How much for a relative's wedding cash gift?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people ASK for cash, we only give $50. We will spend more on an actual gift.

It is the height of bad manners to request cash for a gift and I refuse to give cash.

Many couples just simply aren’t creating registries. That is not asking for cash, but savvy guests understand. You aren’t more noble because you registered for some $300 mixer, lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people ASK for cash, we only give $50. We will spend more on an actual gift.

Get with the times. People are getting married later in life and would rather have experiences than a pot they don’t need or some formal chins they will never use. If you accepted gifts at your wedding, you should celebrate others with gifts, too. And if they want experiences instead of junk, so be it. Honestly give nothing if you are so cheap you give $50.

They also have been working andsming good money and should be able to afford to pay for their own honeymoon . I give gifts, never cash.

We registered at Macy’s for just this type of guest and returned all gifts for store credit. We ended up getting a nice mattress and bed frame. But thanks for the “stock pot” you got us, Linda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people ASK for cash, we only give $50. We will spend more on an actual gift.

Why would you give them something useless over what they can actually use?

[Anonymous]

Why is there so much pearl-clutching over giving cash as a wedding gift? Is it cultural? I am Indian and we always give cash, with a small token gift like a silver item. But the cash was the main gift. I remember my parents carefully noting how much each person gifted at my siblings and my wedding so they could return an equivalent amount when they were invited to those families’ weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is there so much pearl-clutching over giving cash as a wedding gift? Is it cultural? I am Indian and we always give cash, with a small token gift like a silver item. But the cash was the main gift. I remember my parents carefully noting how much each person gifted at my siblings and my wedding so they could return an equivalent amount when they were invited to those families’ weddings.

I'm not pearl-clutching over the idea of giving a check for a wedding - I'm jewish and that's what my people do too. It's asking for money that's the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people ASK for cash, we only give $50. We will spend more on an actual gift.

Get with the times. People are getting married later in life and would rather have experiences than a pot they don’t need or some formal chins they will never use. If you accepted gifts at your wedding, you should celebrate others with gifts, too. And if they want experiences instead of junk, so be it. Honestly give nothing if you are so cheap you give $50.

They also have been working andsming good money and should be able to afford to pay for their own honeymoon . I give gifts, never cash.

We registered at Macy’s for just this type of guest and returned all gifts for store credit. We ended up getting a nice mattress and bed frame. But thanks for the “stock pot” you got us, Linda.

For people like you, I regift. So give it to Salvation Army.

[Anonymous]

Zero. You're not going to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

The tasteful thing for couples who don't need anything/only want cash is to put together a SMALL registry with a few simple gifts. Those will be bought quickly and when there's nothing left, people will give cash.

[Anonymous]

I give $100 based on my financial situation and number of relatives (in my large family, someone gets married or has a baby every year).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero. You're not going to the wedding.

I hope but the invitations keep coming.

[Anonymous]

I’d give $200, and I’m poor by DCUM standards (80k HHI, single mom).

[Anonymous]

Gave my niece $1000 in October last year.

[Anonymous]

$50 is not cheap. It’s a very thoughtful gift from an out of town guest.

Those of you that have the desire and means to give more are certainly welcome to do that, but stop ridiculing and being so damn condescending to those who don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gave my niece $1000 in October last year.

How nice of you. Between my spouse and I, we have thirty five nieces and nephews. $1,000 is simply not a realistic number. I think we’ve given around $200.

[Anonymous]

Eight years ago I want to say I received money or gifts ranging from $150 to $500 value from each of my aunts/uncles. $500 from the ones with whom I was closest or who were in the financial position to give more.