Playdate gone wrong?

[Anonymous]

There’s a troll in the dungeon!

[Anonymous]

Are you implying special needs are… contagious?

[Anonymous]

I think your best move is to focus on your son's behavior and consequences. And not blame the cousins.



It's a good lesson for him to learn that just because he sees bad behavior doesn't excuse him repeating.
And he may not be repeating it contrary to what DCUM believe children can exhibit poor behavior without influence.

Try to be more empathetic with your SIL and maybe monitor future playdates s bit better.

[Anonymous]

My son sometimes spend time with a sassy girl and then tried to sass us. We nip it in the bud. “ I know Laura talked rudely to her parents but that’s not a nice way to talk. Please ask nicely”.

You know, parenting.

Does parenting frighten you op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you implying special needs are… contagious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly frightened you?

The fact that one of the cousins hit his teacher.

This signals some unpredictability to me.

And how is that related to your son shouting rudely? Draw the line for me bc I don’t see it.

This child has some major behavioral issues.

He was playing with my son yesterday, at times aggressively. He also knocked over a vase, apparently by accident, and nearly threw a tantrum when he was told it was time to go home.

I noticed my son acting out and yelling after they left. He never yells at us, ever.

Your son was playing rambunctiously, likely in a way he's normally not allowed to do. He emulated behavior, and it's your job to make sure the boundaries stay in place, not cut off cousins.

[Anonymous]

As the mother of daughters, please start parenting your son in a way that he is responsible for his own actions and you don’t seek to blame others for the way he behaves. You son screamed in his fathers face— sounds like a your son problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got our son together with his two cousins who he hasn’t seen in a while.

After some pizza and cupcakes, they played together in a loud and rowdy way in our basement play area. No big deal.

My SIL told me that one of her sons is having severe behavioral issues, including hitting a teacher at school, going to detention and also saying violent language intending to harm himself.

Her other son recently was tested for autism but it was ruled out. However, he recently began taking ADHD medication that seems to be helping.

After they left, my son’s rowdy behavior continued and he screamed in my husband’s face when he told him to stop what he was doing and start getting ready for bed. My son never screams in anyone’s face.

Did these boys rub off on my son in a negative way and should I halt the play dates? Or should I chalk it up to just general boy rowdiness?

They are cousins so I can’t cut off their relationship and don’t intend to. But what I heard and saw tonight frightens me.

No. You teach him not to do that.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need to monitor play dates a bit more closely in the future. How old are the boys?
And yes, it might very well be that he emulated some of the rowdy behavior but that i still on your son, not the cousins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You fed them pizza and cupcakes and they were confined to the play area...next time funnel the pizza power and sugar rush outside.

As for the sassyness, eh, he imitated what he heard , but it doesn't mean it's permanent. Plus, he might have been tired and just overall grouchy and not himself.
Did you and dh tell him it's not acceptable? Not the tone to use? Remind him of house rules?
Let it go.

Reset button. Tomorrow is a new day.

“Sugar rush” is an outdated myth, granny.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/medical-myths-does-sugar-make-children-hyperactive#Sugar-and-hyperactivity-in-children

OK ageist. do you discriminate against others too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly frightened you?

The fact that one of the cousins hit his teacher.

This signals some unpredictability to me.

THEN OH MY JFC!!!! KEEP YOUR CHILD AWAY BECAUSE AUTISM AND ADHD SPREAD LIKE COOTIES. YOU AREN'T PANICKED ENOUGH OP.

PANIC NOW!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly frightened you?

The fact that one of the cousins hit his teacher.

This signals some unpredictability to me.

And how is that related to your son shouting rudely? Draw the line for me bc I don’t see it.

This child has some major behavioral issues.

He was playing with my son yesterday, at times aggressively. He also knocked over a vase, apparently by accident, and nearly threw a tantrum when he was told it was time to go home.

I noticed my son acting out and yelling after they left. He never yells at us, ever.

How old is your kid? Did you ask him what it was like to play w/the cousins? He could have just been riled up and exhausted, as well as thrown off kilter by the extra craziness of the cousin.

If the cousin was playing aggressively, were they supervised at all times?

[Anonymous]

Of course SN aren’t contagious. But bad behavior definitely is. Good news is it is short lived.

[Anonymous]

Don’t leave them alone to play on their own. Plan structured activities and monitor them better. Teach your own child that behavior is not appropriate regardless of how other people act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You fed them pizza and cupcakes and they were confined to the play area...next time funnel the pizza power and sugar rush outside.

As for the sassyness, eh, he imitated what he heard , but it doesn't mean it's permanent. Plus, he might have been tired and just overall grouchy and not himself.
Did you and dh tell him it's not acceptable? Not the tone to use? Remind him of house rules?
Let it go.

Reset button. Tomorrow is a new day.

“Sugar rush” is an outdated myth, granny.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/medical-myths-does-sugar-make-children-hyperactive#Sugar-and-hyperactivity-in-children

OK ageist. do you discriminate against others too?