kids first. I got a graduate degree and worked for a long time before becoming a SAHP. She is a DIY queen and definitely has some skills I don't. The opposite is true also.

My younger sister interrupts a lot too. I think what's happening with her is she sort of stops listening to what others are saying, starts thinking her own thoughts instead of listening, and then thinks of something to say and just says it because she no longer realizes someone else is talking. Usually she is apologetic if she realizes she interrupted, but not always.

My sister is completely unaware that she interrupts. But it makes sense if she stops listening that she would have no idea she'd doing this! Ha ha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My younger sister isn't particularly bossy, but she interrupts me (and other people) a lot. It is super annoying. We were recently interviewing people to help care for our mom and she couldn't even let the interviewees answer questions before jumping in to answer the questions herself. It was unreal and completely unhelpful. I've wondered if there is some kind of older/younger sister dynamic at play here. She definitely thinks she knows best in certain things so when it doesn't impact me I just let it slide because maybe I was the older sister who was always right because I was older. I mean I did learn to read before her simply because I was older. Who knows. Family relationships can be tricky and we've both had more than our fair share of challenges as kids (dysfunctional parents and family). She married and had kids first. I got a graduate degree and worked for a long time before becoming a SAHP. She is a DIY queen and definitely has some skills I don't. The opposite is true also.

If you speak in long paragraphs with no breaks, as you write, she’s used to fighting to get a word in edgewise.

Was I supposed to post part of my story here to give anonymous strangest a chance to respond before finishing? Also, she interrupts other people too. Work on your reading comprehension.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My younger sister isn't particularly bossy, but she interrupts me (and other people) a lot. It is super annoying. We were recently interviewing people to help care for our mom and she couldn't even let the interviewees answer questions before jumping in to answer the questions herself. It was unreal and completely unhelpful. I've wondered if there is some kind of older/younger sister dynamic at play here. She definitely thinks she knows best in certain things so when it doesn't impact me I just let it slide because maybe I was the older sister who was always right because I was older. I mean I did learn to read before her simply because I was older. Who knows. Family relationships can be tricky and we've both had more than our fair share of challenges as kids (dysfunctional parents and family). She married and had kids first. I got a graduate degree and worked for a long time before becoming a SAHP. She is a DIY queen and definitely has some skills I don't. The opposite is true also.

If you speak in long paragraphs with no breaks, as you write, she’s used to fighting to get a word in edgewise.

Was I supposed to post part of my story here to give anonymous strangest a chance to respond before finishing? Also, she interrupts other people too. Work on your reading comprehension.

My goodness, use paragraph breaks. Instead of a block of text. These are basic writing skills most people learn in 3rd grade.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My younger sister isn't particularly bossy, but she interrupts me (and other people) a lot. It is super annoying. We were recently interviewing people to help care for our mom and she couldn't even let the interviewees answer questions before jumping in to answer the questions herself. It was unreal and completely unhelpful. I've wondered if there is some kind of older/younger sister dynamic at play here. She definitely thinks she knows best in certain things so when it doesn't impact me I just let it slide because maybe I was the older sister who was always right because I was older. I mean I did learn to read before her simply because I was older. Who knows. Family relationships can be tricky and we've both had more than our fair share of challenges as kids (dysfunctional parents and family). She married and had kids first. I got a graduate degree and worked for a long time before becoming a SAHP. She is a DIY queen and definitely has some skills I don't. The opposite is true also.

If you speak in long paragraphs with no breaks, as you write, she’s used to fighting to get a word in edgewise.

Was I supposed to post part of my story here to give anonymous strangest a chance to respond before finishing? Also, she interrupts other people too. Work on your reading comprehension.

My goodness, use paragraph breaks. Instead of a block of text. These are basic writing skills most people learn in 3rd grade.

LOL you haven't been reading DCUM long enough if you think this was long. Or maybe you're just the bossy writing police for today?