Friend/acquaintance email/text response time

[Anonymous]

If it’s something time sensitive, very quickly. That would include a play date invitation. I wouldn’t leave that hanging. Otherwise, it could be 0-3 days. My friends do the same. But maybe we are responding to each other and that’s the groove we have gotten into.

[Anonymous]

I think 24 hours is a reasonable expectation. I keep my phone on silent 24/7. I am quicker to respond when I'm working b/c I have phone & email open on my desk. When I'm away from work (like recently spending 3 hours at a time with my kid in the pool) I might ignore my phone for several hours. And, like another poster, I'm asleep around 9 and don't respond to texts until after 9 a.m. unless it's a close friend I know is awake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know people are busy. I get it. So am I. But it takes my kids' classmates' parents FOREVER to respond to a simple e-mail or text regarding anything from school volunteering to kids' playdates, etc. I don't understand.

How long is reasonable?

For instance, a parent and I have been trying to set up a playdate for our kids and she'll write a message asking about a certain date, I'll respond a few minutes later that the date is good and propose a time. Then she doesn't respond until the next day??! just freakin respond. She is a SAHM.

She responds the next DAY and you have a problem with that?! Her SAHM matters not: she likely needed to check in with DH if it involved taking the kid to and from your house on a weekend. I always check in with my husband before confirming, even though we share a calendar. We do this because things “pop up” like maybe he saw a sign for a festival in our town for that weekend.

How long is reasonable? Well, a day to get back to you about plans is certainly reasonable. WTH? We don’t all stand around with our phones responding to every little ping and email right there and then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t respond to emails.

+1. I don’t give out my personal email to casual acquaintances. You want up to set a play date or ask me to volunteer? It’s called a text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually put my phone down and walk away from it for chunks of time.

I even leave it in rooms I’m not in. So weird, right?

Me, too. Then I walk back and see 20 “missed” texts from freakin’ group chats where the phone addicts have been going strong all damn day. Some of us like to live life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t respond to emails.

+1. I don’t give out my personal email to casual acquaintances. You want up to set a play date or ask me to volunteer? It’s called a text.

Giving your phone number seems like it is giving people more information than giving an email. I always thought that email was the way you keep new people at a distance before you give them your phone number.

[Anonymous]

24 hours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually put my phone down and walk away from it for chunks of time.

+1 I try to take real breaks from it, especially in the evening.

And sometimes my kid picks up my phone and the text or email shows as read when I never saw it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t respond to emails.

+1. I don’t give out my personal email to casual acquaintances. You want up to set a play date or ask me to volunteer? It’s called a text.

I don't understand this. To my mind, email is less personal and intrusive/immediate than text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t respond to emails.

???? What do you respond to?

[Anonymous]

As a SAHM I sure as FCUK hope people don't expect an immediate response from me because they assume I've nothing else going on.

SAHM is a job you ninny.

[Anonymous]

I'm a SAHM too and yes it is demanding but not in the same way that a job away from home would be in that as a SAHM, I do check my phone frequently throughout the day. I'm not just sitting on it all day of course but I grab it to check the time, see if I got a message from my spouse or a friend/family member, take a picture/video of my kid(s), look up a recipe, etc. And If I grab it and see that I have a text/e-mail, I respond!

I think it depends on what the text/e-mail is about but if it is to make play date plans, I typically respond right away. We had 2 years of our kids not being able to have play dates much so now that things are a bit more normal, I want them to have all those kinds of opportunities they can and I'm pretty good about responding quickly to ensure that happens!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know people are busy. I get it. So am I. But it takes my kids' classmates' parents FOREVER to respond to a simple e-mail or text regarding anything from school volunteering to kids' playdates, etc. I don't understand.

How long is reasonable?

For instance, a parent and I have been trying to set up a playdate for our kids and she'll write a message asking about a certain date, I'll respond a few minutes later that the date is good and propose a time. Then she doesn't respond until the next day??! just freakin respond. She is a SAHM.

Maybe people just don’t like you? If your post is reflective of your personality, I can see this.

[Anonymous]

I get it OP. It's annoying bc you know the other person is using their phone and just choosing not to respond. And you need a response for setting this stuff up. I find it annoying as well.

[Anonymous]

Is she trying to slow ghost you?